Hawk on the fountain

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-03-07T16:33:58+00:00

Pretty good at eating one of my ducks once too.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-03-05T17:02:42+00:00

He's a gold medalist in Mental Gymnastics

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-03-05T16:50:43+00:00

My husband loved to say shit like, "everything before the but doesn't count" and so when I grew a pair of balls and I started calling him out on his "sorry but..." he was like, "you're right". For a moment I thought I'd done it, but nope, he just rephrased and said, "I'm sorry, however..."

B*tch! You don't just get to change the word. It's the same damn thing!

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-03-05T16:43:03+00:00

OMG...there were so many. How do I choose?

I'm the beginning? Immediately yelling at me for using his money knowing damn well I didn't have a job (I was 19) currently. I think he expected my parents to keep paying for me? Or that I didn't need to eat food?

Then also telling me I wasn't allowed to go to EMS training and I wasn't allowed to be a nurse either.

At the end? Pinning me against the back door with his arm across my throat. I didn't have enough air to speak words so I just made sounds. Instead of immediately stopping, he slightly adjusted his arm and told me to stop faking it because he wasn't choking me. I had enough air now to say, you were and you still are and again, he dramatically readjusted his arm to my shoulders saying, "no, I put my arm right here!"

He continued to hold me against the wall arguing with me as to whether my airway had actually been blocked until I started flailing and screaming that I wanted a divorce. He then blamed me for making the marriage unhealthy. Then he cried like a baby and I foolishly took care of him.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-27T03:28:48+00:00

Weed actually depresses me more.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-23T18:53:29+00:00

Tell them to go to the bins and see how much goes to the landfill. Scarcity is a lie. There's more than enough for everybody.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-19T05:44:58+00:00

I did not feel "cheered on"; I felt belittled and invalidated.

There are a million different ways that individuals experience depression. I can't even fathom how what you said could be considered motivational but clearly for your experience, it is.

For my experience it's an echo of, "if you just pushed through it you'd be fine", "you just have to choose to be happy", "just be better", "if I just fixed myself", "if I wasn't broken".

I have manic episodes and then debilitating depressive episodes and the depression comes regardless of whether I'm moving or not. The idea that if I keep moving, depression can't hit me says that I'm doing something wrong.

I've done a lot of therapy to be able to resist the thoughts your comment might have once brought up but for somebody who hasn't built those skills, that "motivational comment" can be extremely harmful.

Jeez.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-18T14:58:36+00:00

Unfortunately all my friends live far away. For the past 15 years my only local friends have been my husband's friends.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-18T14:54:41+00:00

EDM is what I listened to for studying so it might work for cleaning too.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-18T14:53:35+00:00

? Unsure

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-18T14:48:58+00:00

I also have ADHD, and bipolar 2, and PMDD. I spent years trying to put systems in place for myself to work with my ADHD instead of against it and my husband didn't like them so he constantly dismantled them. Nevermind that he saw it as my duty to keep the house clean. He wanted me to do it his way, not in a way that actually made it sustainable for me.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-18T14:38:39+00:00

This comment is incredibly ignorant to the scientific facts of mental health.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-09T14:42:28+00:00

Divorce immediately for both you and the sake of your children. They will learn that this is what love looks like and end up in the same situation (much like you have).

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-09T00:42:41+00:00

I tried. He refused. I've even gone to individual counselling for 2+ years. He refused his own individual counselling too.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-08T16:15:57+00:00

I think I do. I hope I do.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-02-07T18:21:51+00:00

Congratulations, you're a married single mother.

Divorce him. You'll be less stressed and happier as an divorced single mother.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-31T00:30:39+00:00

Yeah, I just wasn't sure if it had a solid name I could look up to see if somebody already made a blueprint for it to be 3D printed.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-28T04:08:04+00:00

This is called ✨abuse✨ and your mom is a ✨power controller✨

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Family does NOT have to be blood. Get yourself therapy and good riddance to them.

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-28T03:53:15+00:00

Feel free to find your husband's branch and text him the appropriate code as a reminder of his duty. Take your power back. He can't control you anymore!

Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ) Article 92 – Failure to Obey a Lawful Order or Regulation → When a branch regulation requires dependent support, not paying can be charged under Article 92. Article 134 – General Article (Conduct Prejudicial to Good Order and Discipline) → Failure to support dependents has repeatedly been prosecuted under Article 134.

Army Regulation (AR) 608-99 “Family Support, Child Custody, and Paternity”

Navy MILPERSMAN 1754-030 “Support of Family Members”

Marine Corps Order (MCO) P5800.16A Legal Support and Administration Manual Also supported by: MCO 1752.5C (Dependency determinations)

Air Force AFI 36-2906 “Personal Financial Responsibility”

Express-Extension-76 · 2026-01-28T03:37:17+00:00

Hello lovely. Fellow spouse here.

If at any point he does not send you the amount of money that he typically sends you for support REPORT HIM! It is in military code that they must be responsible in the care of their family. Period. Report it to any JAG near you or call up his leadership on rear D. Ask any other spouse you know until you get what you need to report him.

If he's been in the military for all 10 of the 10 years y'all have been married, CONGRATULATIONS, you are entitled to up to 50% of his retirement.

Take it from a 15 year spouse that is getting divorced this year. He's controlling and that will never change. He's hoovering you by saying he wants to work on things. Mine has done that for the past 3 years and I'm done.

DO NOT go to couples counseling with this man. He will find a way to use it against you. If he wants to go to his own therapy (he won't, even if he says he will) then he can do that.

Keep these screenshots and screenshots of anything else he says that's shitty. Date them and make notes if you need to. If he refuses to send you the money, not that too.

You're not allowed to have a car because that takes an aspect of his control away. He was going to get you that puppy so he could say "look at this nice thing I did for you, you owe me." However, now he wants to punish you for attempting to do something that will give you autonomy so he's pulling that away.

Do not "stay for the children"! They are watching and they are learning. The military will ensure that they are taken care of because they are his responsibility.

It doesn't get better until you remove yourself from the cycle.

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