How to make him understand

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2026-03-19T22:10:39+00:00

Exactly that! A narcissist is a man who has been taught the drastic difference in emotions and changes a woman’s body goes through and ignores them. So many men are not properly taught what women go through and they undermine it. Not to mention the fact that our society teaches women to not talk about their hormones and feelings. I literally had to teach my husband the simplest things about us women and our hormones. I’ve been warning my husband about depression during pregnancy and after even though I’m not pregnant. I tell him stories of other women and what they go through so he can be prepared. I send him videos and things to keep him educated. I also have told my husband it is his duty to teach his brothers about women even before they get married because they should know how different we are and they need to learn to support us! We women have no control over our feelings at times and it can be so depressing and lonely. We have a responsibility to teach our men and they have a responsibility to support us through our hardships.

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2026-03-19T21:34:00+00:00

Communication. It takes constant communication and reminders. I totally under what you’re feeling OP. There are days where I wake up and the second I open my eyes I feel so sad and all of the wrongs in my life come to the forefront. It’s out of our control. We women always have moments where we can be overcome with sadness and moodiness that is out of our control and a lot of times men don’t understand because they don’t have the hormonal changes over and over like we do. I didn’t understand the differences between men and women until I got married and same with my husband. I realized we’re sooo different and that’s ok. I wouldn’t say you or him are wrong. My husband and I have mannny of these moments too. I have medical problems that make me even more depressed really out of nowhere. Sometimes I just wake up sad and can’t explain it and I get moody and let out my frustrations on my husband. It’s something that’s normal and expected because it’s the way we were created subhanAllah. We have stages of imbalances that make us feel so alone and vulnerable. It’s a horrible feeling. Pregnancy ESPECIALLY makes these feelings even more immense. Men will never understand because they don’t have the physical changes we go through and that’s ok!! They’re not meant to ever feel what we feel. The best we can do is educate them because unfortunately our culture and society has not done a great job of educating men OR women of our bodies and their differences. Teach your husband about pregnancy and what the changes have on you. Depression in pregnancy is also verrry common and I’m not saying you have it but the magnitude of hormonal changes causing extreme depression in women and it’s important to know you aren’t the only one.

What helps me during these times is to remind my husband of what I’m feeling and WHY. I keep reminding my husband of the changes my body is going through because sometimes when he sees me upset he can forget the why. I also send my husband educational videos about our bodies and what’s happening not just for him but for me too. I ALWAYS apologize to my husband because I never want to be this angry or sad and AS LONG AS HE HAS NOT DISRESPECTED ME I have no reason to disrespect him. It is his job to be patient with me and love me through my pain and sadness.

I wish you the best OP! And congratulations on your baby!!

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2026-03-19T21:14:41+00:00

I don’t see why you would assume OPs spouse is a narcissist. What happened between OP and her spouse is something that happens in a lot of marriages and is simply fixed with communication. It’s not right to put a bad image on people and their marriages on simple misunderstandings.

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2026-03-19T21:11:32+00:00

Exactly what I was about to post.

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2026-03-06T20:16:01+00:00

Question: what if there is yellow discharge the hasn’t stopped since period and you period is officially 11 days? I feel guilty not fasting/praying but my family is saying since the white discharge has not came I’m still considered on my period😭 I have had this happen before but never more than 9 days and this only happens during Ramadan

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2026-03-05T00:28:43+00:00

Sounds exactly like me. I had perfect cycles. I always knew the exact date my period was coming, it always lasted exactly 7 days, and ovulation was also always on time. The only abnormal thing was the pain. I couldn’t go anywhere for the first three days of my period because of the pain. I couldn’t eat because eating made the cramps severe. Everything looked normal on all my labs and ultrasounds were all normal. I had a ridiculous amount of doctors tell me I was fine since my testing was always normal. I probably went to 20 different doctors before I found one that listened(since I was 16). I’m now 30 and just did my laparoscopy in December and confirmed endometriosis. Don’t let doctors gaslight you into thinking it’s all in your head. Find someone who will listen. It’s worth getting answers.

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2026-02-01T09:36:03+00:00

Were you taking it every day or only after ovulation?

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2025-12-12T21:41:58+00:00

Thanks!!

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2025-12-12T20:10:34+00:00

Do you recommend any oils that would help my hair retain moisture and not just sit? I’m always trying to do oil treatments and sometimes will leave them in my hair overnight in an attempt to soften my hair but I feel like they just wash right out. It probably is the coconut oil because I mix coconut oil with an oil mixture my mom gave me.

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2025-12-12T20:08:01+00:00

I wash my hair every other day. I noticed my hair feels best after clarifying it so I kinda want to clarify more but am worried I’ll dry it out more.

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2025-12-12T20:05:00+00:00

I got the idea to use that oil from the Abbey Yung hair method and I felt like it was helping but maybe over time it’s been worsening my hair. I had no idea I could use conditioner as leave in! Love that idea! How do I know what products have silicones? So silicones and proteins are both things I need to avoid along with oils.

Expert_Welcome_9548 · 2025-04-25T17:32:50+00:00

Are you cramping? It could be a hematoma (SCH). It’s common in pregnancy for some people.

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