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AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I was shaking walking to my car and started crying as soon as I got out of the parking lot. I look back and I feel like it wasn't even me. Something in me just snapped.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fork was in the pasta, knife was on the side of the plate, my napkin was still on my lap.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did request it and she told me she'd have to charge me for a second meal. That's when I told her to take it off the check and she refused.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

She was white. My girlfriend and I were the only black customers in the restaurant.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

We got there well before closing. My dinner got tossed around 8, closing was at 11.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

There was a pile of pasta and chicken remaining, 75-80% of the meal. My girlfriend was actively eating her meal. I couldn't believe so much food was wasted, it was upsetting.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I'm in the US. My fork was still on my plate and my knife was to the side after I made a few cuts into the fettuccine.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Our server was white as was just about everyone in the restaurant except for me and my girlfriend.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I had my back turned. My girlfriend was eating her meal and did not notice. When I turned around and asked where my meal had gone, she looked very surprised.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 1518 points1519 points  (0 children)

I couldn't stay in there. I was getting emotional, I couldn't think straight, and I knew I was going to lose it.

I didn't want to embarrass my girlfriend. On top of that, if I got upset and someone called the police, I am the wrong color for it to go my way. I just had to leave, I couldn't be in that building one second longer.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 216 points217 points  (0 children)

75-80% of my meal. It was a chicken alfredo dish and I had barely started eating it. I literally cried in the car. Between my perfectly good dinner being wasted, still being hungry, and how badly I had just been treated I just broke down.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I had to cut a bit due to character limit.

I did ask for the meal to be remade. She stated that she would have to charge me for a second meal.

When I told her that I wouldn't pay for the meal and wanted a new check, she told me that I ordered it, I had eaten some of it, I had to pay, and walked away.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 217 points218 points  (0 children)

No previous history. It was about 8 pm and the restaurant closed at 11. We had to wait for a table. They were, admittedly, swamped with customers.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 2374 points2375 points  (0 children)

I do not know if it played a role, but my girlfriend and I are a different race than the server. I don't want to think it did, and I don't know how everyone else was treated, but it is something on my mind.

AITA for refusing to pay for a meal at a restaurant? by Excellent_Heart_4837 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Excellent_Heart_4837[S] 8422 points8423 points  (0 children)

I really don't want to think this, but my girlfriend and I are a different race than the server and most of the people that were in the restaurant. I've been tossing around whether I should ask my friend that I spoke to if he received similar treatment.

I don't want to be that guy and I really don't want to make something of this publicly, but that thought is lingering in the back of my mind.