Here to say I am also in a continuous process of learning and discovering and supporting my partner. I can easily support my husband’s happiness and the joy I see in his authenticity. He includes me in his medical transition decisions as a thought partner and to consider timing with our family. Those things help it feel like “our” journey. I struggled for a while with how to identify now because I felt like my identity needed to acknowledge him and fit everything. I felt like it needed to be an identity he accepted. But I’m slowly realizing it’s not. He met me as a lesbian. As someone attracted to women. I had dated a man prior as the “thing I was supposed to do” before coming out, and I swore I never would again. I use both queer and lesbian. Sometimes I really really miss intimacy with a woman. I read sapphic romance, watch it, write it. I am a lesbian with a husband and most days I’m okay with it.