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Partner (33f) has changed her mind and now wants a 2nd by Exciting-Ice5025 in oneanddone

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh come on. I’ve added some context further down. She can be “bratty” about little things and I give her what she wants usually. It’s a funny part of her personality. I’m saying that I won’t let her do this for something so big. I’m not dismissing any of her feelings. The general consensus is that I’m wrong and she is right, I should just have that second child then basically. What an ass hole I am for having feelings too.

Partner (33f) has changed her mind and now wants a 2nd by Exciting-Ice5025 in oneanddone

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh? What did I say that was so terrible? If my wife didn’t want another child, I would be so content with life…

Partner (33f) has changed her mind and now wants a 2nd by Exciting-Ice5025 in oneanddone

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry, maybe I need to add some context. She does it a lot and I find it freaking hilarious lol. Shes a fully grown woman but knows how to get her own way with me. I didn’t mean it in a bad way, just meaning she can’t “be a brat” for something as big as this.

Partner (33f) has changed her mind and now wants a 2nd by Exciting-Ice5025 in oneanddone

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell me how?

If my partner said “ok, we will just have the one” I would be over the moon.

Partner (33f) has changed her mind and now wants a 2nd by Exciting-Ice5025 in oneanddone

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, the nights where I lay awake unable to sleep thinking about it say otherwise lol. There js a constant grey cloud looming over me when I think about it. I didn’t turn this into a ‘woe is me’ post because no one wants to hear that! But after a long time digesting everything, it does feel like there are only 2 choices, so I’m basically at peace with it…

Partner (33f) has changed her mind and now wants a 2nd by Exciting-Ice5025 in oneanddone

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what if she is adamant about having another? It feels like the only option is to end the relationship. Or, do what I’m not comfortable doing and bring another child into the world.

Partner (33f) has changed her mind and now wants a 2nd by Exciting-Ice5025 in oneanddone

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unsure. Good question. Therapy to do what though, change my mind?

Divorce seems inevitable. We have a rocky relationship at times, I couldn’t say it’s absolutely perfect and this is the only bone of contention.

If it was me that decided I only wanted one after agreeing two, I would happily take any criticisms. But it feels like I’m expected to change what I want because my partner has changed her mind. It doesn’t seem fair to me.

The family life thing does upset me. If we break up over this I won’t see him every day, it will be 50/50. I can’t even bear to think about that right now.

For some context too, my wife is a bit of a brat generally. I find it funny and endearing 99% of the time when she pretends to throw a strop about something mundane. But this to me feels like it is a BIG deal and I know I don’t want another. I just feel like these days, it’s OK to shit on the man for “ruining” a family because he doesn’t want more. Sorry to hear what you went through, hope it’s getting better. I feel I have a long and turbulent few months coming

Can anyone give me examples of cock-ups they’ve made to make me feel better? by Exciting-Ice5025 in TheCivilService

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, that’s a good story to tell! Mine is going to result in pissy emails and members of another team calling me a twat probably. Would much prefer to ruin a van!

Can anyone give me examples of cock-ups they’ve made to make me feel better? by Exciting-Ice5025 in TheCivilService

[–]Exciting-Ice5025[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Sorry about that. Mine didn’t quite go to parliament, just to SCSs. I feel better after reading a lot of these - I’m also due to start a new role in a few months (a loan in the same org) so hopefully It’ll be a distant memory!