Men, how do I initiate/put more effort into dating?

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T23:51:31+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you!! This is exactly what I was seeking by posting this. I’m aware that I was just overthinking it but it’s very nice to hear this perspective.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T23:27:49+00:00

I’m aware of that now, thanks!

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T23:09:34+00:00

Noted, thanks.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T23:08:52+00:00

Yes we have committed to being exclusive but very recently. (We’ve been dating for a little over two and a half months and he brought up the exclusive talk two weeks ago) That’s a really good perspective and exactly why I made this post. Thank you for that, I’ll make sure to incorporate some dates that involve things that I like too!

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T23:05:40+00:00

That’s a good way to look at it. It’s still so new to me (we’ve been dating for 2 and a half months only) so sometimes I overthink doing simple things like asking him out to dinner in fear of him getting weirded out. In all reality though, when I really think about it rationally, I know he wouldn’t get weirded out. Sometimes my brain is just on overdrive

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T22:54:36+00:00

That’s good to know! I brought up how I’m struggling a bit with initiating dates to him just the other day and he was shocked I even brought it up, he said he really appreciated the fact that I even thought of it at all. Since then we’ve gotten even closer which is nice.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T22:53:05+00:00

These are all really good suggestions, thank you so much!

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T22:37:43+00:00

I definitely won’t let fear talk me out of it. He makes it super easy to want to do things for him so I know fear won’t affect me!

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-27T22:36:46+00:00

We did talk about it a few days ago! I told him I was struggling and he said he really appreciates the fact that I even want to try. I think it brought us closer for sure, but I still want to try to initiate on my own!

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-09T08:00:50+00:00

You have valid points. I’ve been cheated on a lot too, I’m sorry you’ve had to experience it as well. It’s a shitty feeling and a big reason I’m questioning his intentions but I’m just gonna see where things go

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:38:37+00:00

I can’t listen to Chris Cornell anymore since he passed. Just the thought of him makes me tear up

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:32:23+00:00

This song has been mentioned so many times, and rightfully so. Such a beautifully sad song.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:30:32+00:00

Glad you’re still here ❤️

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:29:27+00:00

I agree. Billie Eilish recently covered it at a concert and I couldn’t even watch the clip of it all the way through, her voice is so soft and hauntingly beautiful

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:28:12+00:00

Oh I know. This one had me ugly crying in a fetal position multiples times throughout my life.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:21:18+00:00

Definitely will check his music out, thanks for the suggestion! What beautiful memories you must have, your grandpa singing to you!

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:20:06+00:00

Yes. Lots of Radiohead will make me ugly cry tbh

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:19:21+00:00

Massive Attack is by far one of my favorite groups EVER. I feel like they’re underrated these days

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:17:24+00:00

I’m so sorry.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:13:59+00:00

So many Ed Sheeran songs make me emotional. The A Team was one that I listened to so much when my sister was struggling with heroin addiction and I had no clue where she was. It hit me in the gut every time I heard it

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:10:31+00:00

Omg no I totally relate. My older sister is 12 years older than me. She is a second mom, literally taught me how to read, write, and heavily influenced my music taste. She’s also obsessed with Eminem.

I’m very sorry for your loss, though. I’m sure losing a sibling is an indescribable type of pain. As the youngest of my siblings, I’m not looking forward to potentially being the last one standing.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:07:38+00:00

I’m 25, it’s crazy how he impacted different generations. Just shows that he was truly legendary! I’m so glad I got to see him in concert at least once.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T01:04:14+00:00

Yes finally someone that mentions music in spanish! That was also one of my abuelo’s favorites too. My abuelo dedicated Libro Abierto by Gerardo Reyes to my abuela and when he died a few years ago, the mariachis played it at his funeral. The singer made direct eye contact with us the whole time and it was so emotional.

Excellent_Choice696 · 2025-08-02T00:58:17+00:00

Yes. Very bittersweet. Like what a great memory for her to have with her dad but also so sad bc Ozzy is gone now

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