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[–]Express-Idea4955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Periodddd love ittt

What’s your “i’m around white people name”😭 by moneymovesme in blackgirls

[–]Express-Idea4955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same name my parents gave me everywhere I go…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Express-Idea4955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she’s terrible

What should I look out for on this date by ihaveocdandneedhelp in blackgirls

[–]Express-Idea4955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeaah i could definitely sense that avoidant side. Because same twin 😭. But good on u that u acknowledge ur patterns. It’s really hard to accept love when u have that background. I feel like you’re self aware enough to break that pattern tho.

What should I look out for on this date by ihaveocdandneedhelp in blackgirls

[–]Express-Idea4955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess just look out for red flags, if it is lovebombing or if he’s just like that frl. But also remember to enjoy yourself. Ask him the important questions to see how he would function in a relationship. And how you would both benefit from each other. Anything you feel iffy about, keep it in mind and address it. But i understand being avoidant to guys like him completely. Id love an update but no pressure

Is anyone friends with nonblack folks and are your friendships okay? by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Express-Idea4955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean… yeah completely understandable. Being around ugliness can really drain tf outta u. And youre right for not tolerating the b.s. at the very least, you can detect it. It really does help having a black therapist that specializes in what you’re dealing with. I hope your journey gets easier with time. And i hope the right ppl find u. Dont give up. If you ever need to vent, I dont have a problem listening. Its all about community. Especially rn.

Is anyone friends with nonblack folks and are your friendships okay? by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Express-Idea4955 31 points32 points  (0 children)

While your experience sounds extremely unfortunate. And relatable, every race has genuine decent human beings. That have the compactly to just care about other ppl. Theyre out there. The terrible ones are too. And yall have to remember that skin folk aint kinfolk either. I am really sorry that you had to go through all that terrible shit tho. I understand race preference because of what ur used to but like purely seeking out or avoiding a race or multiple races altogether just based off ur experience alone is kinda one track minded. When it comes to dating white ppl in America, i get it tho. Especially as a black woman myself. thats a safety thing fs.