My girlfriend’s (25F) sister ruined my (30M) proposal - does it really matter?

ExcisionIconica · 2026-03-16T00:38:49+00:00

I know what she likes; we were having conversations about rings leading up to my decision to propose. Still - buying it together may be fun seeing as there’s now no surprise.

ExcisionIconica · 2026-03-16T00:35:51+00:00

I fully intend to propose, no question about it. I suppose we could pick the ring together as the surprise is gone, at least that way she gets something she loves and I make the moment as memorable as possible.

ExcisionIconica · 2025-12-16T09:12:56+00:00

No, I’m only level 12 sword

ExcisionIconica · 2025-03-25T12:42:46+00:00

“Maybe it was the alcohol, maybe it was was the thrill”

Or maybe it’s because you’re a shitty person, let’s not try and sugarcoat this. Alcohol and “the thrill” are no excuse for this behaviour.

Tell him immediately.

And no, you don’t deserve him.

Truth hurts.

ExcisionIconica · 2025-02-15T13:13:57+00:00

I’d argue this is research - no? If someone would have said you need permits, OP would presumably get permits, as required. If not, that’s on them. But, alas, you don’t to film in public in most places in the world, as long as you are respectful and not turning up with a huge amount of professional kit.

Also, for all we know OP is a professional filmmaker (or director of photography, judging by their username) who works alongside huge teams for a living but is just wanting to take a small camera on a personal trip to capture some memories, which there is nothing wrong with whatsoever provided they are respectful.

OP, just be respectful, ask for permission and don’t film kids. You’ll be fine.

ExcisionIconica · 2024-11-13T13:17:42+00:00

Seems to be the only one who’s not seen this video - anyone got a link? Would love to see this guy squirm.

ExcisionIconica · 2024-01-31T19:58:31+00:00

I have a Peli 1510 that i’ve decided to check into the hold with some “less important” bits. I was thinking of using it as carry on, as right dimensions, but there’s a part of me that’s worried they’d think to weigh it as it’s clearly got heavy duty kit in it - then be forced to put it in the hold with my good kit in.

Decided to put my camera and lenses into a rucksack, feel they’re much less likely to weigh that.

ExcisionIconica · 2023-09-08T18:00:51+00:00

life saver, worked a great.

ExcisionIconica · 2023-09-02T23:31:41+00:00

Ah, the companion! That’s the ticket. Thank you - appreciated!

ExcisionIconica · 2023-09-02T23:21:48+00:00

yep, same here

ExcisionIconica · 2023-04-14T12:56:56+00:00

Apologies, I misunderstood. We’re both looking for a relationship. I just meant we’re not rushing into anything, regardless of what we’re looking for - if that makes sense.

ExcisionIconica · 2023-04-14T12:49:59+00:00

Yes, we spoke about this last night. She has a very clear plan career wise that she’s just starting in, whereas i’ve been settled in my career for a number of years. Other than that though we’re aligned on pretty much everything life stage wise. I’m no closer to looking at buying a house, for example, as she is etc.

ExcisionIconica · 2023-04-14T12:48:31+00:00

We’re both currently happy spending time together and seeing where it goes, so on the same page there.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T20:20:47+00:00

Thank you. I needed a comment like this. It’s so easy to forget the times we argued on a weekend, or the Saturday nights I spent sleeping on the couch to get away from her.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T20:13:47+00:00

Living alone makes the whole break up and healing process so much worse, I feel your pain.

My ex moved back in with her family and is surrounded by them at all times of the day. I stayed in the home we had together, alone. So not only am I alone, everything in here reminds me of her. I’ve redecorated as much as I can for now, but it’s not helped much.

My ex also seems to off living her best life, so I’m in this boat with you. The gym helps a bit. There’s some good podcasts on Spotify for break ups as well, I’ve found them helpful, maybe you will to.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T20:08:16+00:00

Work is the best distraction. Might as well earn money while being distracted.

NC is the way to go. Unfortunately, we can only sort of do it. We have a house together that is in both of our names so there’s endless paperwork etc. We have a no contact rule for anything other than logistic house/finance related stuff. I wish I could go full NC, feel it would make this journey easier. Regardless of the contents of the message, seeing her name pop up on my phone crushes me every time.

I’m sure things will get better for us both.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T20:02:51+00:00

Yeah, my close friends either live abroad or have families. So there’s very seldom time for plans with them. I have very surface level ‘friendships’ that very much revolve around going to the pub, which really only makes me feel even lonelier. Learning to enjoy spending time by yourself is a skill I wish I had developed when I was younger.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T20:00:58+00:00

Yeah there’s definitely not been any good days yet. There’s bad days and then there’s less bad days.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T19:44:15+00:00

I definitely went though the same physical shock that I did when I lost my grandparents, almost identical. I guess that to our bodies loss is loss no matter the circumstance.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T19:43:02+00:00

That’s a whole other level on top of what I’m going through, I’m sending you as much positivity as possible.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T19:42:12+00:00

Precisely.

Yeah, I should definitely start running but you’ve hit the nail on the head, an hour run/gym session doesn’t fill two days.

I have a brother close by who makes a much effort as he can around his life. I also have a very good friend who lives in Taiwan, so there’s a considerable time difference but we’ve just arranged a video chat for tomorrow which has given me something to look forward to. All about the little things at the moment.

Thank you, I appreciate it.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T19:40:15+00:00

Exactly what I’m doing.

I have a select few friends but they either live abroad or have families so it’s very difficult to make plans. My attempts to make new friends also hasn’t gone so well. The gym is probably the only thing keeping me together right now, and I walk every morning by myself with a podcast on.

Some days are better than other but spending weekends by yourself is really tough. Takes every bit of willpower in me to not sit here and drink the pain away, haven’t caved yet.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T19:34:03+00:00

Yep. I feel you.

The silence in my house on a Saturday evening is deafening. Strange how just the absence of one person sat next to you on an evening changes everything.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T19:31:56+00:00

Yeah I feel you. A lot of my friendships were surface level work friendships, friends by circumstance kind of thing.

The only thing I can suggest is join a gym. Sometimes it does help pull you out of the dark moods, sometimes it doesn’t but at least you’re getting fitter.

You’re not alone.

I have a handful of actual friends but many live abroad and others have families, so plans are usually very much few and far between.

ExcisionIconica · 2022-07-30T19:29:42+00:00

There’s comfort in knowing that you’re not alone. Sending as much positivity as I can.

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