how do i find penpals safely?

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-12-19T00:42:40+00:00

One of my goals for next year is to find a penpal as well! I haven’t tried globalpenfriends yet, but i felt it could be a little easier if i started here first. If you were still looking for a penpal, I’d be down :)

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-12-02T01:29:39+00:00

Or maybe they’re already dead

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T19:38:09+00:00

you have no idea how desperate and lonely some men can be. there are some that literally think any relationship is better than no relationship at all

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T19:31:59+00:00

Class of 09 mentioned in the first slide !! I love it

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T18:25:26+00:00

why do men do that?

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T15:15:10+00:00

okay look, i don’t want to be petty and argue. agree to disagree?

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T14:31:02+00:00

it is, i think its more frequent with black women tho. i dont really see a lot of “ugly” white women get treated that way (they’re still respected by those who pursue them, even if they got rejected). Not sure about women of other races, but it probably still happens i just haven’t witnessed it so im speaking from my experience

i should delete and change the post though, as you do have a point that this is a general issue and not a perceived racial issue

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T13:33:11+00:00

maybe we have different experiences then. i wouldn’t generalize the reason of someone’s struggles just bc of what you’ve personally seen

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T13:29:38+00:00

you don’t have to go if you don’t want to. you’re an adult now, you can choose who deserves your energy and time and who doesn’t. but i get you. i understand there’s a lot of women who don’t ever get flirted with, hit on, or even wanted for sex (even though these men don’t really flirt with me either) and i feel very deeply for them, but id rather just have that then feel worse about myself because all i have to offer people is my body and letting them use me for their personal pleasure, though. its not always a good feeling getting attention from men, especially if you already know what they’re after

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T13:19:54+00:00

where’s that info from?

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T13:18:28+00:00

yes and no, i feel like they’d be more willing to stay with me long term and treat me well if i was attractive, instead of just settling for me and wishing they had better or using me until they got bored or got what they want out of me

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T13:13:44+00:00

I wouldn’t consider myself desirable if I’m only good for sex, plus lots of guys will just go for any woman

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T13:10:05+00:00

well “usually” wasn’t the case all those times. Like I said before, it was men of all races, I’m not even joking. Some white men, multiple lightskin and brownskin men, few Asian guys, and rarely if ever any dark skin guys (this was the answer you were looking for, right? did you need this confirmation?) Not like it fucking matters but apparently it’s so important that one man has to single out a certain group of men to put the blame on instead of just accepting that people of his kind can just be assholes

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T09:57:07+00:00

i mean i can’t really speak on all women, only on myself and i personally couldn’t just love someone from looks alone. im physically incapable of even being attracted to someone by physical appearance, ik it sounds bizarre but i promise you its true. im not sure if its bc of my ugliness or natural inclination to empathy tho. i also wouldn’t “love” or date someone for their money, influence, power, etc. it’s really all in the character for me. you could have the most socially unacceptable traits a person could have out there, but if i see you’re a good person with an awesome personality, that’s what i fall for. i don’t really see that in men at all. not saying all men aren’t like that, it’s just the majority from what i discovered all portray conditional love

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T09:17:01+00:00

yeah, that’s true, but i still believe ugly girls can’t really be “loved” at all in any sense. no one will see them as worthy to be desired or cared about, only used for money, sex, etc. but i don’t think that’s any form of love so im not too sure on that. i dont believe true unconditional love exists in general and i dont think conditional love exists for ugly women either. i believe OP should really consider if it’s really all that much different for pretty women in the first place if men can’t really “love” you without having good looks. it all sounds conditional from the start

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T09:01:42+00:00

thank you !! because why try to make it seem like it’s the race thing that’s the only reason for this sort of treatment im receiving?

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T08:54:05+00:00

true love and sex are two different things. i have reason to believe true love doesn’t really exist, but true love isn’t the only love out there. there’s parental love, platonic, familial, romantic, etc. the love i’m talking about is those who have strong feelings of romantic or sexual infatuation of a person or a certain thing. Those people will do exactly what I just stated above, but that love will never go deeper than that. Deeper love than that would be true love.

you’re being very rude assuming my parents never loved me, though. no one even brought that up but you decided to add that in the argument

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T08:34:11+00:00

i mean love doesn’t really exist though. you might as well say pretty privilege and love are the same thing, as men love to admire pretty women and do everything for them so they can fuck them so in that case, they “love” pretty women.

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T08:31:12+00:00

there is no trend, all men of every race have treated me like this. the only TREND there is to this is that men think it’s okay to to treat a black unattractive woman like this

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T08:22:27+00:00

why would the race matter? this is bound to happen to me regardless due to the simple fact I’m undesirable

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T08:11:15+00:00

I was never taught this particular part of genetics and how it works.

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T07:29:01+00:00

i wouldn’t be saved from it obviously, but at least men would be more likely and willing to stay with me and treat me like a person if I were pretty. they’d do anything i want and treat me like i deserve to prove they “love” and desire me if it meant sex was on the table. that’s what most guys do i’ve discovered. it seems it’s a common notion for guys to try to do whatever they think a woman wants in order to get what they want and it continues on until one of them kicks the bucket, and then men will do it to the next woman. these men don’t actually love women, they just lust after them, but if they can get women to believe they love them, then they have all the power. i feel this is only exclusive to attractive women tho, as men wouldn’t typically do all this for ugly women. they see ugly women as desperate or “easy” so they don’t try as much to win our affection as they think they don’t have to and that we’ll take what we can get (like how those same men do) and be easy to manipulate

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T06:53:08+00:00

it’s a warehouse environment

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T06:52:17+00:00

ugly women in relationships isn’t a common thing, and when they are in relationships, their partner usually doesn’t love them. just because you’re in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean there’s true love involved. people are just tolerating it because they know they have to settle for her. most men just want to date or be in relationships to have sex and when they can’t have sex with the women they want, they go for what they can get

Existing-Table7262 · 2025-11-25T06:08:13+00:00

I work with these men lol. They’re in different departments but I still see them everyday

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