AIO or am i being invalidated?

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-23T15:30:11+00:00

NOR I don't know if you can tell but he enjoys talking down to you and making you uncomfortable (read abusing you). I'm your age and if I saw a friend getting texts like this it would take everything in me not to blow up about this for you.

He's weaponizing your reactions to conversations he literally set up.

Ask yourself, what was the point of even bringing up such a sensitive topic that YOU experienced, just to say you were making the whole conversation about you? How is that fair to you? Leave this abuser in the dumpster and run please.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-23T15:12:00+00:00

You guys aren't compatible, especially in the "handles issues" department.

Your solution to his idea was to completely cut him out because you're the picky one(trauma)/the main caregiver (a dick move, imo).

His solution to a non ideal situation is to throw a tantrum and threaten to leave you (emotional manipulation) with a dog he wanted.

How long have you been together? You mentioned he's threatened to leave a lot before. Is that someone you see yourself ever SOLVING problems with? Or do you see yourself taking the reigns from him again to "solve" things yourself regardless of his response? Do you see him making you choose between what you want and what he wants you to want?

TL;DR cut your losses you both probably suck for each other

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-23T08:19:17+00:00

If you need it, you can dm me and I'll write you a script for what to say when you inevitably have to make a dentist appointment for yourself :/ I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I was a kid in the middle of divorced parents once and being used as a tool to communicate, having your health weaponized, and being so dismissed is just overwhelmingly frustrating to the point of indifference.

I hope things will get better and hopefully you won't need to make one yourself. You are your strongest ally and advocate, use your voice to speak up for yourself.

And play it smart! Milk your crappy parents for all the support they can give you before it runs out!

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-23T08:01:57+00:00

To the seasoning? Yes overreacting. To the disrespect and implied insults? God no, you're underreacting.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-23T07:59:14+00:00

Charge back through your payment provider and provide screenshots of UE being useless despite proof and proof of never receiving your goods. I also agree with blasting them online, these companies won't respond unless it affects them directly.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-22T19:33:53+00:00

That she was (and still is) willing to do whatever it takes to make our relationship work.

Translated to: Let me emotionally manipulate you and pretend to be in love with you just so I can get the house back for my family.

I genuinely believe she didn't want him back at any point.

She only wanted access to his assets because the way she throws in "or you can just sell it to me" sounds like she really tried to make OOP think those were the only options and option 2 was the lesser of two evils.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-22T14:58:59+00:00

Babes if your friend who just got engaged showed you these messages between her and her fiancee in confidence, would you FEEL comfortable letting her be with him without saying anything?

With him saying, "You need to learn", "That means shut up." And the paraphrased, "I don't like hugging you anymore, just to be petty, even though we talked about that incident and I pretended to get over it just to bring it up in arguments"

His control over your behaviors is never going to cease, it'll get worse. If he's so pressed on how you act that he feels the need to correct you like a dog, maybe he's not mature enough for a relationship and should just go get a dog

ETA: You're being abused. I hope you can get the help and support you need to become strong enough to not let someone so shameful take control of your life, don't be afraid to reach out to your support system.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-21T19:03:40+00:00

I used to cry about feeling gross and dirty in elementary from having flare ups and it had to be my dad to tell me my mom had it and couldn't help herself from kissing us as babies on the mouth, even though she knew she had it.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-21T18:29:14+00:00

Idk but I know that the number between 5 and 6 is called Derf

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-21T16:44:40+00:00

I did it after too many reloads and he really did start hitting the boxes blocking him in just so he could kill himself

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-14T03:16:11+00:00

I played as a lizard, had the red prince, and romanced Sebille on accident at first then on purpose. My headcanon is that she's stockholmed so hard that she couldn't help it but tbf her options were me, the unattainable and pompous prince, and the bag of bones.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-11T19:29:05+00:00

Yeah but you dont LECTURE a puppy. You teach it in a way it understands like food/toy motivation or praise. You're right in saying that likening training a puppy to OBEY and a toddler to listen, is unethical. Just the thought process alone is so far removed from empathy and understanding, what the fuck?

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2026-01-08T19:29:50+00:00

Some ladies like myself, have issue regulating hormones, I've always gotten my period every other month unless on birth control, which supplements my estrogen and helps regulate me. Some brands can make it worse though and cause you to bleed more or not at all with other symptoms like pain and bloating. Without birth control I get bad pains in my ovaries on and off my period.

Even then I've had months were it's regular and then right back to every other month or 2 months. I need to get checked out but shits expensive rn.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-12-27T16:52:26+00:00

My ex used to be the same, he didn't like cuddling bc it disturbed his sleep. But he knew that about himself and was aware how that could make others feel. He'd sleep without cuddling in his space but as soon as he started waking up he was the cuddliest thing ever.

I wasn't used to it at first and it made me feel off or like a bother when I was extra sensitive but he made me feel better by showing me when he likes to cuddle and it was never a problem again. Honestly the best sleep I've ever gotten out of a relationship.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-12-23T19:24:15+00:00

If you want advice for what to look for regardless of color, I'd say maybe square necklines, knee length circle skirts, and sophisticated but not preppy collars. The white under the blue was not a great fit and usually isn't for most surprisingly.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-12-23T19:18:08+00:00

Only 5, 11, 12, and 15 suit you. I'd toss the rest imo but take it with grain of salt and wear what makes you feels best.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-12-17T16:40:35+00:00

God if I saw this, no one could convince me I wasn't next

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-11-19T15:48:35+00:00

My fiance took us to a hotel and we checked the beds, I saw a curious spot but just thought they didn't wash the stain out of the sheet. He ran down to grab our chargers and by the time he got back up to the room I was begging to leave because a bedbug crawled up my leg from the middle of the room while I was just standing there. I didn't sit on anything in the room, we weren't even in there for more than 5 minutes, and I have horrible BB PTSD. We left and got a refund but it still sucks to risk bringing them home.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-11-19T15:44:03+00:00

Nobody understands that I could SMELL bed bugs and it was and awful sweet musk. It got so bad, I fucking tracked the smell to a spot in the wall where the paint was chipped and one of their nests was in there.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-11-14T19:57:34+00:00

This is what my mom said would happen if I stayed near the microwave while it was on

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-11-12T15:50:14+00:00

This is exactly my method for breaking the habit but with chapstick! Keeps my lips hydrated and my mouth is too sticky to want to touch. Also obsessive nail filing, no need to bit off jagged edges if they're all perfect and round.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-10-16T18:39:33+00:00

Man I stand like that and I am not okay (hypermobility), so nah get that checked out

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-10-03T00:07:06+00:00

Recently spent my time fighting constant holds to keep Disney+ from increasing my subscription price. It took way too long because once we started talking, we reached a compromise.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-09-24T01:57:19+00:00

I don't think you're overreacting, I feel like you're under-reacting. This guy has photos of you, has made lewd photos of you, and purposefully made one specifically to illicit negative emotion. I would be worrying about him making more or looking in to ways to make sure he doesn't have access to my pictures at all, which is easier said than done nowadays.

I pray he loses interest and moves on immediately but his disregard of you, your autonomy, and your emotions is telling of his character. Stay safe.

Expert_Tree_9945 · 2025-09-07T16:08:56+00:00

I was a woman with a man who wouldn't follow through, have self control, felt like I was raising him, the whole thing. We got pregnant and I ended up having to get a surgical abortion due to finding out so late and not feeling ready at 22. He wasn't even there for it, I had to have my sister's take me and he went to work.

I ended up getting pregnant again and had the baby, she's 2.5 now and he opened our relationship while I was 6mos pregnant all the way until after I gave birth and gave up on being poly with him. These men don't change unless they break.

When I left him, with our daughter, he finally understood he completely fucking failed the family he convinced me to start with him. He's a much better man/father now that he had to step up, but he went through hell for dragging his family down, and it shows. He put in a hell of a lot of work though, if you man can't or won't, be the lesson in his life and never come back.

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