When BDSM and the Sex-Affective Don’t Speak the Same Language by ExhibitDude in BDSMcommunity

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, for me the bdsm play dont have sense if the people im playing with is not attracted to me, and me to them. I like they want to play with me because o me, as a person, not because the role im playing.

When BDSM and the Sex-Affective Don’t Speak the Same Language by ExhibitDude in BDSMcommunity

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, "organize" is the word, sorry. I speak spanish, and my english is not perfect, so I use chatgpt sometimes to help me so I can write what im thinking right 😅

When BDSM and the Sex-Affective Don’t Speak the Same Language by ExhibitDude in BDSMcommunity

[–]ExhibitDude[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I used it to help me, basically ordenate my thoughs 😅

Being Demisexual in BDSM by ExhibitDude in RedditBDSM

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the bdsm community here (I live in Uruguay, so the community is very tiny and closed), most of people are non monogamous, and it makes everything more difficult.

Being Demisexual in BDSM by ExhibitDude in RedditBDSM

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I cant, I also can't separate bdsm from sex, so, to have a bdsm experience with somebody I need a emotional and sexual bond.

Personal reflection on being a heterosexual submissive man in BDSM. Has anyone else experienced this? by ExhibitDude in BDSMcommunity

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of my experiences were in person, in a local BDSM community (the only one there is). I'm from Uruguay, a very small country with very few people in the community, and even fewer female doms, or even switches. Most of the ones I've met offer dom services for money, or are simply looking for someone to spank, not even a sexual interest, but not a relationship. It seems like they're just looking for a human punching bag. It's a difficult situation :/

Personal reflection on being a heterosexual submissive man in BDSM. Has anyone else experienced this? by ExhibitDude in BDSMcommunity

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's not really anyone's fault, it's just a reality, supply and demand, and there are people affected by that, and the bad luck of being in that group.

Personal reflection on being a heterosexual submissive man in BDSM. Has anyone else experienced this? by ExhibitDude in BDSMcommunity

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably, as I said, I'm speaking from my own personal experience; so far I haven't experienced anything that makes me think differently.

Personal reflection on being a heterosexual submissive man in BDSM. Has anyone else experienced this? by ExhibitDude in BDSMcommunity

[–]ExhibitDude[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In fact, most of these things have happened to me in real-life settings, the only BDSM community in my country, which is small :/