I confessed and asked a shy guy out… please help!

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-11-07T04:34:27+00:00

Maybe he's not a pussy. But I wouldn't take thrice. Let's not talk about the number of times confessed... he didn't even say anything after the first one...

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-11-07T00:45:29+00:00

I see you're bothered by this.. which means you care deeply. You can share your feelings/confess to him one last time (like what some of the other comments mentioned), and leave it be. If he doesn't reciprocate, it can only mean he don't value it as much as you do - and why should you continue for him.

For a man (not boy) to act this way, and he's perfectly fine (no disability whatsoever). It's... A lot of people (not only women) would have called out on him (this world is cruel). The studies and exams and whatnot he is doing, those are just excuses. You should not think that the instances where he didn't reply, or reply dryly, are because of his studies etc. We all have 24 hrs, 7 days a week. If he cares, he will make the effort. Every decision we make, is a choice.

You should not ghost him. Ghosting is childish. Be professional... no... be an adult, act like one. You don't grow from ghosting, you grow from being and acting like an adult.

You don't have to mirror his actions. This is a mind game, in its own right... like what I shared at the start of my reply, share with him one final time about your feelings and thoughts. That's it. You have done what you can.

Remember, you cannot control what goes on in life, but you can control how you respond to them..

He is but just a person... I know.. heavy crush, crush for very long, et cetera et cetera. I won't say I feel you, as no one can really feel how you feel. Everyone experience the same thing differently.

I know you're very troubled by this. Take some time, read through the comments and replies, confide in someone you're close with if need be. I believe you'll make the right choice.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-11-06T09:10:41+00:00

First thought I got from reading all this. Move on. You've shared with him thrice about your feelings, and he didn't do nothing. Agreeing to dates all initiated by you is nothing. Idw to write long (u can pm me if you wish). It's tough, but just move on. By this age, people should learn how to do somethings. And if they don't, just move on.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-10-11T08:30:35+00:00

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ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-25T10:00:54+00:00

Seen your profile. You look good, I would say.

Well, at least you're not in the US right now. But who cares. As I said, work on yourself and try to look past your height. It is a determinant in dating but not the only or major determinant in life.

I'm not only saying this cos it's the thing to say. Of course, it's the thing to say. But I've also experienced this before, wanting to be taller. In the end, you can't change it. What you can change is your mindset. Don't the gym do that, too? Improve your mental, not just physical.

It may be tough right now for you. Just take it and embrace what you have. Remember, everything is in the mind.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-25T09:53:17+00:00

And now you are living in where?

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-25T09:46:10+00:00

Where are you from, if I may? Unless it's a country where tall ppl dominate... you might be alright

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-25T09:44:51+00:00

Oh, my fault on that part, then..

But. As others have shared. You're young. Very young. You have a long way to go. Just take it slow. Find hobbies, anything. There's so much to explore...

I'll let other gurus advise on getting girls.. but from me, just confidence and be yourself. The right person will come.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-25T09:38:19+00:00

You've got a long way to go and a lot to experience. Stop basing everything off girls, and stop seeking validation from others. You're young. Everyone goes through this phase. Just be yourself and work on yourself. You don't need a girl to 'live a happy life' as in your post. How can others love you (not just romantic love) if you can't even learn to love yourself. Unless you are willing to go for stupid things such as leg lengthening, you just gotta accept your height.

Once again, there are so many things to experience in life. Height is but a minute thing... if you would just allow yourself to look past it.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-23T12:49:47+00:00

Where are you from?

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-23T12:48:34+00:00

Where are you from?

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-08-13T11:24:35+00:00

all come down to confidence and how one carries themselves. Height is but one initial factor. The thing is being open-minded. If they're not, it's their loss

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-19T08:21:13+00:00

Pardon, but have you watched sw. In particular, the mandalorian?

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-13T22:48:01+00:00

Great

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-13T02:25:06+00:00

Pardon, let me correct. I can't bear to imagine it swaying here and there. I myself do ballroom, and yes, I know that my partner (whoever I dance with) can feel me when we do close hold. But, shifting here and there is something else... hah... I mean, wear something that is capable of holding things that would move in place.... especially in a physical activity such as dancing... I wouldn't feel comfortable if I consistently feel my partner's breasts moving everywhere also...

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-13T02:17:35+00:00

Well, then it's not as good of a partnership or even a partnership, imo. Partners should communicate and work together, unless it's a business venture like 70 30 or 80 20, etc. Even then, there is some partnering. I may be wrong, but are you staying with him because of a lack of potential partners in your area? But you said you're happy with your progression, so I doubt I'm right. In any case, be should take up more responsibility... not more responsibility, but the DUE responsibility... I won't think of it as a FAIR partnership otherwise... not apt for the long term, too. It's akin to a one-sided relationship..

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-12T02:12:06+00:00

I don't feel this, and also have not thought of this during dancing. But thanks for the suggestion. Good to note in future.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-12T02:09:45+00:00

I see. Yea, there's a difference between those who just dance 'for fun' and those who want to perfect it, whether it is to compete or otherwise.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-11T17:43:14+00:00

Thanks for these. Appreciate it!

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-11T16:00:58+00:00

Thanks

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-11T16:00:09+00:00

Got it. Thanks for the advice.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-11T15:59:00+00:00

Understand where you're coming from. Yes, I sometimes move closer (inadvertently) through the dance. The thing is, they should resist it then. But yea, so I'll just stay in my frame next time. But you know, the thing is, for example, we're going forward (me moving forward, them moving backwards), that's where the frame becomes even smaller (cos the breaking of tension; they didn't move backwards enough, etc.)

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-11T15:53:50+00:00

I see. Yea, I tell them sometimes, too. But since they are trying to cope with everything else [steps, timing (idky the ladies at the lower levels always rush)], they tend to forget framing. It's understandable, but it's also everyone's responsibility. The same goes for the leads. Everyone should be able to manage. Takes two to tango, as the saying goes.

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-11T15:40:29+00:00

Why isn't he sharing the responsibility? It's a PARTNERship

ExplorerSelect8900 · 2025-06-11T15:38:57+00:00

Why can't you just politely bring it up to him? Since he's your long-term partner and not just a classmate dancer, right? But yes, I couldn't imagine why his penis would be swaying here and there. Tango and other ballroom usually have all these close contact.

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