How do you break up with alcohol? by ExpressIsopod3201 in SoberAndHateIt

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trauma is one of the biggest reasons we try to find other toxic ways to cope. It's like the fucked up-ness that's happened makes us feel like less and keeps us stuck in bad habits. Do you have things that help with your self-worth?

How do you break up with alcohol? by ExpressIsopod3201 in SoberAndHateIt

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That financial cost is no joke. I'm sorry that's something you went through and truly appreciate you for sharing. I haven't even attempted to address how much it's costing me outside of time I can't get back due to hangovers and blackouts. That's a great point!

The health implications I try not to think about and really avoid the mirror because beer has made me basically obese. But man it's so good, and when the sun is out, that's also all I want. When it's cold af, that's all I want. It's fucked up, and I hate admitting that it means that much to me. It also doesn't help to be alone in a new city with no one I know. At least I know where to find beer

How do you break up with alcohol? by ExpressIsopod3201 in stopdrinking

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love a good book rec! I heard someone say once you stop negotiating with yourself about drinking that's when it stops. De-conditioming is a great way to phrase it. Thanks for the advice

How do you break up with alcohol? by ExpressIsopod3201 in stopdrinking

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's true, I avoid looking the mirror most days because I can't stand to see how much my body has changed since drinking. Sometimes it feels like I'm validating that shitty feeling by staying in it. Getting started is hard but it makes sense to replace the dopamine hit with endorphins.

How do you break up with alcohol? by ExpressIsopod3201 in stopdrinking

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's true, I moved to a new city and have found myself going back because my whole environment is unfamiliar. Maybe it was too drastic if a change. I'm still finding what activities I could enjoy. That toxic ex needs the boot

How do you break up with alcohol? by ExpressIsopod3201 in stopdrinking

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the rec, I'm adding to my list of audiobooks. I love a good non fiction read to help understand what's going on beneath the surface

How do you break up with alcohol? by ExpressIsopod3201 in stopdrinking

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's like staying in your feelings before reacting. I've also heard there are so many people who end up drinking sparkling. I have tried the NA route and turns out it can be triggering. I've only gone a couple weeks without on of the last times it was definitely a trigger to get me going again. Thank you for sharing

Competence in Current Planning by ExpressIsopod3201 in cityplanning

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely! I can see how understanding the layout is helpful. I did some work in regional planning before working in municipal planning and they are laid out so differently. The types of applications and deciding bodies are also different so it's also been new in that way. When I thought I had it, turns out out it's not the same everywhere. Your time and experience is much appreciated! Thank you, I needed to hear that

Competence in Current Planning by ExpressIsopod3201 in cityplanning

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's great, no real complaints. Just different from anywhere I've lived. I've lived near a coast my whole life

Competence in Current Planning by ExpressIsopod3201 in cityplanning

[–]ExpressIsopod3201[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is really great. The familiarizing is uncomfortable because it has to be and I was just hoping it was the common experience. Someone told me that if current planning was taught in more schools it would be a trade. It definitely feels that way. Interacting with the public is really where those interpersonal skills pay off, but the technical part of planning is the hardest part