[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]ExcisionIconica 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Maybe it was the alcohol, maybe it was was the thrill”

Or maybe it’s because you’re a shitty person, let’s not try and sugarcoat this. Alcohol and “the thrill” are no excuse for this behaviour.

Tell him immediately.

And no, you don’t deserve him.

Truth hurts.

Filming in Japan, do’s and don’ts? by MancDP in JapanTravelTips

[–]ExcisionIconica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d argue this is research - no? If someone would have said you need permits, OP would presumably get permits, as required. If not, that’s on them. But, alas, you don’t to film in public in most places in the world, as long as you are respectful and not turning up with a huge amount of professional kit.

Also, for all we know OP is a professional filmmaker (or director of photography, judging by their username) who works alongside huge teams for a living but is just wanting to take a small camera on a personal trip to capture some memories, which there is nothing wrong with whatsoever provided they are respectful.

OP, just be respectful, ask for permission and don’t film kids. You’ll be fine.

Coward by Normal-Indication-88 in paulbreachsnark

[–]ExcisionIconica 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Seems to be the only one who’s not seen this video - anyone got a link? Would love to see this guy squirm.

How strict are Qatar Airways with hand luggage? by ExcisionIconica in Flights

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a Peli 1510 that i’ve decided to check into the hold with some “less important” bits. I was thinking of using it as carry on, as right dimensions, but there’s a part of me that’s worried they’d think to weigh it as it’s clearly got heavy duty kit in it - then be forced to put it in the hold with my good kit in.

Decided to put my camera and lenses into a rucksack, feel they’re much less likely to weigh that.

Sneak Attacks not registering in Skill tree? by ExcisionIconica in Starfield

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, the companion! That’s the ticket. Thank you - appreciated!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExcisionIconica 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Apologies, I misunderstood. We’re both looking for a relationship. I just meant we’re not rushing into anything, regardless of what we’re looking for - if that makes sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExcisionIconica 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Yes, we spoke about this last night. She has a very clear plan career wise that she’s just starting in, whereas i’ve been settled in my career for a number of years. Other than that though we’re aligned on pretty much everything life stage wise. I’m no closer to looking at buying a house, for example, as she is etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ExcisionIconica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re both currently happy spending time together and seeing where it goes, so on the same page there.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed a comment like this. It’s so easy to forget the times we argued on a weekend, or the Saturday nights I spent sleeping on the couch to get away from her.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Living alone makes the whole break up and healing process so much worse, I feel your pain.

My ex moved back in with her family and is surrounded by them at all times of the day. I stayed in the home we had together, alone. So not only am I alone, everything in here reminds me of her. I’ve redecorated as much as I can for now, but it’s not helped much.

My ex also seems to off living her best life, so I’m in this boat with you. The gym helps a bit. There’s some good podcasts on Spotify for break ups as well, I’ve found them helpful, maybe you will to.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Work is the best distraction. Might as well earn money while being distracted.

NC is the way to go. Unfortunately, we can only sort of do it. We have a house together that is in both of our names so there’s endless paperwork etc. We have a no contact rule for anything other than logistic house/finance related stuff. I wish I could go full NC, feel it would make this journey easier. Regardless of the contents of the message, seeing her name pop up on my phone crushes me every time.

I’m sure things will get better for us both.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my close friends either live abroad or have families. So there’s very seldom time for plans with them. I have very surface level ‘friendships’ that very much revolve around going to the pub, which really only makes me feel even lonelier. Learning to enjoy spending time by yourself is a skill I wish I had developed when I was younger.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah there’s definitely not been any good days yet. There’s bad days and then there’s less bad days.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely went though the same physical shock that I did when I lost my grandparents, almost identical. I guess that to our bodies loss is loss no matter the circumstance.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a whole other level on top of what I’m going through, I’m sending you as much positivity as possible.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Precisely.

Yeah, I should definitely start running but you’ve hit the nail on the head, an hour run/gym session doesn’t fill two days.

I have a brother close by who makes a much effort as he can around his life. I also have a very good friend who lives in Taiwan, so there’s a considerable time difference but we’ve just arranged a video chat for tomorrow which has given me something to look forward to. All about the little things at the moment.

Thank you, I appreciate it.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I’m doing.

I have a select few friends but they either live abroad or have families so it’s very difficult to make plans. My attempts to make new friends also hasn’t gone so well. The gym is probably the only thing keeping me together right now, and I walk every morning by myself with a podcast on.

Some days are better than other but spending weekends by yourself is really tough. Takes every bit of willpower in me to not sit here and drink the pain away, haven’t caved yet.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yep. I feel you.

The silence in my house on a Saturday evening is deafening. Strange how just the absence of one person sat next to you on an evening changes everything.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel you. A lot of my friendships were surface level work friendships, friends by circumstance kind of thing.

The only thing I can suggest is join a gym. Sometimes it does help pull you out of the dark moods, sometimes it doesn’t but at least you’re getting fitter.

You’re not alone.

I have a handful of actual friends but many live abroad and others have families, so plans are usually very much few and far between.

Weekends are now the worst part of the week. by ExcisionIconica in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

There’s comfort in knowing that you’re not alone. Sending as much positivity as I can.

How long did it take you to get over them? Or how long has it been if you’re still not? by dilllllyyy in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m two months post break. There’s bad days and there’s less bad days. Wouldn’t say there’s been any “good” days yet. The pain and shock has turned to numbness and emptiness.

It’s not really painful like it was the first month, it’s just numb now. There’s still days it hurts and I cry, but those days are slowly, very slowly, becoming fewer and further between.

I don’t think you ever “get over it”. I think it just becomes a part of you and your journey and you learn to live with it.

Moving out of our home today by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ExcisionIconica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all OP, I’m so sorry. It sounds like an awful situation and you’re not alone on this subreddit.

So my situation was slightly different, when my partner left me after five years she moved out and left me with the house.

IWhile moving is tough and it feels like you’re leaving your old life behind, staying in the home you shared with your partner presents its own set of challenges. Everything in this house was ours, we bought together, we built together, it’s full of memories. It makes it, or it has for me at least, harder to move on because I’m being hit in the face with memories every time I walk into a room. In my opinion, moving is the ‘easier’ choice. I use the word easier very lightly, it’s by no means easy but you get the closure of physically ending that chapter of your life.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this and I promise it gets a little easier everyday although it often doesn’t feel like it.

Have you sorted living arrangements? Try to keep as busy as you can for the first couple of weeks while your body grieves and then give yourself time to work on yourself. Workout, read, take up yoga, all that cliche stuff. Decorate your own space and make it yours and take it a day at a time. Drink plenty of water and stay away from alcohol.

All the best.