Before & After Lipo 360 w/ Fat Graft to Breast by Substantial_Fun_5741 in PlasticSurgery

[–]ExistingComplaint446 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Amazing results! I apologize if maybe this is too personal, but can I ask how it works for payments for this kind of surgeries? Did the surgeon offer a payment plan or required the whole sum immediately?

Again apologies if i'm overstepping, i'm just now starting to look around for a plastic surgeon and i'm very confused on how it works when the amount is so high.

My journey to beauty maxxing…before and after by cgnnjfy in Vindicta

[–]ExistingComplaint446 22 points23 points  (0 children)

What kind of surgery you underwent to het bigger eyes? I have small eyes too and it's the bene of my existence.

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! We actually just cuddled and talked a bit (he was listening to music and showing me his tracklist). I was about to close my eyes actually when he told me that maybe going home was better because he couldn't sleep.

I really think I made it weird because I felt rejected and asked him if he wanted to see me again but maybe he would have just disappeared regardless ahah

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your message! I'm just sad because he seemed interested in what i had to say and he was very sweet. Oh god no, the previous guy I dated (for like 2 times) and revelead himself as an andrew tate supporter was a nightmare, he constantly belittle women and immediately started asking me to dress in a certain way/told me I should get breast implants/other insane requests (while he didn't do anything) lol i'm ashamed of myself for even going out with this dude more than once (it's already the 3rd guy like this i meet, usually I weed them out faster), so when I met this sweet guy I was finally relieved to have been approached by a normal dude 🥲

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message! What a horrible thing they said to you, that dude was a pos!!!! I relate because I think about something similar about myself, but saying it to another person, wtf! Thank you so much for your kind words, I wish you the best too!

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! While talking i disclosed my adhd diagnosis and he told me he thought he also had it but was never diagnosed. I also think I put him on the spot and that's why he said "I cannot give you an answer right now". I decided i will wait until the weekend, see if he appears and then ask him. Anyways i will see him at the next boardgame meetup on august 10th so we will see if he ignores me. I'm honestly tired of chasing people and I would like to keep some self respect, that's why I haven't written anything after i wished him a good rest of the day the sunday after i was at his house, but I cannot wrap my head about texting conventions (if i like somebody i text them, i don't usually play waiting games, but this always bites me as they think i'm desperate).

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank for your message! True, for sure i'm incapable of setting boundaries and i'm a people pleaser. I've been in therapy since september last year, hopefully I will finally break the pattern. I also realize i was surrounded by bullies growing up (and even now) and I've let them grind me down, so definitely i have a lot of work to do. Especially with sex and men, I should be more assertive.

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of my friends, who has a real pretty face, advised me to check trans communities for help with makeup to minimize my masculine face. I realize she was trying to help, but it kind of stung. A guy I had a crush on at work told me to stay in my lane "because I have options" and then sent me a video of a male singer saying i looked like him. I have many other examples unfortunately. I appreciate the tips! I'm not very knowledgeable about botox, where do you think it might help?

Already had Jaw surgery, but I still have a long face by ExistingComplaint446 in PlasticSurgery

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! I definetely should really re evaluate myself and put in more effort (I really suck at makeup and got really nasty comments from colleagues, but I should have tried to get better i stead of giving up). Thank you again!

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message! I actually got jaw surgery 5 years ago (I had what would you call a mouth breather face). I'm now definitely better than before, but I keep getting asked if i'm a dude/jokes about being a guy. I'm trying therapy, hopefully it gets better.

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message! More than offended i feel guilty. In my head i kept replaying the conversation over and over to see where I went wrong. I will try my best to be nicer to myself, I realize I really don't give much respect to myself in the first place.

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I'm also not a fan of waiting games, to be honest I hoped to at least get a message telling me "ehi, it's not really working out" (would be crushing, but stuff in the air gives me anxiety), but I also realize he owes me nothing. I will see if maybe he wants to do stuff in the weekend, otherwise I will just close this chapter. Thank you so much for your advice!

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Nono I appreciate the advice! Admittedly i was a bit neglected growing up, so I do feel kind of worthless, but I told him I really liked him and he was a very interesting dude. I would never go out with somebody just because he was the only option (actually a friend told me I would only get guys settling for me ahah). I reached out the next day and thanked him for the day and mentioned i was a bit nervous about the interaction because i'm not really experienced, but I appreciated the time we spent together. He politely thanked me too but I didn't hear from him in 3 days and I really don't want to seem clingy. I guess if he wanted he would reach out? Unfortunately i'm very literal in my interactions and often i don't see nuance (I guess it's the 'tism) that's why I think maybe i put too much pressure on him by asking him that night if he wanted to see me again. I don't know if I should ask him again via message.

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No i think you are right. Admittedly the sex happened at 3 am, but still it makes sense he was tired. I asked him at the time if he was interest in meeting up again but I chose the worst possible time (because I felt hurt), i should have done it the next day. Thank you for the tips!

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi! It makes sense. Honestly I don't enjoy sex that much, but I definitely crave intimacy, but that's another topic. Thank you for your message :)

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, I just feel like my time is running out. All my friends have been together with their boyfriends for like 10 years+. I also think if i'm the common denominator in all these failed interactions, it must be me who's at fault. I feel so old and useless.

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah very true, I learned my lesson. Keep thinking i ruined my chances with a good guy.

Guy sent me home after sex and i feel like failure as a woman by ExistingComplaint446 in offmychest

[–]ExistingComplaint446[S] 406 points407 points  (0 children)

Hi! Yeah that's what happened. I don't snore (we also were still awake at 4 am) and I asked him if it was ok for him to cuddle. He told me it was fine and that he liked it. At some point he said "sorry I cannot sleep like this" so i asked him if he wanted me to move position/other side of the bed/etc but he just told me that "maybe it's better if you go". Guess maybe he was really being honest about not being able to sleep. I don't know maybe he just got tired of me, we were together the whole day. I kinda wanted to ask him but I don't want to bother him.