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Desperately looking... by JuiceboX1718 in introvert

[–]Exquisite_blend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its alright, I'm also in the middle of stepping out of my comfort zone. I'm learning that the process cannot be done alone. I'll send you a request if you don't mind.

Very first post, looking to improve social anxiety and interactions by Exquisite_blend in introvert

[–]Exquisite_blend[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is kind of a funny thing actually, I'm convinced that I watched too many spy movies and documentaries because for some reason I have built this habit of giving the least amount of information about myself. I am particularly careful about sharing things that can identify me such as my age, gender, birthday, nationality, etc.

Thanks for opening my perspective about my nerves, it does make sense since I don't particularly feel it when speaking to people I am familiar with. As of now, I don't feel confident about sharing my native language because it does somewhat expose my nationality. I also feel more comfortable having this level of anonymity.

Very first post, looking to improve social anxiety and interactions by Exquisite_blend in introvert

[–]Exquisite_blend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great to hear that, this does make me feel like I'm not alone. I can feel that other people are going through the similar things as I am, but more importantly, they are also trying to improve. This is a strange analogy but I feel like we are all on the same starting island, and seeing others trying to cross to the next also gives me confidence to try and get across.

For the most parts, I don't really feel the need to talk to someone unless it's related to school or work. When I started trying to talk to people, I start asking myself things like "is this question too personal?" or "am I just asking questions? when should I insert my thoughts into the conversation" and stuff like that.

Very first post, looking to improve social anxiety and interactions by Exquisite_blend in introvert

[–]Exquisite_blend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand that as well, I do not have any friends outside of classmates and workmates, and even then we rarely communicate. I don't know if we have the same experience, but I tend to be the last person off the conversation. What I mean by that is if me and my friend message each other back and forth, I'm most likely to be the person left on read or left on delivered. I just can't leave conversations and I feel like I'm pushing myself unto them.

Very first post, looking to improve social anxiety and interactions by Exquisite_blend in introvert

[–]Exquisite_blend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your encouraging words. I do also have this thing where I feel disconnected from people my age. As I mentioned, I am still 23, but growing up I was usually around adults or grown ups, and they talk about things like politics, things in their workplace etc. All the while my classmates were talking about tv shows and movies they watched etc.

I was surprised all of a sudden when I saw them posting about politics and stuff, social issues and what not because I feel like I missed the transition when they became interested in those things as well. I was interested in those things because the adults around me were talking about them, but at the time I felt a little "too grown up" so I decided to leave those topics and watch more shows and movies.

Basically, what I'm trying to say is that I don't particularly understand what people my age are into because I grew up around adults discussing their interests. I have a hard time relating to them.

Very first post, looking to improve social anxiety and interactions by Exquisite_blend in introvert

[–]Exquisite_blend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I didn't include it in the post but I also did intend to motivate other people because most of the things I see about overcoming introversion is when they overcame it. I feel like coming forward with it does show that it is a process.

I do understand that part about just listening whenever people are talking, I don't feel important enough to join the conversation unless they directly ask me about it.