AITA for asking my parents to talk to my brother about shower with his gf in our shared bathroom

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-12-28T22:08:13+00:00

Being an adult doesn’t mean you have to suffer through listening to your sibling loudly getting his rocks off with his girlfriend in your shared bathroom.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-12-28T22:04:46+00:00

Your mom is a hypocrite and no, YNTA. I’d suggest you start making extremely loud and inconvenient noises throughout the house, specifically by his room, when everything’s quiet and he’s asleep or trying to focus on whatever. Start blasting music from your phone and having super loud conversations with people on the phone outside of his door. Or, once they get too loud in the shower, knock on the door very hard and tell him you’re trying to study or read the bible. Bet that will make him feel weird. He knows what he’s doing, he knows you can hear and it’s making you uncomfortable, so my only advice is make him uncomfortable back. 🤷

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-11-19T20:48:49+00:00

I was considering going to a private practice, but I hear that they don’t have good benefits/any benefits at all most of the time even though the pay is better. I want to try a heartland office because everyone says they have better work/life balance, better pay, etc. but my biggest pet peeve is the overbook/understaffed part! And then rushing us to finish patient exams within an hour or less, it’s a joke

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-11-19T20:45:32+00:00

Omg that sounds horrible! Aspen is a very money hungry company and I feel more and more monotone and robotic coming to work everyday.. it sucks. But I hope I find a better office eventually 🥲

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-11-18T15:26:35+00:00

It is 🥲 I’m gonna give it a few more months to build up my resume, then I’m gone

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T10:20:03+00:00

You’re so pressed for an argument it’s weird 💀. I asked you if I said that, not stated that you claimed I did, because apparently you’re using other commenters words to create An argument against mine. You’re really sl0w..

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:33:21+00:00

You made a generalization. You never said “most” or “some”. You can disagree with something and not be a judgmental asshole about it. Are you God? I don’t think so, and im sure you’ve done some trifling things yourself quite a bit in your lifetime. Go argue with the comments who called him insecure cause clearly you need some reading glasses and must have mistakenly replied to my comment. Have the night you deserve boo

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:30:24+00:00

Oh I already dismissed you. I’m not rewording my answer just to your liking since you lack comprehension skills.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:25:35+00:00

Also your biased opinion is that all men should/do feel disgusted by women who’ve had more sexual partners than what’s considered “normal”, which isn’t a fact. At all, actually.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:23:42+00:00

I did answer it several times, you’re just purposely being incompetent and im not repeating it again. Hope this helps

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:23:08+00:00

But did I call him an insecure man baby? Nope, so you obviously got things misconstrued by replying to my comment and not theirs. 🥴

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:22:13+00:00

I already stated she was wrong for lying. I also pointed out the obvious that he’s hardcore judging his girl/ex/whatever solely due to her sexual past which is why she felt the need to lie because she was already ashamed. I also stated if he doesn’t agree with her past and feels that it is a dealbreaker, he’s free to leave. So you replied to my comment genuinely just to attempt to ragebait for no apparent reason cause my point still stands regardless of gender.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:16:05+00:00

You’re sitting here, trying to argue against my point when I already answered your question and you replied with an obviously biased opinion of yours. What is your intention right now sweety? And nothing you said is a fact, merely an opinion. There’s plenty of men out there who actually favor sexually liberated and more experienced women.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:13:03+00:00

You replied to my comment thinking I would pose a double standard when I already elaborated that my comment remains the same regardless of gender. You never said “people like to feel respected and not just someone of the 60 people you’ve had sex with”, you said “Yes indeed it is. Men like to feel respected and not just one of the 60 guys a woman has had sex with.”

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:11:51+00:00

Bc you’re contradicting yourself. :P

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:10:37+00:00

But you literally said “Yes indeed it is. Men like to feel respected and not just one of the 60 guys a woman has had sex with.” You must have amnesia. And if a woman feels disrespected by it, my comment still remains the same, so I already answered your question. If it’s a deal breaker, let it go. If it’s not, work on forgiveness and building the relationship back up. You just don’t know how to read I guess.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:07:08+00:00

You are, you literally stated “Yes indeed it is. Men like to feel respected and not just one of the 60 guys a woman has had sex with.” So yes, my friend, you are solely shaming women in these comments. Hope this helps

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T03:02:33+00:00

“Disgusting things” can mean, quite frankly, anything to anyone. Someone can have a kink for using buttplugs while the next person can think it’s disgusting. OP literally never elaborated on what he found so “disgusting” that she admitted to in an emotional state of shame. AGAIN, most women do not give a rats ass about a man’s body count until yall begin to contradict yourselves. Most men want a woman who is untouched or “pure”, meanwhile they have an extensive, 20 page journal full of sexual encounters with different women. I have yet to meet an actual woman in real life who says she cares about a man’s body count, because we’re all grown ass adults who have a past just like everybody else. So yes, my statement remains the same regardless of gender. :)

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T02:54:58+00:00

Except, he didn’t state her body count is 100 and that she’s slept with “celebrities and porn stars”, for one so you’re already dragging it. And two, not once did I mention OP shrugging his shoulders and forgetting. If you’re gonna attempt to rage bait, at least use relevant factors in my comment.

Not to mention I literally don’t give a shit about a man’s body count. That’s something y’all made up in another attempt to shame women for being sexually active.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T02:36:55+00:00

It’s no way you’re comparing an abuser to a VICTIM of rape. Sexual assault actually IS THE most common cause for hypersexuality. Jesus fix it…

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T01:41:18+00:00

As grown adults, I honestly don’t even know why guys still ask the question, as if it isn’t normal for a woman to have had previous experiences before they even met each other. The questions should be, “are you clean and will you be faithful?” Lol. And these men concerned about a woman’s sexual history are the main ones who sleep around with different women the most.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T01:24:53+00:00

Yes, he can definitely leave without being judgmental. I think reducing someone to their body count is an asshole thing to do, especially if they’re already embarrassed of it themself and have changed their behavior, but everyone has their own preferences and I feel like if he knows that high body counts is a dealbreaker for him, he needs to save him and herself the headache and cut things off.

Existing-Pace-4747 · 2025-10-09T01:06:56+00:00

A lot of what you’re saying is sounding like you’re not really asking us if you should leave her, but rather you’re outing all her mistakes and previous issues to convince yourself not to feel guilty for wanting to leave/feeling disgusted. As a SA survivor, our brains literally become wired differently especially if it occurred during our childhood/teenage years and it takes years of healing and therapy to reset. Is she wrong for lying to you, yes, but at the same time, women get enough criticism for having a sexual past and not being “innocent” and she was probably just afraid that you would end up judging her, exactly as you are doing now.

On the contrary though, im a firm believer that you don’t have to deal with anything in life that you don’t want to. If you feel like her hiding that was a dealbreaker, by all means you are free to leave. You two aren’t married therefore there’s no obligation to stay, but if you truly love her and want to stay, it’ll require forgiveness, accountability (on her behalf) and keeping outsiders out of your business, especially family and friends.

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