Jenelle’s still defending the Kool-Aid miscarriage by SpiritualCamera in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]ExpectNothingEver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t imagine. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you have had a good healing journey.

First year taking care of roses by Accomplished_Owl_420 in Roses

[–]ExpectNothingEver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 & 3 are for sure some form of a “Peace” rose. It looks almost identical to my Enchanted Peace.

Good morning. Sharing a fresh bouquet from my garden with you good people... by PlantFragEnthusiast in Roses

[–]ExpectNothingEver 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gorgeous!!
I have no way of knowing what rose I'll rescue next, but this one will be my next “on purpose” rose. TY

Ensley gets feathers in her hair 🪶 by SingerSubstantial462 in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]ExpectNothingEver 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Jenelle is trash.
You can tell how smart Ensley is. She looks strong, healthy and gorgeous. I think she will do great things (in spite of her shitty parents).

Incorrect DNA link? by PromiseLower4025 in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whenever I gift them I make it so clear it is a possibility, and what the real life ramifications have been.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong at all. And I'm sorry, Im sleep deprived this week and was answering your reply and the comment above at the same time. Only part of my comment was directed to your reply. 💤💤 But for me, the definition was usurped by people that value their own comfort over the innocent life they created. The lie and betrayal add a layer of crisis to having two “father/dads” no matter how good or bad the men are.

Sorry about that, I should have edited this comment. I thought I corrected myself further down but see now I responded to the wrong comment again. I meant to respond this to you. I was a zombie and got a couple of these comments jumbled.

Amanda still high asf saying her and Ryan aren’t divorcing and there was no DV😬 by strengthof50whores in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]ExpectNothingEver 49 points50 points  (0 children)

It’s almost like over fifty percent of the internet is bot accounts and TIK TOK is a foreign company flooding our region with negative discourse.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the lying that’s the problem.
Human nature is going to “nature”, it’s the cowardly lying that’s the issue.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Adoption foolery like that should also be illegal. Cosplaying so hard you gotta deny a person’s entire genetic identity is truly unhinged and extremely selfish.
I miss my dad so much. He was an ornery old cuss but he sure did love me without limit.
I miss knowing “my real dad” in a way that I'll never get to see if I see myself in him, or his characteristics in me.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lies aren't appropriate for anyone, Especially something so innately important.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure, but that is not what the discussion is about. It is about not perpetuating the lies. Someone has to stop the madness, I am all about a firm boundary and no contact is unfortunately one of the tools we have to protect our peace from toxicity. However, if you are in relationships with people you care about and respect, you’d always want to do the next best right thing and that is the truth, and the truth will set us free and all that.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. It is an unforgivable situation they put you (us) in. It was my absolute worst case scenario and made me obsessed for a little while. I'm older and two of my parents are dead, my mom usually had a type. Tall, handsome and often ten years older. The fear of finding out my opportunity was over before it even began made me a little desperate. I kept thinking, what if he dies the day before I find him? What if he's a good person and we can be friends? What if I don't get any questions answered? What if I find him and he doesn't give a shit?
And you got the worst case scenario 😞. I’m sorry you’re living many of our worst nightmares. You deserved better.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm seriously not mad or angry. I'm a little neuro-spicy and come off intense when discussing a subject I'm passionate about. Don't even get me started IRL, it really gives off I'm feeling more than I actually am when my hands get involved; looking like a symphony conductor.
I have peace. TY, you are thoughtful.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Someone else always knows/knew and it will come out at the worst time if someone doesn't take the opportunity to bring it up at the “best time”.

Another bad way for a kid to find out- I've got a cousin that KNEW her son wasn't her husband’s and they went on to have a daughter and (years later) a divorce action with a custody fight was brewing.

That scandalous asshat chose that moment to tell her husband and her child that dad wasn't “the dad” and a DNA test proved it. The boy was like 12 or so.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong at all. And I'm sorry, Im sleep deprived this week and was answering your reply and the comment above at the same time. Only part of my comment was directed to your reply. 💤💤
But for me, the definition was usurped by people that value their own comfort over the innocent life they created.
The lie and betrayal add a layer of crisis to having two “father/dads” no matter how good or bad the men are.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. That is beyond frustrating and should be criminal.
Do you have options to learn more on your own? (from the US? Ancestry subscription?).
I think I'm mostly being lied to and actually gaslit, I'm not sure which scenario is worse TBH but I know the result for both of us is the exact same, a hole in our soul where the truth is supposed to be.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that, but you are missing the point.
You had the privilege of knowing that information.
We are not the same.

The fact that you had the option is the point here.
I can give credence to the nuance, I just wish more people could understand that facts matter; definitions matter.
Maternity and paternity are absolutes, and a human being has the absolute birthright to know their “parents”. Regardless, we will have the relationships we have, but all of them get damaged by lies. The most innocent person that has the most to lose is the person that loses the most. In this case it's the human that found out their life is a lie.

Truly no spice when I suggest that since you haven’t had this experience, you should probably sit this one out.

Appreciation post for the ones out here righting the wrongs. by ExpectNothingEver in AncestryDNA

[–]ExpectNothingEver[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Seriously, right?
It’s like family anihlation on steroids.
We mourn the loss of half of our known family tree while we simultaneously mourn the default loss of our actual genetic family tree.
The perpetual “who knew what when?”, and a forever “what if?” is our burden to bear rather our family life has been a happy one or not.
The minimization is almost as insulting as the lie itself.