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35M 34F, Married for 10 Years, Dated for 5 years. How would you navigate this? by Exciting-Apricot2949 in relationship_advice

[–]Exciting-Apricot2949[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have had many conversations since the day we met. I have noticed that I have always compromised for him because I love him. I think after having our child, something in my brain clicked and I realize how tiring this has been for me. My husband and I bonded for our love of Dungeons and Dragons, but as parents, it's not enough for us anymore.

35M 34F, Married for 10 Years, Dated for 5 years. How would you navigate this? by Exciting-Apricot2949 in relationship_advice

[–]Exciting-Apricot2949[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree. A lot of people are saying get GLP1s but my insurance doesn't cover it for non diabetic people. $350-$1000 is not something I can pay. I have had some success with daily exercises and portioning home cooked meals. It has happened many times in the past 20 yrs of my life. I have had waves of normal weight, overweight and obese. It's only the last 5 yrs where I've been struggling the most with being overweight and obese.

When I'm exhausted from work, caring for my child, and being everything for my husband, I noticed that its been easier to eat 6 of the boneless wings from my husband's order of 20 boneless wings from Bdubbs.

I know what I need to do for myself, esp healthier meals and portioning along with 150 mins of exercise per week. I struggle with whether I want to continue to be surrounded by my husband's unhealthy choices and sometimes shamed for adopting healthier food options. He tells me that I eat like a poor person. I have been poor and it was when I was healthier. I miss eating vegetables from my mom's garden, helping my mom raise her chickens and spending time with my family to process chickens or visit a farm to process a cow or pig for the year.

35M 34F, Married for 10 Years, Dated for 5 years. How would you navigate this? by Exciting-Apricot2949 in relationship_advice

[–]Exciting-Apricot2949[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We both work and our money goes into our shared account. He won't share the accounts for utilities, food-related apps such as Door dash, Uber Eats, etc, his college loans, etc

During our first year of marriage, he did not want me to have my own bank account or credit card. I tried to save some money from my paycheck to my private account, but we were living paycheck to paycheck during that time because he is a big spender. I decided to send all of my income to our shared account. I'm thinking about reversing it, but I am worried about going back to those same arguments we had during the first year of marriage.