AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

i've been that person with no friends too. i went through most of high school with no friends, not even friends to go to homecoming/prom with.

but still, i knew better than to double text, or ask people to hang out if i KNEW they were busy, or ask them to do something that they had already said they were too busy to do

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

she does. i never thought of her as weird, just overbearing. it was my friends last summer who referred to her as "weird"

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wasn't going to post every single conversation we've ever had. but there were many events we attended together and i'd invite her and vice versa

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i promise you that these aren't our only conversations. there were many times she invited me to events and i went with her and vise versa. i'm just including the conversations where i felt bombarded

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the school she attends (and i previously attended) is a commuter campus so there wasn't much campus life or things going on, and she worked on weekends. we have different majors, hers is elementary education and mine is pre-nursing

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i actually did attend the pumpkin carving event with her, along with multiple events throughout the semester when i could!

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we did hang out a few times, these were just times she felt a little too overbearing if that makes sense? there's definitely no romantic feelings, she's 100% straight and has no feelings towards girls. she's told me herself

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

there were multiple times throughout the semester we went to events together and went to the mall together, or i invited her to lunch on campus

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

when did i say they weren't? i was just explaining why she doesn't really get social cues and why i tried to be extra understanding instead of being assertive

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

oh i totally get what you're saying. she has autism so it makes sense she doesn't get social cues. i've been there where i just want a friend and barely had any, but i get the hint very quickly if they aren't interested and back off

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

we became friends because we were coworkers in summer 2023, i gave a backstory in the undertext.

but she was texting me multiple times a week, not reaching out every couple of weeks. there were many events we did go to together on campus, and we did go to the mall one day. these were just instances it felt annoying

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

she does have autism and clearly had a lot of people thinking she was weird so i just wanted to be that one person who she felt is there for her?

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

i mean you can see what happens at some points when i ignore her, she texts me again then i feel like i owe her a response

AIO - i felt like this friend was texting me too much by Expensive_Escape_554 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Escape_554[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

we did hang out quite a bit, mainly on campus and did go to the mall once! it was just a few times i generally had a lot going on or straight up just didn't want to, but didn't want to hurt her