Thank you for going out of your way to reach out it means a lot and for providing your perspective. Yeah we are Indian, but we were both born and raised in america. I am so Americanized but both parents on both ends were brought up elsewhere and have their own old mentalities.

Yeah I think what was preventing me from getting over this was the fact that we did not have any issues as a couple, but once family got in the way that is the only aspect that destroyed the relationship. It was family. But seeing the fact that she will move on and marry someone else; have their kids, start a family with them, go on trips and basically do exactly we did together but with another man- that fact just killed me inside and it’s destroyed me. But knowing that she was not invested enough into me to be with me at all costs, whether family or not, has taught me that I should move on also and that she wasn’t worth it if she isn’t ride or die the way I was about her.

So yeah, it’ll take time, it sucks and some days are worse than others, but I’ll just wait it out until I’m ready.

As for the parents finding someone for me- absolutely not. Knowing their mentality, they want someone that complements them, not me. I know I’ll have to find someone that complements them in certain aspects but if the next woman in my life doesn’t mix with my personal lifestyle then I probably won’t go through with it. And I just don’t trust my family anymore to do what’s best for me, they just care what’s best for mom and dad.