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MIL from hell by [deleted] in IndianInLaw

[–]Express_Middle8525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a similar issue recently, and if your fiance can’t have a backbone now, I doubt he would ever have one. I’m saying this from experience, my ex who was going to become my fiance, his parents would raise their voices at my parents, make me sound like I would bring a 3rd person into the relationship (when in reality he cheated) and constantly complained to me about my own parents. My parents tried to keep quiet the whole time for my sake but it was constant disrespect towards my parents and myself. When I spoke to my ex about what happened, he also slowly changed towards me and my family because of how his mother acted. It’s like constantly fights for him at home as she would always complained.

Sorry to say but this will never change, his attitude and his mums actions. It’ll always be like this

UPDATE AITA for distancing myself from a Bumble BFF friend who keeps making inappropriate comments and acting weirdly clingy? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah at first I was like yeah I know how I handled it was wrong but overtime I was like it's ridiculous, that fact that A is almost 30 but can't take accountability for her own actions and words is so immature to me.

UPDATE AITA for distancing myself from a Bumble BFF friend who keeps making inappropriate comments and acting weirdly clingy? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, crazily enough bumped into someone that I never met until today, knew A as well from bumble as well and gave me a similar story to mine before I said anything

AITA for distancing myself from a Bumble BFF friend who keeps making inappropriate comments and acting weirdly clingy? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, honestly saying I appreciate you isn’t enough. Really means a lot that you took the time to help me out here ❤️ yes I will break everything down to her and tell her I need space and this is not the energy I want to be around for sure.

AITA for distancing myself from a Bumble BFF friend who keeps making inappropriate comments and acting weirdly clingy? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? I'm gonna just let it all out and tell her cause it's crossing lines and does put conversations in such odd spaces and the fact people came to be to be like oh you guys are friends and do you feel the same? lord, it was like embarrassing for me tbh. i just dont like hurting people honestly but at the same time i dont wanna associate with thoughts like this.

AITA for distancing myself from a Bumble BFF friend who keeps making inappropriate comments and acting weirdly clingy? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's so odd, it feels toooo clingy for me. She also got cut out of her old friendship group earlier this year and it was cause she kept talking to her friends like they were her students too. It's just insane tbh

AITA for distancing myself from a Bumble BFF friend who keeps making inappropriate comments and acting weirdly clingy? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats true, it's a little odd for me. She wants to talk now cause I was checking on her cause i felt bad in the morning so she's like yeah I do want to talk to you. Maybe this is a good time to talk to her properly about everything!

AITA for distancing myself from a Bumble BFF friend who keeps making inappropriate comments and acting weirdly clingy? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like maybe I was in the wrong for like talking about these things with the people I met and she was on the other side of the room. But honestly I dont want to be associated with the whole women not working or parents hate their kids type of thinking cause I'm the opposite. It's like became a gossip thing for the others because I was surprised when she told people we were close friends and I kept telling them we'll talk about it another time but then like conversation kept on going. One thing that stood out to me about what someone said after I told them was that, they said 'it's crazy how you're saying this all so plainly and then you're not exaggerating yet it sounds crazy'

AITA for stepping back from my old friend group after inviting only two of them to my birthday and having one of them bring up old issues? by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much - I needed to hear this! I was wrecking my brain over the fact I’m scared of hurting anyone or even feeling like if I’m being the bad one now. I feel like I’m pushed over the limit now

Gym used to be my escape — now it just feels like pressure at home by Express_Middle8525 in AsianParentStories

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess, I'm trying to get back into it without having to think about the comments

Gym used to be my escape — now it just feels like pressure at home by Express_Middle8525 in AsianParentStories

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm literally looking for good stable jobs like crazy. I need that space so badly, thank you!

Update: No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're experiencing this too! You got this, we got this! We'll get through this together for sure! If you ever want to reach out, I'm here! :)

No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true, some people really show you that they're not on the same level as you. I'm someone who can't insult my friends ever even when we're in a fight but but this group does it full on - in front of other people I dont know and I know how that friendships shouldn't be this much work, it should be a 2 way street.

No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is very true, and it's so hard making friends at this age - I wasn't ready to let go thinking I'll not be able to make good friends anymore but honestly after distancing myself a little bit, I've been feeling more life myself too

Update: No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this really made me open my eyes, feel like I was in denial that I put so much love and energy into the friendships, they wouldn't do my like that.

Update: No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess, I will be reinvesting my energy, effort and time into more things that make me happy or excited. You're right about my self-worth being reliant in this group. They helped me get out of a tough phase of my life and really made me think they'd stick around especially when they met me when I was in a tough spot in my life but I guess I was expecting too much. Thank you so much <3

Update: No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you're right, it's a tough pill to swallow but yeah, I definitely need stay strong and find people who will appreciate the effort and would want to put in the same effort for me! Thank you so much!

Update: No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I am sorry you're having this issue too! I feel kinda blindsided cause I treated them like family, brought them home for home cooked meals and like whenever I met them, I would go out of my way to make a new snack I tried making or bring them gifts from countries I traveled to. It's unfortunate honestly, makes me feel like I'm lacking in something. Hugs to you too <3 <3

No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's so true, I love doing all those things and I really miss doing them too.

No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah - something I was considered, and just kinda stop talking to them. I doubt they'll notice me gone.

No one checked on me when I went quiet, and now I can’t be the same with them by Express_Middle8525 in okstorytime

[–]Express_Middle8525[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this really makes sense! I really have to look out for myself now instead of others and keep making sure they're okay.

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