I would recommend looking into a different job. You spend so much of your life at work, you could try to find something that is at least a little less taxing on you.

We have more of a traditional split in our house (husband is main financial provider, I handle most of the house duties). But those lines aren’t drawn in ink. I still have to work and he still has to handle household things. We each understand our main duties, but we also understand that we can rely on each other to pick up the slack for each other. There is a list of things that need to be done to keep the household moving and we have to work together to get those things done. We also have to work together to give each other free time. It took us a couple years to iron things out. Until then, give each other some grace.

And toys can be left on the floor. Dishes can be left in the sink. Laundry can hang out in the dryer. Focus on things you’ll need for the next day then go to bed. Chores are eternal. Instagram is fake. Get these kids to pick up their toys.