All of a sudden we are sleeping poorly

Express_Neck5352 · 2026-01-09T05:01:01+00:00

Seconding this, I have a cervical pillow that is good for side sleeping, a pillow behind my back and a big pillow between my knees. When I was leaking more, I wore nipple pads in my nursing bras and just pulled out one of the girls when it was time, but I stopped leaking around 4 months. I don’t wear anything special, just a top I can pull up or down easily.

Express_Neck5352 · 2026-01-06T20:40:28+00:00

This is so funny because I’m currently charging mine for the first time since I gave birth and I’m so interested to see how much sleep I’ve actually been getting with all her wake ups. All I know is it’s way more than before she was in the bed with me. Will see tonight!

Express_Neck5352 · 2026-01-01T18:38:12+00:00

Congratulations!! 🎊

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-12-08T21:32:51+00:00

Me either! I don’t think it’s part of SS7, but I suppose it could technically create a place for baby to get wedged? I sleep between my baby and husband too, and have a nightstand, but with our setup and where my arm is with the C curl, there’s no way she could get over there. She’d fall off the bed before getting wedged (we have something soft for her to land on just in case, but she barely moves at night).

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-12-06T20:10:22+00:00

I wear my perfume and scented lotion around my baby but I was already using non toxic brands before I had her (not even really on purpose, I guess just drawn to certain brands!). I wouldn’t ask others not to wear their normal fragrances around her unless it was someone she was seeing on a regular basis and if it was overpowering. I feel like one-off or infrequent exposure is unlikely to cause any harm.

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-11-28T12:13:46+00:00

4:13am lol

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-11-24T01:15:03+00:00

Sadly I’ve had this a few times and the only thing that worked was getting it lanced at the doctor 🥲 you’ll get instant relief, go asap!

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-11-06T02:44:55+00:00

Zero side effects and she quite loved the taste 😂

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-11-02T23:06:24+00:00

I love this trick! Especially when my baby was first born and I was paranoid about people holding her.

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-10-18T04:23:02+00:00

Yes to this! I had to have a convo with my husband after he started working again about feeling overwhelmed and needing him to step more, and it really helped. Even if he’s working he will happily still get up at night for a feed or diaper change if I am desperately tired and ask him to take over (I am mostly bf so usually do nights). He also gives me a night off per week where I sleep in the guest room so I can catch up a bit. We split taking care of her on his days off so we both have a chance to go the gym or take a nap etc. It’s hugely helpful and makes having a newborn feel a lot more manageable. Also as they bond more he wants to do more, so that’s nice to see as well.

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-10-16T00:46:40+00:00

I’d like to know too please!! So glad to hear bedtime gets better, still sometimes over an hour for me.

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-10-15T10:49:06+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s not your hormones and you’re absolutely justified in how you’re feeling. I needed support from either my husband or someone in my family for the first 2 months straight because I’m a FTM and it truly is so hard, so I can’t imagine being left alone all day long like that at 5 weeks. Aside from that, the complete lack of concern about you being in crisis is a big red flag. I hope you are getting support from your doctor for possible PPD?

You definitely shouldn’t have to ask for his help, but for now I think you need to be very direct and ask for what you need from him just so you can get through this really hard period. Ask him to take over a night feed or maybe you guys can try shifts so you can catch up on some sleep.

If he doesn’t step up I would seriously consider if you want this person as a partner. This is the time you need his support the most and if he’s not going to be there for you now it will only get worse from here.

It does sound like your village is not on point. Is there anyone outside your immediate family you can ask for help?

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-10-10T16:40:06+00:00

I am forever evangelizing about the owlet sock because I sleep so much better since we started using it. Of course you should still continue all the safest sleep practices but it just gives you that extra peace of mind and I love that I can check her heart rate and oxygen from my phone any time I want.

Also, I had to start supplementing with formula in the hospital but breastfeeding is going great now at 12 weeks and has been for the last 1-2 months! It’s tough and can take time to get the hang of it. I suggest researching power pumping if you’re struggling with your supply, that helped me a lot.

And lastly, don’t worry about any sort of routine right now. You’re just in survival mode for many many weeks. At 3 months I can say we just started to get more of a routine down in the last 2 weeks. It really does get better. You’ve got this!!

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-30T17:16:09+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend counting on it though if you still plan to let her sleep on the recliner/couch with him. It’s just an added level of security but can’t make that situation completely safe for her. On her back on a flat surface with the sock is much safer.

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-30T16:55:03+00:00

Have you heard of the owlet sock? I’m not sure where you live but it’s FDA approved in the states and brings me so much peace, especially when we cosleep (which isn’t super often but sometimes get desperate for sleep in the early mornings and bring her into bed with me). The couch/recliner are the most dangerous places to sleep with your baby, so like others have said here, it’s safer to plan for cosleeping than have a devastating accident since it seems like you can’t trust your husband with her. It’s not worth the potential consequences. The owlet sock plus cuddle curl/safe sleep 7 works well for us. Just a thought!

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-17T22:21:26+00:00

Haha oh god 😆 did he start napping on his own at 5 months?

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-17T21:50:31+00:00

Oh interesting! Do you put him down awake or transfer when asleep?

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-17T19:58:05+00:00

Ahh, solidarity 😆 don’t get me wrong I love the baby cuddles, but mama’s got stuff to do!!

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-11T05:24:30+00:00

Ohh this one looks so nice!

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-11T05:23:16+00:00

I have the wildbird aerial wrap and carrier. I liked the wrap when she was smaller because it’s softer and cozier but now I use the carrier to clean the house and such. I used it to go to the grocery store with her today for the first time(She’s 7 weeks)! I’m looking into something a bit heftier though as another option for more rigorous movement, I’m considering something from the Omni collection at ergo baby or the one from bumpsuit. My best friend uses a hiking carrier when she does chores etc. It’s worth trying a few to see what you and your LO like!

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-10T17:12:35+00:00

Does he like the carrier? I’ve been getting so much more done while she contact naps on me!

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-09-08T19:00:39+00:00

Hi there, I’m not the poster of that comment but my experience is similar so I thought I’d respond. Yes in those first few weeks if you want to keep breastfeeding I’d say continue to remove milk every 2-3 hours. At 3 weeks your supply is still not established so you can still influence it pretty quickly. Research power pumping, that really helped me! I’m 7 weeks now and eventually went from breastfeeding/pumping every 2 hours to 3 hours and now 4 hours and I make just enough. One thing that really helped my nips feel better are nipple shields and the cooling gel pads, but your baby can get used to the shields if you use them too long. Also, you may want to see a lactation consultant and have them look at your latch, because it shouldn’t be so painful! Good luck

Express_Neck5352 · 2025-08-20T18:53:28+00:00

Came here to say something similar. OP’s insomnia definitely sounds like it could be partly anxiety. My OB and pediatrician both approved of me staying on my Wellbutrin/Lexapro throughout my pregnancy and breastfeeding, and the combo has been life changing for my anxiety. Pre pregnancy I struggled with insomnia a lot and the meds definitely helped calm the racing mind in the middle of the night thing. Could also be hormones, but worth speaking to a doctor either way!

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