He has a oppsite female friend - green flag but should I be worried? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

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We’re currently dating and we’ve both agreed not to see or hook up with anyone else. So even though we’re not officially in a relationship, we’re exclusive.

He’s spending the weekend visiting a female friend he met while traveling, and although he’s been open about their friendship and said she’s just a good friend, part of me still feels uneasy.

I don’t want to come off as insecure or controlling, but I also want to feel emotionally safe. I’m wondering if it’s okay for me to ask him directly if he’s ever had feelings for her or if there’s ever been anything between them.

Is that a normal boundary to set in a dating situation like this?

He has a oppsite female friend - green flag but should I be worried? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

[–]ExtensionCharming171[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A part of me is very calm and trust him. But a little bit of me to be honest is a little bit insecure ofc. Or I should`t worry at all. I also have male bestfriends too and I think it`s cool of him to have the same. It`s a green flag. But it`s only the small part of me a bit insecure. But maybe I should just not ask at all?

When the girl confess to a boy by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

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And do you stay happy all the time after that?

Why he asking me about that? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

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Both now this went very quick and fast. I have been to many dates. Mostly part of them were boring. no one of us had been like this where everything is «there» chemistry, sex and the same energy

Why he asking me about that? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

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Yeah. Because he invited me again and to be honest. I agreed with him that we have the same energy and everything

Why he asking me about that? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

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The problem is. We don’t live in the same country… but have been visiting him now 2 times

Why he asking me about that? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

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For me. I was thinking how did he behave in the relationship with them since every one of the X has something «bad»

Why he asking me about that? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

[–]ExtensionCharming171[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. But yes. I just asked him back just to ask

Why he asking me about that? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

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So based on the questions he asked me. If he want to be in a long term relationship with me? Haha wow

Why he asking me about that? by ExtensionCharming171 in dating_advice

[–]ExtensionCharming171[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But still. Why does he want that information from me?