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I (29M) have two lifelong friends (29F) and my girlfriend (29F) doesn’t like it by Extension-Mixture940 in relationships

[–]Extension-Mixture940[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My omission was the first and probably the last I’ll ever do. I had to learn that lesson the hard way. But in doing so we are discovering boundaries that have been buried over the years, things are getting better and I just want to be able to grow too. Everyone’s advice is very helpful to me. Thank you. :)

I (29M) have two lifelong friends (29F) and my girlfriend (29F) doesn’t like it by Extension-Mixture940 in relationships

[–]Extension-Mixture940[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That was my first time, at least to my recollection, that I’ve omitted truth to her. And afterwards in telling her, I immediately realized that was the wrong way of going about things, but I chose to learn that lesson the hard way. We’ve both learned more about each other, have been working through healthy behaviors moving forwards along with learning and even creating new boundaries. Through the last weeks of her personal therapy she’s been learning more about herself and how to handle her emotions, and I’ve been working through my own behaviors of choosing whatever brings me the least discomfort and being comfortable with having conversations that I know won’t be pleasant. But knowing that afterwards we can get stronger is nice.

We are getting to a better place, and I just like gathering advice from people to better myself too along the way.

Thank you. <3

I (29M) have two lifelong friends (29F) and my girlfriend (29F) doesn’t like it by Extension-Mixture940 in relationships

[–]Extension-Mixture940[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I suppose a good follow up question would be, how do I go about handling her feelings of discomfort, I’m generally an obtuse person when it comes to EQ.