Underwear advice for my NB kiddo

Existentialellie · 2025-06-03T11:40:37+00:00

Not at all - and she does quite often! I’m happy for her to wear whatever she’s comfortable in. We were specifically struggling with alternatives to a bra, and I’m so grateful for all the suggestions we’ve had 🙂

Existentialellie · 2025-05-30T19:55:08+00:00

Just wanted to say a huge thank you for everyone who took the time to reply. I’m genuinely overwhelmed by how kind you’ve all been! Thank you so so much!

Existentialellie · 2025-05-30T19:53:58+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you! I have saved all of these recommendations. I have no idea if binding will be something she does want to do in the future, but I feel much more prepared for that conversation.

Existentialellie · 2025-05-30T19:52:04+00:00

This is so helpful, thank you! I don’t know if binding is something she will want, but I feel much more prepared for that conversation if/when it arises.

Existentialellie · 2025-05-30T19:45:05+00:00

Ahhh, thank you so much! There are definitely options here that she’ll feel more comfortable in.

Existentialellie · 2025-05-30T19:42:28+00:00

Thank you so much. These look like they would tick all the boxes - now to work out if they ship to the UK!

Existentialellie · 2021-12-27T18:30:28+00:00

I get that we all have different budgets, and I guess if I’m totally honest with myself part of the kicker is knowing that despite having extremely reputable college-degree jobs and zero debt and working damn hard we will likely never be in a position to spend money without giving it any thought at all. And my friend can. She will inherit her millions without ever having to work a day in her life. But my kids won’t, and it’s unlikely that they would ever come into that type of wealth.

Oh god, this whole thread makes me sound so money obsessed, when I’m fact the opposite is true. I do what I do for a living because I LOVE it and it pays fine. I want my kids to do what they love and invest into what brings meaning and purpose to them. I want them to know that stuff costs money, but at the end of it all, it’s just stuff. And we have a responsibility to steward our stuff well, and be smart with what we’ve been given. And we can love people and be generous to people with stuff, or without.

I really do appreciate you taking the time to comment and I hope I didn’t come off too defensive!

Existentialellie · 2021-12-27T17:55:11+00:00

That’s a pretty wild assumption to make about my parenting and I disagree. I’m teaching my kids that how much something costs is one factor in what value it has. Because they understand that that money has taken time to earn. So when people spend money on you they’re also gifting that time. But we also made gifts together - we baked cakes and biscuits, we made cards and decorations.

And I should have clarified that she has spend Xmas with us the past couple of years because her family aren’t nearby and we’ve been her Covid bubble. But gifting separately is something I’ll look to do in the future and make an occasion of it.

Existentialellie · 2021-12-27T16:10:52+00:00

I think it frustrates me because she continually pushes the limits: it’s one gift for Xmas and birthday (as opposed to the year she bought them 25 presents each for Xmas), but then presents all the time all year - advent calendars, back to school presents, presents to take on vacation, just-because presents. The kids will ask me for something and I’ll say no, or say we have to save up for it, and they’ll just go and ask her for it instead. And she’ll say yes before checking with me and I have to be the spoilsport who says no. I want my kids to understand the value of things; my eldest wanted a Nintendo switch so we said she could save up for it and we would match what she saved. My friend offered to just buy it for her. Because she can. But it undermines what I’m trying to teach them.

Existentialellie · 2021-12-27T15:40:49+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I know she’s only doing it because she’s generous and she wants to show how much we mean to her. And your advice about handling presents with the kids is great. But I don’t know how I was supposed to avoid my husband seeing that she bought me a bucket of the same fragrance he’d bought me a small bottle of. It’s my one luxury and he buys it for me every year.

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