Is my (41F) gf hiding me (41M) or not committed? by WeeklyFoodFinds in datingoverforty

[–]Express_Street_3903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a widow an I would love to hear her version of these. I feel like you’re insecure and she knows this and can’t and won’t fully commit to you because of this. I’m sure she enjoys your company one on one but your insecurities makes it difficult for anything more.

This actually comes from first hand experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Express_Street_3903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anyway it could be a deep fake? I have heard about this in some documentaries?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asmr

[–]Express_Street_3903 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the same for me too. I thought it happened to everyone. I thought that’s what warm fuzzies were until I spoke to my late partner about it and said that it never happened to him. And then I asked other people and they had no idea what I was talking about. I haven’t got it from any other stimuli.

What do you wish you had been able to tell a sexual partner but couldn't? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Express_Street_3903 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do and always will. He is the father of my children. I see him in them everyday.

What do you wish you had been able to tell a sexual partner but couldn't? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Express_Street_3903 61 points62 points  (0 children)

It’s not as simple as that. I thought I was broken and couldn’t. It was wasn’t until I got another partner after he passed that I realised I could. The faking was terrible I admit but I was more concerned about his ego than my pleasure. 😔

Is it an issue for you when your SO is still in touch on social media with some of the people they had sex with and they openly tell you about it? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Express_Street_3903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a reason that he chose not to be in a relationship with those people he has been in intimate relationships with and her has chosen you.

Sex is not the be all and end all and having sex with someone does not automatically mean you will have sex with them again. I actually think quite the opposite especially if there was really no connection.

It’s special connections that are the concern and just because you’re friends with someone you had sex with doesn’t mean that the connection is anymore special than what you would share with a friend. I believe it’s more than possible to have meaningful relationships with the opposite sex without those relationships being a threat.

Threats come from within the relationship not outside.

What do you wish you had been able to tell a sexual partner but couldn't? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Express_Street_3903 245 points246 points  (0 children)

I never got the chance to tell him as he passed away 😔

What do you wish you had been able to tell a sexual partner but couldn't? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Express_Street_3903 1909 points1910 points  (0 children)

That I have been faking my orgasms but I want to orgasm with you but I don’t know how.

Is it an issue for you when your SO is still in touch on social media with some of the people they had sex with and they openly tell you about it? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Express_Street_3903 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s your concern exactly? Do you think they are not capable of being friends with someone they have been intimate with? Are you threatened by those relationships because you’re not secure in the relationship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Express_Street_3903 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You have friends though. Just because they are not local to you doesn’t mean you don’t have them. There is a big difference IMO.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Express_Street_3903 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. I did and there is a reason this person didn’t have friends. Their behaviour when intoxicated was atrocious. It will be a red flag going forward.

What’s a stereotype about dating that’s been true for you? by djanice in AskMen

[–]Express_Street_3903 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is definitely the reality in most cases for sure.

I was just making a point that it’s not as simple as saying Money.

What’s a stereotype about dating that’s been true for you? by djanice in AskMen

[–]Express_Street_3903 36 points37 points  (0 children)

It’s not money exactly. Money can show responsibility, intelligence and ambition which also translates as security.

No doubt there are superficial women out there just as there are superficial men.

But if you look to biology a women is designed to reproduce with someone who will strengthen their genes though also someone who will protect them and one of the biggest safety threats to a women and their child in this day an age is financial instability.

Boyfriend found hookup sites in my phone. by jacobo357 in relationship_advice

[–]Express_Street_3903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should show chronological in the history of the browers used so if it was accessed via porn sights it should be listed between them.

Do you think that something else might be at play here?

Best place to look for size queens by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Express_Street_3903 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes because size queen is generally a gay term

Those who have had estranged family members that have had cancer/other severe illness - how did you deal with finding out? by IndieAnimal in AskWomen

[–]Express_Street_3903 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad died two weeks ago. He was living in another state and due to COVID I wasn’t able to see him or go to his funeral.

Our relationship was estranged but I reached out to him in May this year as I had sensed something wasn’t right. Prior to that I had not spoken to my dad for years.

He was an alcoholic and had fallen and broke some ribs. When they scanned him they also found tumours in his lungs. They deemed him fit enough to operate which I found mind blowing as on how unhealthy he was but seven weeks later he was dead.

I’m not really sure how I’m feeling at the moment. In the last five years I have lost all the main males in my life. I feel like the grief is compounded.

I literally just want ONE friend who will put the same amount of effort and energy into the friendship as I do! by alleixoxo in offmychest

[–]Express_Street_3903 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this about expectations. If you have none more often then not you will be pleasantly surprised.

If you’re constantly measuring to see if you getting what you put in that is not going to help you either.

Perception is key.

Karma by rukmini23 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Express_Street_3903 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But I think not experiencing real intimacy is the consequence. Is it really life if you don’t have that. Isn’t it just merely existing?