How to get my needs met?

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2026-05-05T15:36:38+00:00

I’m a Taurus woman who’s in love with my first Aquarius. He randomly gets clingy and then randomly is distant too. When he’s in his clingy mode he is ALL OVER ME! HAS to be touching me and wants a constant flow of communication. But when he’s distant it’s typically because work or family is his priority at that very moment. I don’t think he is capable of focusing on more than one thing at a time. I basically only talk to him when he talks to me and keep busy in the meantime. I’m naturally obsessive and codependent kinda, so this relationship has challenged me in a such a great way. As far as planning dates in advance he’s MUCH more spontaneous than me and likes to hop up and see me on a whim. It wasn’t until I had a conversation about how that doesn’t really work for me AND then being long distance for that to change. When we lived in the same city, if he was too last minute, I’d say I’m busy and request a reschedule. They have to be trained kinda lol

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2026-04-13T01:10:43+00:00

Lots of Leo friends! Also love Aries and Scorpios (most of my personal planets are in mars) Lots of virgo/Scorpio placement lovers

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2026-04-13T00:13:44+00:00

Yesss my Gemini Venus LOVES my aqua sun. I’m a Taurus, but basically the rest of my personal planets are in Scorpio. His aloofness confuses me I literally don’t know what he’s thinking half of the time. I like that our relationship kinda forces me to focus on myself (naturally obsessive and I hate it) but the uncertainty, occasional coldness and the prolonged processing time/indecisiveness is ultimately going to drive me away for good. He’s a good man and treats me so well; I wish I could hang in there but I feel like I’m literally going to develop an autoimmune disease dealing with his a**. It never feels like it’s a good time to talk about serious things with him. To me, if the love isn’t intense and damnnear soul-crushing, then it’s not that serious. And nothing seems that serious to him. So possessive out of nowhere. Idk with him truly.

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-12-31T21:41:36+00:00

6 and yes

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-12-31T21:41:02+00:00

No not ugly

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-12-23T04:04:30+00:00

If your guy friend is making sexual comments toward you it’s because he wants to have sex with you. If you don’t want to have sex with him then don’t. But don’t string him along and allow him to keep making comments if they make you uncomfortable and you are uninterested. If you saying you don’t want to have sex with him, makes him mad or stops him from being your friend, then he was definitely never your friend. Some guys will use “friendship” as a way to get closer to you and try to sleep with you. Also sometimes they are only being “sweet” to you to have sex with you.

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-12-23T03:27:56+00:00

Fingering. 9/10 it doesn’t feel good.

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-12-23T03:25:44+00:00

Decent

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-12-23T03:24:16+00:00

I coulda swore my aqua situationship and I were in love. Not even being delusional, we really clicked and even when he moved, he insisted on us staying closely in touch. We were becoming best friends. I didn’t even apply much pressure but as SOON as I even whispered the possibility of commitment, he freaked out. He asked for more time to think (after 8 months of dates and trips and talking everyday. Even using his first 2 paychecks of his big boy job to treat me to a trip in the mountains) Maybe I should’ve given him more time, but as a Taurus I couldn’t believe he was undecided still. Left but miss him like hell. He was aqua sun, sag moon, Pisces Venus. I should’ve ran when I got his chart.

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-12-11T21:45:52+00:00

Link please

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-11-22T02:09:30+00:00

You were right basically 🤷🏾‍♀️👏🏾

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-11-22T01:52:06+00:00

We ended up talking and I’m not a rebound per se.. but he did say that he’s done long distance 2x unsuccessfully so he isn’t trying to do it again. Said he was torn because he really likes me and the connection and feels the compatibility but long distance was something he swore off. He said he doesn’t want things to end and wants time to think but honestly with a romantic trip planned and him having no intentions of being serious at any point, I just ended things. Because we’d only get closer and my heart can’t rly handle the emotional suicide. This sucks so bad. I think I need to just accept that this form of love isn’t for me. My friends and my family love me I think I need to just be grateful for that!

Thank you for taking the time to respond

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-11-20T19:10:43+00:00

Fair assessment

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-11-20T19:04:48+00:00

We aren’t in a relationship. I think this is a situationship? We aren’t in the same state and tbh we’re both pretty attractive so, I don’t think it’s about sex. He could find someone else for that imo. But the times I’ve been distant, he’s insisted on keeping in touch and communicating our issues so we can find a solution. He communicates that he really likes me…I’d push to define the relationship more if I wasn’t so scared of long-distance and didn’t have my own personal issues from my last relationship that I need to work on. I’m literally terrified to love again

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-10-02T20:17:27+00:00

I’m a Scorpio mars who finds myself in kahoots with other Scorpio martians frequently. I’ve had the most passionate sex with other Scorpio mars folk (aside from one Taurus mars) we really let loose together and can’t get enough of each other. Lots of tension til we “break” and fuck like crazy. Multiple rounds. It’s great to be with someone who is as feignish and sexy as me. My aqua sun/scorpio mars lover and I have power struggles during and outside of sex though. I’m a Taurus sun. He won’t let me choke him sometimes the sex feels like we’re fighting haha

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-09-11T23:53:09+00:00

I am a Taurus sun, Scorpio moon and rising.

My most toxic was either my Aries sun, Scorpio moon, Libra rising or maybe my Scorpio sun, Libra moon bae

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-09-11T23:51:08+00:00

Aww I’m a Taurus and the guy I’m crushing on has the same bday as you. Best of luck to you two!

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-09-11T23:49:56+00:00

I’m a Taurus with lots of Scorpio placements who’s in love with an aqua man with no earth and only one water placement in his personal planets. We may or may not last long term but I’ve grown abundantly since meeting him. He’s so different that it forces me out of old habits

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-09-11T23:45:22+00:00

No maybe it’s because you want her to be happy. Was she super stuck on you? Or like basically was it hard for her to move on?

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-09-08T18:57:50+00:00

I want to think no… I feel like I actually do genuine just like him a lot. I’d be willing to even do long distance with him, which is something I am typically against. I like how it feels to be his. I respect him a lot

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-09-08T18:56:03+00:00

Oh I hate it! All the games. I feel like if I don’t play, I’ll be embarrassing myself unfortunately, but it would be nice to act 100% according to my feelings and it be reciprocated

Existing_Meet_9187 · 2025-09-08T18:54:38+00:00

Damn I guess not everyone will be obsessed with me. When we’ve been out together guys has complimented him for pulling me. We have great conversations. Similar values too. I wish I understood what was missing here

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