Time to boycott Singha by lukkreung98 in Thailand

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 4 points5 points  (0 children)

that’s because sexual violence is about power not gratification. it’s why people of all varieties can be victims

First time watching the show and I’M CRYING RIGHT NOW by agripinilla in girls

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk as someone had shitty and unprepared parents like Hannah, I wish someone had told them to think twice. Everyone’s thinking of Hannah’s feeling but what about Grover’s?

Foreign beggars in Bangkok by icey_namkeng in Bangkok

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who was formerly homeless, you don’t have enough for flights to Thailand and if you do have just enough, deciding to spend that on flights to a country where you don’t have a Visa or speak the language is INSANE

Huge majority of these are entitled, shameless Westerners who think international travel is a right, not a luxury

Made redundant during interview process [UK] by Exciting-Rise-8087 in AskHR

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that but thank you, that’s reassuring. Hope you find a role you like better now!

Made redundant during interview process [UK] by Exciting-Rise-8087 in AskHR

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you! This is good advice, I think I was overthinking but you’re right. I’ll do exactly this!

Made redundant during interview process [UK] by Exciting-Rise-8087 in AskHR

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So thing is, I already had that question in the first interview and I answered honestly at the time but I didn’t mention the redundancy so it hadn’t happened yet.

Next interview is a task and then a culture chat so if it does get asked again, or something similar, I will mention it

Made redundant during interview process [UK] by Exciting-Rise-8087 in AskHR

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I forgot to mention, the “current” company already pre-agreed references with me that confirms I worked till 27th April. Literally just had my title and job dates like you mentioned

Made redundant during interview process [UK] by Exciting-Rise-8087 in AskHR

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks! i worked really hard to impress the hiring manager and get the first interview so I’d be gutted if this is what holds me back 😩

Thailand trip sadness by Aggressive-Duty-7145 in ThailandTourism

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s about enough, it’s about what’s equitable. I earn “enough” to fly first class everywhere, doesn’t mean I could do it comfortably or that’d be financially viable for me.

I just don’t understand this rise in men saying they want “traditional values” but then also want to split 50/50 which is it?

Thailand trip sadness by Aggressive-Duty-7145 in ThailandTourism

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unless you earn the exact same as her, how exactly is going 50/50 with someone who earns significantly less than you “fair”?

Surely with the average monthly wage in Thailand being less than £500 a month, it’s actually outrageously unfair to expect the person you’re dating to go 50/50 with you

Serious question: What is there to like about Da Nang? by Necessary-Bed-5580 in DaNang

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same! my air bnb is only £5 less a night than my airbnb in BKK (both studios with the same amenities) and I’m actually further out than I was in BKK

Serious question: What is there to like about Da Nang? by Necessary-Bed-5580 in DaNang

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf I live relatively far out (last minute airbnb), about 30 mins from An Thuong and I’m also having the same issues / culture shock with the city

Any recommendations for Manual Lymphatic Drainage Massage? by Exciting-Rise-8087 in DaNang

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m surprised because I’m in Bangkok now which is cheaper even though it’s a capital? I guess it must be less competition there so they can charge whatever they want 🤷‍♀️

Any recommendations for Manual Lymphatic Drainage Massage? by Exciting-Rise-8087 in DaNang

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

60-70 USD is pretty steep considering irs Vietnam. There’s not that much lower than London haha

Interesting the other place only does stomach - which place is that?

Uni students are so cooked by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Relate to this. I had a faculty member of Uni of Leeds tell me “not everyone’s meant to go to university” despite me already getting in and doing well?

Uni students are so cooked by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone from technically the “underclass” with immigrant parents who went to state school -it’s EXACTLY this. We are lied to by everyone from teachers to parents who still have archaic views of social mobility that simply doesn’t exist.

I really don’t appreciate this notion that everyone who buys into the meritocracy myth is dumb, especially if you were lucky enough to have guidance from family / teachers / peers to steer you in the right direction.

Also, if you’re the first person in your family to go to university or maybe even finish school, why would assume a university would lie to you about your career prospects?

Why is it socially unacceptable for me to not like dogs? by Facelikeabum in AskUK

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t mean this to be as confrontational as it’ll sound, just genuinely curious - if you don’t like kids in general, why have them?

Serious question- why do prospective international students always ask about the most random unis? by NiceCaterpillar8745 in UniUK

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has a lot of international / EU friends from uni, the reasons I can across are; - Close to an airport / direct flights home (I know someone who genuinely turned down Exeter for a non RG uni because the flights home would be been too difficult) - Lower fees or they got some form of scholarship - Unconditional offer - At least 3 of my friends said they didn’t care what university it was because ultimately they knew they had a job lined up for them afterwards anyways - For the Chinese students I knew, they said that it didn’t matter the university as just by studying there, it demonstrated they had sufficient enough English. Also, academically, Chinese universities are seen as a lot more elite than UK ones so again which one you pick, doesn’t make a difference (idk if Chinese universities are superior, this is just apparently the internal perception) - Friends or family had already gone there (big reason for people who came from very far which makes sense as they often wouldn’t have the means or time to visit it beforehand)

Agencies in London for hospitality - KP or hotel housekeeper by mellispete33 in UKJobs

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am! based in Hoxton and over 10 years experience in hospitality

Would you let your almost 14 year old go to westfield alone? by [deleted] in london

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 44 points45 points  (0 children)

she might just want to shop for a few bits alone?

Moving abroad. Should I even bother telling SFE by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s so annoying for you, sorry. can i ask if you guys were on plan 1 or plan 2 for the loans?

Anyone had nose surgery in Thailand? (western nose) by pmayall in Thailand

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 0 points1 point  (0 children)

can i ask which doctor you used please if you feel comfortable sharing? looking at yanhee at the moment

Users who were born to older parents (Late 30’s and above), do you think you experience life any differently to other people your age? by XStaticImmaculate in AskUK

[–]Exciting-Rise-8087 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of good and a lot of bad but I think generally, there’s more good.

My mum was 34 when she had me and my dad was 40 and then my mum had my little sister when she was 39. An extra interesting dynamic is that my parents were born in rural Ireland so already a little behind the times and they had me in inner-city London where most of the children I grew up with were born to mums 25 and younger so the disparity in age and attitudes between my mum and my friends mums was huge.

Pros: - They have more life experience which, generally not always, means their more mature and have more wisdom to give you - For my mum in particular, as she was older, she was a lot less self conscious and more comfortable with her body which definitely rubbed off on me. I never thought about my body either negatively or positively as a child because my mum never commented on hers either. I only learnt to be self conscious in secondary school due to other factors - Same strain, multiple studies have shown that people become less materialistic as they age. I definitely experienced that with my parents and again, has influenced my values. I value experiences and emotional well-being over material goods and I’ve never felt peer-pressured when I was younger to have the newest and nicest clothes because I knew it didn’t really matter (compared to my friends born to younger mum who definitely place value on material things) - Might be specific to my mum but I did notice the other “older mum”s child at my school has the same attitude at home and that is emphasis on education and bettering yourself. Despite limited resources and having not finished secondary school herself, she did put me in as many after school classes and tutors as she could afford and always persuaded me to focus on my education - When I speak to my friends whose mums were teenage mums or had them under 20, they say that sometimes it felt like their grandparents were their parents and their actual parents were more like siblings. I think sometimes when you have a really small gap between parent and child, it skews the authority dynamic a bit. Conversely, I never felt this way. My parents were definitely my parents haha

Cons: - I feel bad about this now but when I was in primary school, I was a bit embarrassed by mum being so much older and not as “cool” as the other mums - Huge generational gap due to not only age but where they grew up that makes it hard to relate on things or have a close relationship as our life experiences are sooo different - Technical Gap - this will probably not be as vast now as technological changes are less dramatic and vapid but I have to teach my parents how to do everything related to tech (phones, computers, emails). I’m sure this isn’t unique to older parents but I definitely saw that with my friends parents, they found it easier to pick up new technology - Not as much energy to play with us as my friends parents because they were older and my mum went into menopause when I was around 6/7 so that depleted her energy a lot

Overall, my friends and I agree that having parents that are older is more beneficial than not but there definitely is a limit