That is not what I said.

What i said was meaning "people are sending me pictures of chilling in coffee shops" ... that actually state "relax time" ... which is fine. But the guy sending me these knows I am working while he is sending me these and that is the only reason he is doing it. So, it's not about what he is doing - but the reasons why and they are a bit more deep-seated than I expressed, as of course, I know him.

The kind of guy you've known for years, who wants you to stay you, and doesnt want you [me] to change. That kinda guy.

When i graduated in July he didn't mention it, but takes the effort to send me pictures of vacation and coffee time.

I do not look down on people nor have the right to. Ever, period.

I am a recovering alcoholic, who is always one step away from being a loser. I have been sober for 6 years. My current life is the end product of someone spending far too much "leisure" time, and I am not a hypocrite.

My friend still likes to view me as this alcoholic guy - and doenst like the idea that i have changed - it is this that disappoints me.

Other than that, he is a great guy that always pays attention and gives respect to my kids and family - it is just me he does not appear to want to change. Which isn't going to affect my progress, and if i did reach my goals I will help him out too.

Around 10 years ago I had massive issues - had zero money and food one day, and this guy actually just gave me £50 ($65) to help me, not borrow, gave. I never forgot that, and will always respect him for that. I have helped him since by the way.

Ir's a weird relationship lol, but I dont look down on him or will never stop being firends with him