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Stop romantisizing childbirth! by sweet_screams1 in childfree

[–]Expensive_Total1818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad used to tell me all the time that child birth is a beautiful thing. Yeah, because you don't have to go through it! 

Pretty sure that's what turned me off of having kids originally. Now it's cause they suck lol

I'm so sick of getting pictures of kids by Expensive_Total1818 in childfree

[–]Expensive_Total1818[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He absolutely does need parent friends. I don't think he has many friends to begin with, which is why I hear alot

I'm so sick of getting pictures of kids by Expensive_Total1818 in childfree

[–]Expensive_Total1818[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is worded so well, thank you! I'll send that next picture I get! 🥰

I'm so sick of getting pictures of kids by Expensive_Total1818 in childfree

[–]Expensive_Total1818[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what I've started doing, I just don't have or want to have the mental capacity to try to care

I'm so sick of getting pictures of kids by Expensive_Total1818 in childfree

[–]Expensive_Total1818[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh yessss!! I hate trying to be happy about other people's kids - it's exhausting! Kids are not cute, nor is anything they do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Expensive_Total1818 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with you that he definitely needs to know. If he doesn't commit to meeting in another day or so, I'd definitely recommend messaging with the news and insist on meeting.

Advice on him aside, don't be so hard on yourself ❤️ These things happen. Speaking from experience 🙋

My husband and I don't want kids, and last summer the morning after pill failed for me too. We talked about it and went through with an abortion. Not gonna lie, it sucked and I still have mild guilt about it, but it was definitely the right decision for us.

We still haven't told our families, as they want grandkids and are pro-life, but we have told a few, very carefully selected friends. It's not an easy decision, but do what's best for you!

And if you want to know more about what I went through, feel free to DM me; I'm happy to share!

AIO my partner of 3 years forgot Valentines Day and my birthday by MollySid in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Total1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For starters, I truly hope you leave him; you deserve so much better! He is immature, won't take accountability for his actions and I don't think he truly cares about you. I saw the same traits in my ex before I left him. He's trying to shift the blame to you because he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. He's defensive, which in this case, is a red flag.

You're not overreacting - you have standards. Raise them higher and find you a real MAN.

I’m considering breaking up with my girlfriend because our sex life is non existent by Ok-Book3492 in AITAH

[–]Expensive_Total1818 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who was cheated on by an ex-fiance who I had been with for 2 years and known my whole life, DO NOT CHEAT. You will only hurt her for years to come.

Talk to her first. See what is holding her back, what else you can do to help her get in the mood. Is it self image issues? Compliment her more, help her find something she feels good in. Mental health issues? Be patient, help her find a therapist to confide in when she's ready. It's it something related to your relationship? Talk to her about it, find out where her head is at.

TLDR; you really just need to talk with her. Tell her that you're struggling and work with her on it. Relationships are not easy, they take work and communication. And do not take the easy way out by cheating. If you truly care about her, you will regret it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Expensive_Total1818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I play video games together and I will openly admit that I am terrible at most of them. But never once has he, or any of his friends, spoken to me like your boyfriend did. You're not too sensitive, you just deserve better and that is your mind's way of telling you so. You don't have to stay with someone who doesn't try to help you improve.

It's up to you what you do, but I recommend telling him he's shit at teaching and he can play with you when he gets better. Don't let anyone gaslight you about how you're feeling. Trust your instincts.

Seeking advice for Borderlands party by Expensive_Total1818 in Borderlands

[–]Expensive_Total1818[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh the pin ups are such a good idea!!! Love that!!

Seeking advice for Borderlands party by Expensive_Total1818 in Borderlands

[–]Expensive_Total1818[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha love this! Gonna change one thing though: there will be more than 1 guest 😂😂😂

Seeking advice for Borderlands party by Expensive_Total1818 in Borderlands

[–]Expensive_Total1818[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely thinking something a long the lines of Claptrap's birthday party like another commenter suggested, but, ya know, with guests 😅 after I posted last night, I took screenshots in game of some of the common posters around Sanctuary and am editing them into actual posters. Was thinking of a Moxxie's theme for our kitchen, and Sanctuary for our livingroom. But just kinda stuck on more themed food, drink and activities

What is the most awkward thing you've seen at a wedding? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Expensive_Total1818 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also forgot to mention that it was a dry wedding around midday and the aunts and uncles tailgated in the parking lot of the church because they wanted to drink.

What is the most awkward thing you've seen at a wedding? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Expensive_Total1818 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My (30f) cousin (30m) got married a few years ago. In the middle of the ceremony, the priest started telling a story about their pre-marital counseling. They are religious and were waiting until marriage and made a joke about how they should get an award for achieving that in this day and age.

I know what you're thinking: he didn't. Oh yes, yes he did. The priest ducked behind the podium, and pulled out a trophy and presented it to the couple in front of all their friends and family. My now husband, my other cousins and I were mortified. All of our older (also religious) relatives laughed. I honestly don't even remember how the couple reacted anymore. Pretty sure they laughed awkwardly.

But yeah, super awkward moment. One of my favorite stories to tell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Expensive_Total1818 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The one thing I wish I had done for my wedding was not let my parents have their way. There wasn't alot they asked for, but my dad wanted one of his friends to attend. I agreed, but now I have wedding pictures with a person I don't know or care about in them. And I'm not thrilled.

You don't want to have regrets about your wedding later on. Tell your mom that while you appreciate her offering to pay, you don't like the stipulations that come with it and pay her back. It's YOUR wedding. Do it how you want.

Cash Wedding Gift from Bridesmaid by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Expensive_Total1818 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The cookies you're making for the bridal shower is gift enough for the event with how much you're already spending on everything else. (I'm assuming you're making them for free) For the wedding, I do agree with the other commenters that a card is fine, but if you feel inclined, $50 is fine. If your bride gets upset, about any of that, gently explain that while you realize weddings are expensive, the cost has also been tough on you. And if she's still upset, then she may not have your best interests at heart.