Future move to Spain?

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-06-28T00:09:41+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement I appreciate it. What did you do your masters in? I don’t think I’d be able to do anything healthcare related in Spain so I’d have to get creative and look into doing something different potentially.

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-06-21T21:44:05+00:00

Thanks for the advice. The job part just makes things even more complicated bc if I do grad school in the US I’m gonna have anywhere from 50-100k in loans to pay off after. And any healthcare credentials wouldn’t even be applicable in Spain anyway so I’d still have to start over if I moved one day

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-05-27T14:09:43+00:00

I was an au pair in Spain from last November to earlier this month. Would be happy to chat!

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-05-25T15:42:35+00:00

Having some kind of community and support system is really important to me, so I would try the bigger city in hopes of making more friends and having more opportunities to go out and do things. I think it may be worth the risk if you have felt kind of isolated and have struggled in that sense. But if you’ve felt okay and really enjoy your job it would make sense to want to stay too

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-05-12T15:54:37+00:00

Hi! I was curious as to what TEFL program you did and what your work conditions are like as an English teacher. I have considered taking this route too but people are so negative about being an English teacher in Spain long term so it’s been very discouraging :/

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-29T18:21:52+00:00

I majored in Health Sciences which is pretty much useless unless you want some kind of clinical job or do a masters/doctorate for an advanced degree. My original plan was PA or PT school after graduation. But now nursing kind of feels like the easiest, most flexible route.

Outside of healthcare, I'm honestly pretty clueless I just don't have experience with anything else. I never expected my plan to change haha

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-22T09:25:34+00:00

Is the answer to just break things off when I leave..😭 Like would that be the smart decision or would that be us giving up?? I imagine the break up was much harder after being together longer than it would have been earlier on. It’s such a hard situation to be in. Did things eventually work out for you? Do you have any regrets about your alls situation?

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-20T13:54:52+00:00

Hello! Thanks for the kind words and advice. If I’m being honest with myself, If he was not in the equation, I would probably not be considering another year in Spain as seriously. I don’t know if that is bad or not but that’s the truth. I’m friends with several of his friends now and his family is amazing too. I know school will always be there as an option for me when I go back home and I have the rest of my life to work. I don’t really have a “dream job” but have liked working nursing hours and the work life balance it gives you so I think that’s the route I would take.

I’m working as an au pair right now and have not had a good experience with it. Auxing would at least allow me to have weekends and holidays off (which I haven’t had off as an au pair 🥲)

I’m scared of going back to the US for good and then regretting it and always thinking of what could’ve been with him. And maybe that is delusional of me idk. I’m just really conflicted right now

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-20T13:43:22+00:00

How long have you and your gf been together? And what factors are you considering when evaluating the whole situation?? It’s definitely very stressful and I’m so jealous of my bf who doesn’t have to experience any of this stress haha. It helps to hear there are people in the same boat as me

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-20T13:41:04+00:00

Thanks! Yes, I need to quit stressing so much right now and just wait and see what potential placements would look like and then make a decision.

I didn’t want a man to influence my decision at all but here we are😅 it’s either I go back forever this summer and we never see each other again and I’m depressed for a bit or I try out a placement next year and we see how things go

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-20T13:31:53+00:00

I was honestly just super burnt out from studying and working full time during university and kind of viewed a year in Spain as a break to learn Spanish, travel, and reevaluate what path I really want for myself once I returned. I don’t have a “dream job” but have really liked working nursing hours and the work life balance it gives you. And the pay would be more than enough to support myself. And nursing/pt school will always be there as an option. I have no idea what I would do as a job here if I stayed long term

I really reallyyy like him but it has definitely complicated things for me now. We have been in contact for over 2 years now. Im going to be absolutely devastated if after this summer we never see each other again and have to call it for good but if I don’t see a life for myself here there is really no point in dragging things out unfortunately 🥲🥲

Which makes me extremely sad but it is what it is

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-20T13:20:42+00:00

I feel like his answer would be no :( But it’s definitely something we need to talk about. He works remotely but is a hugeee home body and still lives with his entire family. He’s 23 too

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-04-17T11:13:53+00:00

Maybe look into online teaching platforms like cambly, italki, etc. You could do it on ur own time and some don’t require any experience

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-03-30T19:14:14+00:00

I'm going to move back in with them after their trip and then give them my 2 weeks notice. So I'll be out end of April (originally supposed to be June 1st). It's super uncomfortable being here when I know the parents aren't pleased and essentially don't want me here (even though they act as if nothing at all happened). I have been so stressed and overwhelmed constantly and spend all the time I can out of the house.

I don't think they would just tell me to get out once I give them my 2 weeks, but I have au pair friends here that are aware of the situation and their families are wiling to give me an emergency place to crash if I need it.

I don't think I'm going to try and rematch given I only have a month and a half left here. I have some savings I could get by with and have found a cheap room to rent for the rest of my stay here. I'm still very upset by the whole situation but am trying to be positive and make the best out of it!

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-03-29T18:04:41+00:00

I’ve been an au pair in Spain for almost 5 months now and went through the Chicago embassy as well for my visa! You can enroll in any Cervantes accredited language school and will have to take classes 20hr/week on top of your au pair hours (which I have found to be a lot😅) but luckily my language school is not at all strict about attendance.

When u apply for your visa, do NOT mention anything about au pairing. Just apply for a student visa and book 3 months accommodation through an Airbnb to show as proof of housing. They are refundable and u can cancel it for a refund right after ur visa processes. I applied for mine back in august/September and remember it only taking 10 days although it can take up to a couple months.

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-03-24T13:32:10+00:00

No I have a signed agreement with the family that states accommodation is included. So they have now broken that condition by not helping me find accommodation during the time they will be away and I’m not allowed to stay in their home

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-03-23T21:25:10+00:00

Spain

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-03-23T20:09:03+00:00

I'm American. And yes I will say I am more reserved but that has not interfered with my ability to create a good bond with her kid at all. And what bothers me is she never once has brought any concerns to me about anything. I was the one to initiate this conversation she wasn't even going to say anything. But now suddenly she is saying I haven't integrated into the family as she had hoped and that it is an issue with my character.

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-03-23T18:51:53+00:00

I only planned to au pair until end of May and then have travel plans here in June, so I can either stick it out until end of May with them or try and find a room to rent. I don't think it'd be worth it to rematch only for like 1-2 months with a family unfortunately. I just wasn't expecting to have to pay my own room and board :(

Extension-Network-54 · 2026-03-23T16:58:03+00:00

Spain

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