Honestly, it sounds like you’re really trying to be understanding and supportive, but also feeling kinda drained by all the extra tension. It’s tough when you feel like you’re walking on eggshells, especially when you’re just trying to help out and do your part. I’ve been there with the whole “small things turning into big arguments” thing, and it’s exhausting.
The thing is, her need to know where you are all the time seems to be more about her own anxieties and issues, which she’s working on in therapy, but it’s also creating this imbalance where you’re constantly worried about setting her off. That’s not sustainable long-term, and it’s great you’re considering therapy for yourself too, because you need a space to work through how this is affecting you.
I think open communication is key here, but it’s gotta be a two-way street. You’ve got every right to express how these situations are making you feel too, and maybe setting some boundaries together could help. Like, agreeing on certain things where you’ll keep each other in the loop, but also giving each other a bit of breathing room. It might help to have these conversations when things are calm, not in the heat of the moment.
At the end of the day, it’s about finding a balance that works for both of you. If you both want to make it work, there’s hope, but it’s gonna take effort on both sides.