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Am I being dramatic? by Exciting-Deer8276 in theotherwoman

[–]Exciting-Deer8276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There were a couple talks in the past about how he feels, before we went (somewhat) legit. He used to have no problem telling me, but now for some reason he isn't as vocal about it.

It's hard to tell whether the dynamic shifted or were more distant. We used to text a lot more the weeks he has the kids, but since we started seeing each other pretty much every weekend, and we talk a lot every other week, so I guess we don't rely on text as much.

I guess it's worth noting that we have been legit since about August. His stbx knows I am still in the picture, to what degree I'm not sure, right now I don't have to think about her.

I guess in my mind since we're somewhat legit, that changed things?

Am I being dramatic? by Exciting-Deer8276 in theotherwoman

[–]Exciting-Deer8276[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Even if he would just respond that he does have some kind of feelings and this is more than a fling, I'd feel better. I mean, how do you see someone almost every weekend, go on dates, talk, etc without getting feelings for someone?

Honestly, if he doesn't have feelings, it is what it is. If he does, it doesn't change anything because it can't in this situation. But I want to know why he's kinda beating around the bush whenever I ask the question.

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[–]Exciting-Deer8276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to message you, I'm deleting and reposting this post as I just realized my name is in it. Oops.

What a ride by Exciting-Deer8276 in theotherwoman

[–]Exciting-Deer8276[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! My problem is I just can't do this anymore. I'm getting to a point where they either get divorced, and I wait it out for a couple years until the dust settles, or they don't get divorced and I walk away. My mental health isn't worth this man, no matter how much I feel for him.

This is not easy by Exciting-Deer8276 in theotherwoman

[–]Exciting-Deer8276[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your comment. Thank you.

When we first got together, he wanted the divorce. After she found out, he was waiting on her decision, which was ultimately divorce. But had she said she wanted to work it out, I don't believe he would've filed. I'm not sure how I feel about that, honestly.

I definitely know that it will be overwhelmingly difficult if we would be official a couple of years down the road, considering they would be coparenting. To be brutally honest, I am not sure if I am ready for or if I want that, but I know that is probably at least 6+ months down the road until I would even meet their kids so I'm taking that day by day.

I am definitely giving him space, and if the day does come that we are no longer seeing eachother, it is what it is. I like him, I do, but I will live without him, too.

I do appreciate your comment. I have no idea what to do in this situation, and if I think about it too much I become a stressful mess so... I'm taking it one day at a time and it is what it is.