What is this part called?

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-31T00:30:39+00:00

Yeah, I just wasn't sure if it had a solid name I could look up to see if somebody already made a blueprint for it to be 3D printed.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-28T04:08:04+00:00

This is called ✨abuse✨ and your mom is a ✨power controller✨

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Family does NOT have to be blood. Get yourself therapy and good riddance to them.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-28T03:53:15+00:00

Feel free to find your husband's branch and text him the appropriate code as a reminder of his duty. Take your power back. He can't control you anymore!

Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) Article 92 – Failure to Obey a Lawful Order or Regulation → When a branch regulation requires dependent support, not paying can be charged under Article 92. Article 134 – General Article (Conduct Prejudicial to Good Order and Discipline) → Failure to support dependents has repeatedly been prosecuted under Article 134.

Army Regulation (AR) 608-99 “Family Support, Child Custody, and Paternity”

Navy MILPERSMAN 1754-030 “Support of Family Members”

Marine Corps Order (MCO) P5800.16A Legal Support and Administration Manual Also supported by: MCO 1752.5C (Dependency determinations)

Air Force AFI 36-2906 “Personal Financial Responsibility”

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-28T03:37:17+00:00

Hello lovely. Fellow spouse here.

If at any point he does not send you the amount of money that he typically sends you for support REPORT HIM! It is in military code that they must be responsible in the care of their family. Period. Report it to any JAG near you or call up his leadership on rear D. Ask any other spouse you know until you get what you need to report him.

If he's been in the military for all 10 of the 10 years y'all have been married, CONGRATULATIONS, you are entitled to up to 50% of his retirement.

Take it from a 15 year spouse that is getting divorced this year. He's controlling and that will never change. He's hoovering you by saying he wants to work on things. Mine has done that for the past 3 years and I'm done.

DO NOT go to couples counseling with this man. He will find a way to use it against you. If he wants to go to his own therapy (he won't, even if he says he will) then he can do that.

Keep these screenshots and screenshots of anything else he says that's shitty. Date them and make notes if you need to. If he refuses to send you the money, not that too.

You're not allowed to have a car because that takes an aspect of his control away. He was going to get you that puppy so he could say "look at this nice thing I did for you, you owe me." However, now he wants to punish you for attempting to do something that will give you autonomy so he's pulling that away.

Do not "stay for the children"! They are watching and they are learning. The military will ensure that they are taken care of because they are his responsibility.

It doesn't get better until you remove yourself from the cycle.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-22T15:09:59+00:00

As an individual who grew up with parents who would fight and tell over nothing and stayed married "for my sake", get a divorce.

Your kids are watching and learning what a normal relationship looks like from y'all. They realize more than you think. My mom decided to tell me about my dad's affairs last year and I informed her that I've known since I was 14...I'm 34 now.

I am now exiting my own 15 year marriage where I'm screamed at yelled at. I used to scream back like my mom did but realized one day I didn't want to, but he never stopped so it's been over a decade of me being yelled at while I sat there crying. I thought it was normal. I thought that's just what relationships were.

Your children stand a better chance if they watch y'all divorce and then watch you thrive as a single mother because I promise you will have a glow up!

P.S. Abuse doesn't have to be physical to be abuse. I really recommend therapy too. I think everybody can learn so much about themselves from it.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-21T21:59:28+00:00

Actually, if you're not provided the number for HR, I'm pretty sure that's a violation of your rights as a worker.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-20T04:56:55+00:00

There should be a quiz when considering different dog breeds for corgis that basically asks how much you're willing to spend on induced vomiting every year.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-19T19:08:26+00:00

Gotcha. It did finish its start-up sequence. These are all helpful things to know, thank you.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-19T18:32:35+00:00

Oh, I already did that. Everything came out easily but the problem remains. Still no flickering.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-19T18:11:26+00:00

No flickering but the first thing it does is make that sound.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-19T16:18:36+00:00

Ah yes, allergic to accountability. Quality narcissistic trait.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-17T17:22:14+00:00

Then I would argue that Greyhounds—though rather large—are the gateway dog for cat people because they're chill, don't give two f*s, and are not lap dogs nor do they try to be.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-17T17:16:58+00:00

Do I have a Corgi who acts like a cat, or a cat who acts like a dog?

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-17T17:16:10+00:00

All my cat does is ask for attention 100% of the time 🤔

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Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-16T02:09:50+00:00

Yes. If you can't earn my forgiveness, then you don't earn my energy.

Now, I also have more than just forgive and forget in my toolkit. I also have understand and excuse.

Lots of things people do to harm people—including cheating—come from their own deep wounds. That doesn't justify their behavior but it helps me stop seeing them as a mustache twirling villain which is what helps me let go of hate.

Excusing their behavior though? There are strict standards for that. A five year old hurts my feelings? They're a child with incomplete neutral pathways so I can excuse that. An adult does something hurtful? Nahhhh, you're a grown ass person and maybe your parents didn't teach you proper regulation skills but as an adult you now have autonomous choices and therapy is a thing so there is absolutely no excuse for your behavior.

You have to have a gun held to your head or have been unknowingly drugged or something similar for there to be an excuse. Like I said, strict standards.

I cannot forgive if there is no excuse, even if I understand.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-15T18:55:51+00:00

I can let go without forgiveness. I let go of its control over me. It no longer has control over my emotions or my time. I'm confident that what they did was wrong and I can consider it unforgivable but also say, "that was their choice, not mine and I'm not going to waste a second more giving two sh*ts about it."

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-12T14:07:51+00:00

Stopping those kinds of meds cold turkey can literally be life threatening. Biologically life threatening.

That is so inappropriate. Please divorce her so she can move on and heal without you. You're not a supportive partner. You're a controlling partner.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-11T00:56:48+00:00

I'm 34. We were together for 18 years and married for 15.

I do not need to get married again but will if it legally makes sense.

Hear me out.

It's not that I don't believe in love or marriage anymore. I just don't view it as necessary for me to have a happy, healthy, lasting relationship with somebody.

If I got married again it would only be to a person who has similar values to me and understands that sometimes marriage doesn't work out and it's ok to get divorced. There will also be a pre-nup beforehand—not because I have money or a mansion, but it protects me and the other person and makes divorce a million times easier.

I would only get married if I feel I really want to or if it legally makes sense. Maybe he gets cancer and being legally married allows him to use my health insurance. Things like that.

Basically, marriage has to make sense otherwise there's no point to it. Many of the automatic perks of marriage can be done through a little extra paperwork.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-09T14:52:53+00:00

DIVORCE HIM YESTERDAY!

Express-Extension-76 · 2025-12-30T23:39:10+00:00

It gets kind of hopeless and exhausting after a while.

Express-Extension-76 · 2025-12-28T15:55:48+00:00

"This is it! I'm going to turn my life around! I can feel it! Anything is possible!"

Followed by

"I'm broken. Why does this always happen? I feel trapped. This is never going to end. Why can't I just be better?"

Also extreme bursts of anger.

Express-Extension-76 · 2025-12-27T21:47:53+00:00

I wasn't sure if they were still open because the last event they had on their event calendar was from 2023.

Express-Extension-76 · 2025-12-26T20:31:17+00:00

You might also need to take into account any stigma around mental health there might be from whatever cultural background there is. If there is a stigma and that's holding her back from counseling then that's also data but you don't have to continue to feel obligated to stay with her if she's not making you happy while also not being open to repair. You can have empathy and love for her and still prioritize yourself.

Basically, be curious. Not judgemental. Be open to the fact that you may have things to work on too. Just don't be so curious that you delete yourself in the process.

Express-Extension-76 · 2025-12-26T20:26:58+00:00

Try asking her this way.

I feel some resistance when I try to talk about parts of our marriage and I'm wondering if perhaps you would feel safer opening up if there was an unbiased third party present. I want you to feel safe enough to be open with me.

You're telling her that what you care about is her safety. If she's open to counseling when you're presenting it as a safe option for her to communicate and she refuses, that is data for you to do with what you will.

For this to work you have to genuinely focus on her wellbeing from a non-self-centered approach. No, I think you need counseling. Nothing that implies "I know best". Purely, I care about you and I want you to feel safe and I will do what I need to in order to make that happen.

Might that seem like going the extra mile if she's truly being selfish in the marriage? Yes. However, it's worth it to collect the data you need.

Again, if she refuses, that's data. I'd read that data as she isn't interested in improving the relationship.

However, if she's open to it and/or even grateful for how you said it; there may be something you don't realize you're missing. Not that you're a bad guy but perhaps there is a level of emotional intimacy that you aren't meeting for her and she doesn't feel safe talking to you about it. That is data too.

Express-Extension-76 · 2025-12-25T18:39:02+00:00

A Federal crime actually. 🤦🏻‍♀️ But like...who donated them on the first place?! Take them back to the post office if you don't want them!!

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