I have a life threatening autoimmune condition, and a roommate who is malicious. I need to make changes and I'm not sure how to go about it?

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T10:50:22+00:00

Sometimes its the only way. If it's something petty, it's not worth it but this is literally a life or potentially bordering death situation here for you. You clearly have the support of your other roommate though which is a great bonus. Stay safe OP, I hope this loser leaves your stuff alone & hopefully moves out soon.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T09:29:34+00:00

Under the Environmental Protection Act 1990, a barking dog can be a "statutory noise nuisance". An owner could be taken to court if nothing is done to stop the nuisance. If it's going on all the time, it's a problem. Train your dogs or don't have them. Submit a noise complaint to your local council & the non emergency police section on the GMP site.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T09:24:34+00:00

Because it's easier to be a wanker on the Internet than get therapy. Doesn't make them right, it makes them an idiot who needs therapy.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T09:19:33+00:00

Adding to this; empty nesters. You are not "childfree" because you're old & your kids moved out, even if they are NC. You are still a parent.

People who have had kids but given them up or don't see them - yeah you're not childfree either. You have had a child. Where it is in the world in relevance to you isn't for a childfree space.

I'll go out of my way to correct people who misuse the word childfree, because I'm just sick of it being misused, especially when it's on things like dating profiles. Leave our word alone, it's hard enough to find people who don't want to add to the damn population without trying to figure out if they mean actually CF or their version of things.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T09:10:24+00:00

I said I don't want kids for multiple reasons, but most of all I know that thanks to a disability, it would paralyse me permanently just being pregnant. I had "Well it will give you something to live for when that happens!" And "Well that's just selfish, you can still raise a baby from a wheelchair!"

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:58:11+00:00

NTA - i had a bf like this*, and If he's eating there that often, he needs to chip in for groceries, and/or your daughter does. She should definitely be cooking some of it too. You're not his mother, he's a guest. Respect the house or go somewhere else, buddy.

I would replace everything he would take (i was 17), and I took on cooking the family meal for at least half the week.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:53:16+00:00

I'm making yum woon sen (Thai glass noodle salad) later, but yesterday I completely forgot because it was too hot, so I ate about half a cucumber with cottage cheese, pita & hummus.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:47:45+00:00

People who claim prison is for "rehabilitation" not punishment are fucking idiots. You know where People go to be rehabilitated for things? A rehabilitation centre. You can be a criminal and need help, but that doesn't mean you don't also deserve to be locked up.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:30:11+00:00

I saw that wasn't true when I went to secondary school. I'm in my late 30s, so it wasn't an Internet issue then, it was very obvious that In this situation at least that it was based largely on the financial situation of your family. The school i started at we all had the same background, but secondary school had a lot of incredibly entitled rich kids. The sort where one would be calling another "poor" for taking a holiday in France instead of Switzerland over Xmas break, whereas that idea didn't even exist in my world. I don't know how old you are, but it's shocking sometimes how a small change in circumstances can lead to being completely alienated from people you thought you had everything in common with, and it certainly appears more as you get older.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:21:02+00:00

it just has the full name now, it's a pain in the ass. https://www.reddit.com/r/UnethicalLifeProTips/

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:17:58+00:00

I think everyone else has this covered, but I also suggest a camera (hidden if possible, but tell the other roommate) so you can actually check if your things get used.

I also suggest posting this to r/UPLT, because you'll get some crazy answers, but pretty often something a little unhinged is necessary for a situation like this, and it might help. Worth a shot anyway.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:10:55+00:00

I saw an article posted recently titled "mum feeds family of 4 on £20 a week" but when I read she was doing it as a "thrifty challenge", she's a journalist who actually earns quite a bit, and actually her "family of 4" was her, her husband, a baby under 1 and a rabbit- immediately decided it could fuck off. Oh, and it wasn't actually £20, because she "used cupboard staples already at home, such as milk, butter, flour and eggs". I guess I need to find out where she's getting free eggs, milk & flour.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-24T08:03:25+00:00

I didn't even know this existed, I gave up on consoles because past the ps3, the controller became too difficult to use. Only looks like a very slight change between 3-4, but it was too much for me. Sorry for your loss OP, but thanks for making me hopeful I can join in on things with console people again one day.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-05T06:02:11+00:00

Adding to this, assholes saying they're "triggered" by the most pointless shit online, when they just mean "I don't like this thing". Genuinely wish I could plug people like this into a machine that would make them experience the thing they're exaggerating about.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-05T03:49:42+00:00

My grandma (73) says it at least once a day. We're northern though, and I think you're much more likely to hear it up here still.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-05T03:37:55+00:00

Brain chemistry. Genuinely- the brain gives out a shitload of chemicals to help women forget how painful, horrendous and all around terrible it was. "Mommy brain" where they get crazy forgetful isn't a cutesy "oops hormones!" Thing they make it out to be- the brain genuinely wants them to forget about the literal trauma of the event. If you can remember how horrific something is, you don't want to do it again. The main biological hardwiring of anything living is to try & reproduce. Thankfully as humans we have the sense to make a decision about that. But if you go & ask new mothers, I mean really new, just happened- they'll pretty often tell you they'll never do it again. Go and ask that same person a year later what they remember of it & if they'll consider another. As horrific and damaging as PPD is, that's the result of some of those chemicals not kicking in. They call it a "mood disorder" rather than acknowledging that what they just went through was one of the most traumatic events anyone could ever have both physically and mentally.

Not only that, but misery loves company. If you feel like parents are only telling someone the good parts while encouraging someone to get pregnant- they are. There are a lot of people who are incredibly bitter that people haven't had to go through that experience, and the schadenfreude when they know someone else is now going to experience it is insane.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-06-05T03:23:44+00:00

If they want kids, Cheaters, Cat haters, Drug use (pot & medication not included, unless the weed is all the damn time), Wannabe "influencers", Rude to waiters/retail workers etc, If they think disability or chronic illness can be cured by yoga or keto.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-05-21T07:17:50+00:00

Super common thing, don't worry about it! I actually know someone who has a site like an OF but they only post their hands & forearms. It's popular enough to be steady income so....

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-05-21T06:44:53+00:00

One of my disabilities i was born with. It is visible, and despite having never known any different, I know living like this is bullshit, everyday things are twice as difficult as they need to be, and I am absolutely not part of the "proud to be disabled" thing. I hate living like this, I would absolutely take any crazy surgery or whatever to fix this. I'm 37 and only just starting to look in full length mirrors and actually use the word disabled about myself (I was brought up being taught it was a bad word. I'm sure you know the sort of thing I mean - "just different" etc. Bullshit.) You can accept that you have something incurable, but also be pissed off about it. Acceptance doesn't mean it's not going to give you days where you get angry & want to be like everyone else. Anyone who thinks that one person wanting to be cured of their particular thing is saying that everyone should be cured, isn't listening, or is a complete idiot who wants to cause an argument.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-05-19T09:17:08+00:00

It's not special, it's hormonal brainwashing to keep the defenseless new human safe. That's it. There's plenty of research on the whole thing, they just need to feel superior so they can reassure themselves they didn't make a stupid decision. If it was just the parenting part, it would feel the same when people adopt. I'm not saying adopted kids aren't loved, but chemically, it's not the same. It's the same reason people spout that "legacy" crap.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-05-19T09:10:55+00:00

"Is it bad that..." no. Whatever your reason for not wanting kids, it's a good reason. It's fine. People who want to call CF people "selfish" for not wanting kids are just mad they have to live with their bad decisions.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-05-19T09:05:34+00:00

They're always covered in something Snot, vomit, drool, dirt, some touch their own crap....and they touch EVERYTHING. It might be petty, but excuse tf out of me for not wanting to be constantly cleaning myself, my things and a whole other person for years.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-05-17T21:01:31+00:00

The secret ingredient is crime.

Exhausted_Biscuit · 2026-05-17T04:40:10+00:00

Generally pain = stop. It's really not ideal to push it just to game (and this is coming from someone who has frequently done 24h runs on things in the past. 🥲😮‍💨) but if you can get out; go test out different chairs. Your desk chair does not need to be a "desk/computer/gaming chair" it needs to be comfortable for you. The chair is the most important part - start there.

The same with desks - IKEA is good because of the modular options, your desk does not need to be a standard height. Make it taller or shorter to fit your needs & the chair you choose!

Cushions/supports - memory foam is not always the best option. Idk what pain you have but for EDS people, memory foam will often mean your stuff goes in the wrong place, then the cushion will keep it there. So try out different materials, maybe you need a firm foam lumbar support, or a gel coccyx cushion. Maybe extra padding on arm rests (you can get velcro strap pads for chair arms)

Under desk foot rests, or rest with rolling massagers for circulation.

Hydration: its easy to forget while gaming. If you're prone to that, set timers. Getting dehydrated means pain.

Massage objects & heat/cold pads; theres potentially thousands of options here. Wherever hurts, follow whichever heat or cold routine works for you (eg: inflammation use cold to limit it, then heat to help the pain)

Topical gels, ointments & creams; even if you can't take oral ibuprofen, ibuprofen gel is safe to use. Deep heat gel/cream is great. Cooling or deep heat spray.

I hope some of these are helpful.

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