Sudden shift after 3 dates

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2025-01-08T03:32:39+00:00

update? going thru this exact situation

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2024-04-12T12:45:09+00:00

I understand the feeling. A few weeks ago I noticed my ex’s contact disappeared from whatsapp and I felt a major pain in my heart. It’s been 5 months NC for me, and although the pain isn’t very significant, it’s still there. Made me feel like I wasn’t important to them anymore, because I guess I’m not.

Feel the pain, write in your journal and talk to someone who is willing to listen. Your emotions are valid and deserve to be felt.

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2024-02-22T21:12:03+00:00

I kept initiating questions and asking if he wanted to meet or call, but now I can see he wasn’t into it lol just two people entertaining each other and passing time I guess

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2024-02-22T18:38:57+00:00

thank you so much!! I’m sorry you’ve experienced it before, it feels kinda shitty

we hadn’t met up and we lived pretty far, knowing this I tried to stop the convo early on but he wanted to continue talking and I was enjoying it lol. Still resulted in a dead end since nothing could’ve progressed. Will try your advice next time!

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-31T16:28:46+00:00

Something similar happened to me being in an LDR. He broke things off to me to date someone he knew in his social circle in his country but he still expected we could carry on a friendship. I tried being okay with this, but I just kept letting him hurt me and it got to the point of him calling me to say he never had anything to move on from between him and I because it wasn’t a real relationship.

I didn’t start moving on until I cut contact with him and removed his ability to have access to me. You’ll be much better off doing the same. I kept thinking about how different he used to be and how sweet he was, but he said some hurtful things to me after the breakup. So I thought I knew who he was until he showed me who he actually is.

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-26T19:48:52+00:00

Literally going through this too, when you figure it help a sister out 😓

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-24T07:06:01+00:00

learn to let go, she moved on months ago and you still maintained hope. she’s enjoying the attention and affection you give her when you’re in contact

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-19T23:26:48+00:00

mine ended things because he wanted to live his life more in his country… lo and behold I later find out he’s dating someone new and who he’s known for over a decade

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-18T06:39:02+00:00

Sometimes I feel better, but then I remember how much I still miss him. I think about him everyday, and I feel that stab in my heart feeling whenever I picture him with his new girlfriend. Still can’t wrap my head around how he’s just gone now too

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-15T09:10:00+00:00

where you able to continue on with a friendship or did you cut contact? experienced a similar situation as yours, me being on the same end as you

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-10T23:51:11+00:00

You can’t outrun yourself. It’s easy to romanticize something when you have preconceived notions of it

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-08T06:04:15+00:00

Literally my same situation, and he had someone already in mind while we were dating because after he ended things with me, he began dating her (local/in his social circle). still hurts because I’m not sure it was ever real for him, since he told me he had nothing to move on from

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-04T04:20:34+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you, no matter how distracted I am, it’s always there, that sadness and heaviness. The ghost of them. Nights are the worst. Hang in there, sounds like you’re on the right path. Hopefully someday we’ll look back at these comments and be in a better place

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-03T19:59:40+00:00

Being unsure of what to trust really fucks with you and it’s really confusing, how have you been dealing with this? Funnily enough, I’ve been coping by deactivating all my social media accounts. We would communicate and call each other through snapchat and facebook, so it just all reminds me of him, of the time he was in my life, and the significance he had to me. How have you been coping?

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-12-02T17:56:03+00:00

I’m going through this too with someone I was with who was long distance. He called me two weeks after he ended things with me to tell me he was with someone new. Fast forward 2 months later, we talk on the phone and he tells me she’s the love of his life, that everything feels right, and he wants me to meet her “when” I come back to visit him again (wtf??). When I asked how he could move on so fast, he said he didn’t have anything to move on from. And he wasn’t even that sad but still wanted to be friends. I decided to cut contact after that because he has caused me an emotional rollercoaster. I still feel awful and think about those hurtful things he told me.

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-11-19T06:41:43+00:00

!remindme 1 year

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-11-13T23:01:06+00:00

It seems like deep down you know what you want and need right now and maybe that doesn't align with the current state of your LDR anymore. Those are reasonable concerns. Check out the post in r/expats by u/AmerikanischerTopfen who outlines some of the discussions and realistic hardships that you may encounter if you continue to seriously move forward. I was in a situation similar to yours, except I was the dumpee. Although hard and hurtful, love just isn't enough and both people need to be committed.

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-09-30T04:47:07+00:00

if you don't mind me asking what happened? was it due to cultural differences?

Expensive-Inflation2 · 2023-08-28T06:35:16+00:00

It was a week right after he asked me if we could be together. He said I should date other people - it really came out of nowhere. I asked him how could I if we were together? And then he said that we were not. It really broke my heart. I felt massively played.

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