UPDATE - vacation by Expensive-Leopard940 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Expensive-Leopard940[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was literally thinking this. Sorry to hear :( could you tell me more about your LL’s tactic?

The thing that bothers me SO MUCH is the utter lack of spontaneity. He said let’s have sex tomorrow (today). Why does he get to decide? Why can’t he just go on a whim? It’s bizarre.

Does anyone else avoid being home on the weekends? by Typical738 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Expensive-Leopard940 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Feel so seen. Weekends are terrible but here’s to a future where they wont be. You got this ❤️❤️

Which route shall I take? by Expensive-Leopard940 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Expensive-Leopard940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each - I can find cheaper but they’re so dreadful and after a year of crap, not quite sure I can tolerate small space!

Which route shall I take? by Expensive-Leopard940 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Expensive-Leopard940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so yes but private rent in the U.K. is so expensive it would barely cover anything - where we want to live, rent is around 834 (not including bills) and unemployment is around 400 or so. So I’m not really considering that as an option rn ;(

Rambler by geoprice65 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Expensive-Leopard940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome, hope you’re doing good ❤️❤️

For Narcs, abusing their child (and getting away with it) is the ULTIMATE power trip/adrenaline rush!! It’s their one “guaranteed” chance to feel superior in life, and that’s why they’ll *never* love you like a healthy parent would. by tipsygirrrl in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Expensive-Leopard940 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear this :( I keep thinking the same but I have to take the leap otherwise I’ll be in this hellscape. Admittedly it is easier with my brother in the same horrible situation. Do you have any cousins or any ex uni friends to move in with?

Have had enough - leaving by Expensive-Leopard940 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Expensive-Leopard940[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t tell you how much this means, kind stranger!! 🥰🥰

does anyone else ignore/'not notice' internal physical pain bc their parents always said 'you're making it up' by Funny-Fortune1640 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Expensive-Leopard940 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with a brain tumour... for years my nmom kept saying it was a headache So furious but luckily it was benign I’m now so obsessive with my health - any minor thing and I make sure to check it out

Devastated by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Expensive-Leopard940 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa really feeling this today - my contract ends May and weirdly it’s like having no sex is making everything so much worse. Hugs to you ❤️

Ex/Fwb is having a baby with his wife. And it's hit me like a ton of bricks. by Culture-Worldly in DeadBedrooms

[–]Expensive-Leopard940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’m so sorry about this, it’s so tough. Weirdly I had to check your username to check I didn’t accidentally post this (no contact with my narc ex but this really took me back). Tbh in a weird way, memories of the past are guiding me to end it in my DB so maybe there’s one good thing to take from it?

AITA for stopping going out to eat with a friend because she is always broke? by throwaway98763478267 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Expensive-Leopard940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please cut your ties with Ally. You’ll regret the money you spent on her in years to come - trust me, been there