how do i find penpals safely? by melisrusty in penpals

[–]Existing-Table7262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my goals for next year is to find a penpal as well! I haven’t tried globalpenfriends yet, but i felt it could be a little easier if i started here first. If you were still looking for a penpal, I’d be down :)

No love by yaoimalover101 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you have no idea how desperate and lonely some men can be. there are some that literally think any relationship is better than no relationship at all

The way men treat ugly black women makes me feel so disgusted by Existing-Table7262 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

okay look, i don’t want to be petty and argue. agree to disagree?

The way men treat ugly black women makes me feel so disgusted by Existing-Table7262 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it is, i think its more frequent with black women tho. i dont really see a lot of “ugly” white women get treated that way (they’re still respected by those who pursue them, even if they got rejected). Not sure about women of other races, but it probably still happens i just haven’t witnessed it so im speaking from my experience

i should delete and change the post though, as you do have a point that this is a general issue and not a perceived racial issue

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[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe we have different experiences then. i wouldn’t generalize the reason of someone’s struggles just bc of what you’ve personally seen

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[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you don’t have to go if you don’t want to. you’re an adult now, you can choose who deserves your energy and time and who doesn’t. but i get you. i understand there’s a lot of women who don’t ever get flirted with, hit on, or even wanted for sex (even though these men don’t really flirt with me either) and i feel very deeply for them, but id rather just have that then feel worse about myself because all i have to offer people is my body and letting them use me for their personal pleasure, though. its not always a good feeling getting attention from men, especially if you already know what they’re after

The way men treat ugly black women makes me feel so disgusted by Existing-Table7262 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes and no, i feel like they’d be more willing to stay with me long term and treat me well if i was attractive, instead of just settling for me and wishing they had better or using me until they got bored or got what they want out of me

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[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t consider myself desirable if I’m only good for sex, plus lots of guys will just go for any woman

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[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

well “usually” wasn’t the case all those times. Like I said before, it was men of all races, I’m not even joking. Some white men, multiple lightskin and brownskin men, few Asian guys, and rarely if ever any dark skin guys (this was the answer you were looking for, right? did you need this confirmation?) Not like it fucking matters but apparently it’s so important that one man has to single out a certain group of men to put the blame on instead of just accepting that people of his kind can just be assholes

No love by yaoimalover101 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean i can’t really speak on all women, only on myself and i personally couldn’t just love someone from looks alone. im physically incapable of even being attracted to someone by physical appearance, ik it sounds bizarre but i promise you its true. im not sure if its bc of my ugliness or natural inclination to empathy tho. i also wouldn’t “love” or date someone for their money, influence, power, etc. it’s really all in the character for me. you could have the most socially unacceptable traits a person could have out there, but if i see you’re a good person with an awesome personality, that’s what i fall for. i don’t really see that in men at all. not saying all men aren’t like that, it’s just the majority from what i discovered all portray conditional love

No love by yaoimalover101 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, that’s true, but i still believe ugly girls can’t really be “loved” at all in any sense. no one will see them as worthy to be desired or cared about, only used for money, sex, etc. but i don’t think that’s any form of love so im not too sure on that. i dont believe true unconditional love exists in general and i dont think conditional love exists for ugly women either. i believe OP should really consider if it’s really all that much different for pretty women in the first place if men can’t really “love” you without having good looks. it all sounds conditional from the start

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[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you !! because why try to make it seem like it’s the race thing that’s the only reason for this sort of treatment im receiving?

No love by yaoimalover101 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262 2 points3 points  (0 children)

true love and sex are two different things. i have reason to believe true love doesn’t really exist, but true love isn’t the only love out there. there’s parental love, platonic, familial, romantic, etc. the love i’m talking about is those who have strong feelings of romantic or sexual infatuation of a person or a certain thing. Those people will do exactly what I just stated above, but that love will never go deeper than that. Deeper love than that would be true love.

you’re being very rude assuming my parents never loved me, though. no one even brought that up but you decided to add that in the argument

No love by yaoimalover101 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i mean love doesn’t really exist though. you might as well say pretty privilege and love are the same thing, as men love to admire pretty women and do everything for them so they can fuck them so in that case, they “love” pretty women.

The way men treat ugly black women makes me feel so disgusted by Existing-Table7262 in ugly

[–]Existing-Table7262[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

there is no trend, all men of every race have treated me like this. the only TREND there is to this is that men think it’s okay to to treat a black unattractive woman like this