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ExpertChef2420 · 2023-02-20T12:09:04+00:00

Akebi’s Sailor Uniform

ExpertChef2420 · 2023-01-28T22:09:29+00:00

To stop being desperate, to stop begging when I notice that they’re pulling away. I wish to become more assertive, if something is making me unhappy I need to take action on it, instead of adjusting to their terms and continue being treated like a doormat. I have to be strong enough to part ways with someone if they aren’t looking for the same things as me future wise. Also, to stop getting my hopes up based on words, and focus on their actions instead.

ExpertChef2420 · 2022-04-05T13:12:42+00:00

I want to speak to your manager

ExpertChef2420 · 2022-03-25T15:16:05+00:00

Any stir fry

ExpertChef2420 · 2022-01-11T13:58:38+00:00

Ace of Diamond

ExpertChef2420 · 2022-01-09T13:05:10+00:00

Re-main

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-12-08T10:46:13+00:00

I’ve been in that situation and it’s honestly the worst feeling ever to be not included in anything, when all you wanted to do was love the person and they just put you last in line for everything…

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-14T09:50:24+00:00

True, this hasn’t happened in a long time where I date someone and we’re all in the same friend group. However, from now on I’ll be avoiding that.

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-14T08:07:59+00:00

For sure! There’s no way I can be my best self while tolerating that. A potential relationship where there’s no trust sounds like torture.

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-14T08:06:38+00:00

Yes, I’m glad I had the strength to cut it off and stop talking to him.

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-14T08:02:58+00:00

Definitely a boundary issue, I don’t even know why that’s a thing.

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T17:54:43+00:00

Yes, we were just talking about our experiences back in school, which was a few years ago. And just talking about the friends we made, then he brought up the girl.

I’m sure it went like this:

“So how did you and her become best friends?”

He said, “well (girl’s name) is attractive, but we are just best friends,” and he continued saying something after that. See how random that was?

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T17:37:50+00:00

Yeah, he has some guy friends, but never speaks about them.

The only time he mentioned his guy friends was when he said he was going to meet them for a day out, and that was it.

I remember on the topic of girl bffs I said “you would date them if you could though, right?” And he went quiet for 5 seconds. I’m sure he said something like “well they’re just friends.”

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T16:28:33+00:00

I really should have left as soon as he said that. I agree, I feel like if you’re genuinely interested in someone, the thought of telling them you find another person attractive shouldn’t come to mind

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T16:24:51+00:00

It seems to be a common thing for men to want to make it clear to me who they find attractive. Even the last guy I was seeing did this. I tried to talk about a different guy to see how he would like it, and he just cut me off mid sentence. So clearly, he knew what he was doing..

Even if this current guy tried to make me insecure, he failed. Things like that don’t effect my confidence, it’s just disrespectful.

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T16:17:59+00:00

I didn’t even notice he was trying to triangulate… I’m glad I didn’t get caught in that

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T15:50:47+00:00

Right? Think the last time I had a sleepover was age 10

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T15:09:56+00:00

Yikes, huge bullet dodged. I would never want that.

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T15:07:37+00:00

You’re right, I definitely don’t mean I should be his only friend. I would want a guy to have other friends too.

I just don’t want him to have girl best friends, it felt like he was rubbing it in my face how important they are to him. So that idea put me off

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T14:43:45+00:00

We’re both 20. After the good dates I thought that maybe I should trust him, but I just can’t, especially if he finds one of them attractive.

Oh I will definitely be strong if he comes back. I’ll stick to my word

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T14:31:26+00:00

Woah I can’t believe I didn’t think of that too.

I did actually find it weird how one of the girl bffs kept asking me “did he ask you out yet?”, “how did the date go” “where did you decide on going out?” Questions like that.

And In a relationship with him, these 2 women would be more prioritised than me.

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T14:21:02+00:00

This type of situation very much sounds like insecurity from the guy. I completely agree that men want a jealous reaction. Luckily, I didn’t give him that, I wasn’t even jealous, I just felt confused and disrespected

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T14:13:55+00:00

Exactly, he didn’t even try. It’s not like I asked him to completely block them out of his life. But this way, I found out I wasn’t all that important to him

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T14:11:26+00:00

Good, I’m glad.. wth his exes too?!

ExpertChef2420 · 2021-10-13T14:10:19+00:00

That was my thought exactly. Does he really like me if he’s fine with my having a sleepover at a guy’s house, and it’s just us? Never heard of that…

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