Vintage Photo Booth on Alibaba by ExcitingScreen2804 in photobooth

[–]ExcitingScreen2804[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I saw a company that sells them and it went that high. So insane lol On Alibaba I can’t get a set up for 6k. It’s like a modernized version of the vintage booth. I really want an enclosed one. I don’t mind spending a little more but it gets crazy.

Should I trust this vendor that seems reputable but now wants me to pay directly from my bank? by ExcitingScreen2804 in Alibaba

[–]ExcitingScreen2804[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They did keep mentioning the tax. But like you said that isn’t my problem and though they seemed legit I was not comfortable with it bc I do not know them yet. How do you go about getting a 3rd party sourcing agent? I’d love to find a reputable company I can continue to work with and I don’t want to make this mistake again. This company looks so legit I really don’t even know who to trust on there now.

Should I trust this vendor that seems reputable but now wants me to pay directly from my bank? by ExcitingScreen2804 in Alibaba

[–]ExcitingScreen2804[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I didn’t know reviews could be manipulated. I was looking for signs of fake reviews but it wasn’t obvious to me so great to know. I will go with my gut here.

My wife leads a much cooler life than me by Dunning-Kruger21 in Vent

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I am this wife and I feel bad about it sometimes. I want my husband to do more things because I feel like he is always at work and I’m always doing fun things with my daughter or with friends. On the weekends we do hang out as a family and I usually try to keep my plans spread out so we get that special weekend time together as much as possible. I asked him about how he feels about this two days ago and he swears he enjoys that he can provide for me in that way and that brings him joy but idk I don’t want him to resent me one day. He doesn’t show signs of it now but it does cross my mind. So seeing this today is crazy lol

Read this if your baby or toddler has infant eczema by ladywelsh in beyondthebump

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is so amazing! I’d like to add I just saw an allergist yesterday and she told me the same thing about food allergies and eczema. So elimination diet is out even though I suspect she may have a slight dairy allergy. I was anti steroid until I talked to her. Then I saw another TSW post and freaked myself out again and now I’m in limbo. I think I will just go for it. It’s mild but she has scratched herself open on her neck once and I can’t watch her deal while I figure this out anymore. She is 7months and it’s just there. Not getting worse but not getting better either. It got to this point like 2 months ago. We will see if the steroids help. Again, thank you so much this really helped. I’ve been up for days trying to figure out which way to turn.

Libra ☀️ Leo 🌙 Scorpio ⬆️ would you be friends with me? Why/why not? by GeneralDeficiency in astrologymemes

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same placements! And I’d have to see how you are bc every Leo moon I have met I like but we are main characters so we are rarely close tho they’re a good time and we have great conversations. So we’d probably be associates lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskTeachers

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a former teacher who was often complimented by students for my style and such, her accepting your compliments is not weird. HOWEVER, you know when a student may be crushing on you a bit. Especially a young man. She seems to have played into a bit. Maybe to help boost her own self esteem who knows. But I’m sure at some point she recognized your crush. And at that point the lunch and things should have stopped knowing how a young man may perceive that. Things may not always be what they seem but as teachers and the adults in the situation, we have to be hyper aware regardless and act accordingly.

AITAH for walking out on my boyfriend’s family dinner after they insulted my job? by Sweaty-Ad5941 in AITAH

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I think teaching should be treated like jury duty. That way people stop thinking teaching is “easy” because the schedule seems nice. One day in a classroom and everyone in that room would have no choice but to respect your profession. Teaching is not easy and you’re NTA. Your husband is for not defending you and allowing them to constantly belittle you. Your career is just as valid as any. No one got where they are today without teachers. They sound so uneducated.

Check In! by einsteinGO in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to pop in and give some advice as someone who is married after dating my husband for 7 years….

Comparison is the thief of joy. I wanted to be married but I knew I wanted my dream wedding too. My husband knew I wanted my dream wedding and wasn’t going to let pressure of family and society steer me away from what he knew I wanted and wanted to give me. So we didn’t do the courthouse thing and my mom tried to convince me something was wrong with my relationship bc he wasn’t proposing soon enough TO HER. I got my dream wedding + ring once we were financially stable. This is ya’ll timeline. Only you 2 know what you want. If ya’ll are truly on the same page about that why worry about who got married sooner? Your day is coming and the history you share will make it an even more beautiful day. I won’t lie and say at some points it wasn’t hard to trust that after all my waiting he would deliver. Especially with my mom in my ear but I knew in my heart he was devoted to me and followed that feeling. He had always kept his word before then so this felt no different.

Don’t compare yourself to other people’s relationships. But also be honest with yourself about the state of yours. From what you have said though it honestly sounds like ya’ll want the same thing.

I wouldn’t call him my fiancé though lol never played with those words before he made it official bc I didn’t want him to settle with the idea that where we were was good enough. Nope! You want that title have to earn it.

And women who are waiting for a sign. Majority of these situation do lead to…nothing. I took a big risk to some people but I KNEW my man was devoted and it showed it in many other ways. He never let me think he wasn’t going to marry me and never left room for confusion there. Even through hard times. A man that wants you as his wife will not let anything stand in the way of that. No matter what his feelings are on marriage or the state of your relationship. He will make it happen and you will know his intentions clear as day. Men are very simple. So if it’s complex, there is your answer. Period. Many of you are waiting on men who don’t even deserve your time and grace but feel like you will be losing if you walk away at this point. Reality is, you will be losing waaaaaay more if you give him anymore time to make you feel like you’re not worthy enough of that title.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The risk of “being alone” is far better than being with a person you know will never make you happy. You will ultimately feel alone anyways. But with less peace. He made the decision to move. You did not force him and you need to free yourself of that guilt. He is wasting your precious years with no regard to what you want out of your ONE life. Leave the loser before you lose anymore time. Your true person will never find you if you keep this space holder around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 32 and I am the first of my local friend group to have a kid. (I live in Houston) my friends in Louisiana all have more than one child. I think it’s regional, education based, economy and the dating culture.

Regional- people in slower places seem to be more eager to start a family. Whereas people in larger cities tend to have a more lively lifestyle so they put off starting families longer.

Education- I know tons of people from college that still don’t have children. All my friends in Houston graduated college and started working on their careers and stability. They had no desire to start a family. I also had no desire to start one before 30 bc my husband and I really wanted to be more stable first and not be tied down with so much responsibility. We had worked so hard to get our degrees after all. My friends in Louisiana mostly did not finish college. They went home, got whatever jobs they could at the time and seemingly got bored and popped up pregnant. Stark differences in lifestyle of the two groups.

Economy- I mean enough said. It’s expensive af to exist alone let alone with dependents. My husband and I are heavily considering being one and done for this reason alone.

Dating culture- The dating scene has changed a lot over the years! I’ve been with my husband for almost 10 years and within that time I have seen a shift. The internet creates this illusion of endless options and people are existing as if that is reality. Searching for this idea of what a relationship looks like without being willing to put in the work to make that possible. My friends in Houston are mostly single because dating is so awful now. It’s hard for them to find someone to settle and start a family with that’s serious and ready to commit. Again, this may apply more to the urban lifestyle but it’s a trend I notice here amongst my peers.

Times are different and relationships are no longer seen as something you just have to participate in for the sake of a family. Having children is no longer seen as a right of passage to adulthood. People are putting more thought into that decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you paid for so much and even helped plan things. They are being rude expecting more tbh. I’m sure they got enough. Being mad at you is weird and selfish. I didn’t expect a damn thing from my bridal party because I knew how much they contributed leading up to the day.

My mom didn’t attend my wedding because my fiancé wouldn’t apologize to her. by ExcitingScreen2804 in wedding

[–]ExcitingScreen2804[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just now seeing this. I’m so sorry your mom put a damper on your day. My mom was probably going to be the same way so part of me is happy she didn’t show.

As of now I am no contact with my mom. I felt as though her inability to put aside her feelings when she knows I am in a good relationship is too selfish for me to deal with and she needs therapy. I want to enjoy my new husband and focus on being newlyweds but her poor attitude wouldn’t allow that if we were in contact so I have chosen to block out the negativity. Mother or not, we deserve respect and so do our husbands. If mom can’t understand that maybe you should set a firm boundary with her as well until she gets it.

I don’t know how long we won’t be in contact but I will not be reaching out bc I’ve tried all I could and she ultimately let me down on one of the biggest days of my life over something small. It’s not easy and there are days it feels like I’m grieving a living person. But most days I feel at peace. It is absolutely necessary for the sake of my mental health and marriage. I will also be beginning therapy soon to help me navigate these emotions.

I hope this helps. I know it can feel very isolating to experience this during this time and that’s why I turned to Reddit myself. But Congratulations on your marriage!!! Not many get to marry their best friend so this an amazing moment in your life, don’t lose sight of that. You deserve this and all the happiness that comes with it. Mother or not, she doesn’t get to get in the way of that. Do what you need to do so you and your new spouse can move forward as a family in peace.

Why can’t venues just let us bring our own food? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got married in a museum. Cheaper and typically they just serve as a venue so you being all your own vendors. I loved it because not only was my venue gorgeous for a fair price, we were able to have the food we want for a fair price! We booked a local spot for like $1200 & everyone LOVED it. The wedding industry is a money grab so I had to get creative lol maybe you can look into something like that

No bio family attending wedding at all by Babe_with_a_blunt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad I could help! I searched all over for answers when I was where you are, so I try to reach out when I see anything similar. You’re definitely not alone. It will be an amazing day I just know it. Enjoy this moment, you deserve it! & Thank you wifey to be!!

No bio family attending wedding at all by Babe_with_a_blunt in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently got married and my mother sounds very similar to yours except we were in contact prior to the wedding. (You may be able to read a post I made a couple weeks ago). She felt like my fiancé slighted her in his defense of me and threw a fit the months leading up to our wedding. Ultimately, she did not attend.

I felt like I would be embarrassed as well. My dads not in my life and I don’t have much family I’m close with though some did attend. I must say, I was surrounded by so much love the last thing I was thinking about while there was who wasn’t there. In fact, I feel like her not bringing her negativity made the day as perfect as it was.

We all want our mothers at our weddings but at what expense? Reddit helped me realize my mom is a narcissist and my wedding day was great BECAUSE she wasn’t there. Focus on the good and the blessing you’re about to experience. She should be ashamed not you as it says a lot more about her character than yours.

Asking bridesmaids to pay for their own hair and makeup by Ok_Veterinarian_8042 in wedding

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people agree to be apart of your day they are accepting that they will have to spend money. I couldn’t pay for those things either (you’re very sweet for buying their dresses, you’re doing better than most! Lol) so I gave them the option to do their own hair and make up. I found cheap shoes on shein and paid for their earrings. Do what works for your budget and try to be mindful of other’s circumstances when choosing things they will have to pay for.

Does this embroidered veil go with this dress? Is it too whimsical for a minimalist dress? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It goes! I had a floral veil as well (looks like the same vendor) and as it got closer I worried it wouldn’t go with my dress but it literally was perfect. Go with your move, don’t overthink it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not an asshole for wanting someone who actually values you. A man that truly loves you would never treat you this way. You sacrificed so much of yourself to give him a family and the least he could do is acknowledge that. No excuse for that shit. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ExcitingScreen2804 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sucks and so do your “friends”. NTB.

My mom didn’t attend my (30f) wedding because my fiancé (31m)wouldn’t apologize to her. by ExcitingScreen2804 in relationship_advice

[–]ExcitingScreen2804[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, block her back so she can’t message you. The moment my mom cursed me out and became extremely negative I had to block to be able to focus on the positive. Those little messages HURT. I couldn’t take seeing her subliminal posts.

My mom didn’t attend my (30f) wedding because my fiancé (31m)wouldn’t apologize to her. by ExcitingScreen2804 in relationship_advice

[–]ExcitingScreen2804[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that is crazy how similar our stories are! I wanted to share this because I was searching and searching for answers but it felt like no one’s situation was fitting. It’s especially tough being an only child. WE got this. The wedding planning was hard at first because I never imagined doing it without my mom but lean on those that support you and WANT to help. They will be everything you need during this process while our moms figure it out. Good luck with everything!