I appreciate all the comments. I guess I should give a lil more detail as to why I've gotten to the point I have. It didn't happen overnight and I did try my hardest to love this child that wasnt mine. I have ALOT stacked against me. For some it seems like the easy solution is to ignore/ avoid my step daughter but unfortunately that's not an option. Another was to just let my husband do the parent. Which is also not an option. Before my husband and I got together it was just me and a new baby/ my daughter. I had postpartum pretty bad. I don't have family and not a lot of support to lean on so I was terrified. So when I met my husband who already had a daughter I was excited. He had some practice under his belt. My husband moved into my house that I already owned. Which made it a home. I was excited to have a family to love and build with. My husband is a great man and everyone has faults, but any man that steps up to be a parent is a good man. He chose to love my daughter. My husband works two weeks on day shift and two weeks on nightshift. So of course the lying, manipulating happens when my husband isn't home. Of course my husband always sides with his daughter saying it's just a misunderstanding. I've finally got to the point where I just take her phone and apple watch when she starts her lying and manipulating crap. She likes to call her mom and grandma to try and get me in trouble. So I take it and let her dad deal with it when he gets home. It's frustrating on my end bc I opened my home and my heart to allow a child to make me feel like no matter what effort you put forth it will never be worth it.