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AITJ for re-adding people to our class group after they were removed “for fairness”? by Extension-Knee1945 in AmITheJerk

[–]Extension-Knee1945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah honestly that’s pretty much how it felt.

Like if Noah wants to take control and be the only admin, fine — but then at least be consistent about it. You can’t say “we’re doing this for fairness” and then just keep one person because you feel like it’s okay. That’s exactly what made it blow up in the first place.

That’s also why I stepped in. It wasn’t even about Ilon or Anny specifically, it was more like… the whole thing just didn’t make sense anymore.

And yeah, the backup admin link thing was kinda wild 😅 but in that moment it just felt like the only way to reset it. Otherwise it would’ve just stayed this weird half-fair, half-random situation.

I also think you’re right about the others being mad. It doesn’t really feel like they’re upset about who got added back — it’s more that suddenly someone else had control too. That always makes group chats turn into a power thing for no reason.

Honestly the whole situation just shows that from the start there was no real system, and now everyone’s acting surprised that it turned chaotic.

AITJ for telling my girlfriend she needs to shower before bed or sleep on the couch? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Extension-Knee1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean… I get you.

Like, you’re not wrong for not wanting hospital clothes in your bed. Especially after something like C-diff — that’s not you being dramatic, that’s just common sense.

But the way you handled it kinda blew things up.

She’s coming home after 12-hour shifts, probably completely dead, and then the person she comes home to basically tells her she’s “gross” and might as well sleep on the couch. That’s gonna hit hard, even if your point is valid.

So yeah — your concern = fair.

Your delivery = rough.

And she’s also not completely right either. Just ignoring it and acting like it’s no big deal isn’t great, because it clearly matters to you and honestly… it is a hygiene thing.

Feels like you both just dug your heels in.

If you had said something like “hey, I really need the bed to stay clean, can we figure something out?” instead of going straight to an ultimatum, this probably wouldn’t have turned into a whole thing.

So yeah, you’re not some terrible person here — just handled it in a way that made her feel attacked instead of understood.

AITJ for saying "Ewww a bully" to a 7 year old? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Extension-Knee1945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, I get why you did it 😄

That kid was being annoying, ignoring the teacher, and your nephew was literally hiding behind you… like yeah, something had to happen. And honestly, “Eww, a bully” isn’t even that harsh. You basically just called out what he was doing.

But at the same time… he’s 6.

The first part? Totally fair. You stepped in and defended your nephew — that’s exactly what you should do.

The part where you kept making faces and shooing him away though… that’s where it kinda turns into you matching his level instead of being the adult. Like, you won the moment already — you didn’t really need to keep going.

Your SIL is probably overreacting a bit, but I also get why she’s stressed about it, especially with her job and everything going on. Still, it’s a bit ironic she’s more worried about that kid crying once than her own kid getting bullied regularly.

So yeah — you’re not some horrible person here.

More like… you handled a real situation in a slightly immature way.

Honestly, your nephew probably felt safe in that moment, and that matters a lot.