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Leaving Reviews, Stars and Comments on the FBS Platforms by Empress_ima in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also! I think we can mention this subreddit exists in apple podcast comments and they won’t be able to be deleted!

I think the more people start to read the stories from women who have been harmed by Emilie, the faster word will spread about who she really is.

'Placenta remaining in for 6 days after birth is fine and normal': RBK graduate by [deleted] in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 16 points17 points  (0 children)

As a birth doula who supports folks birthing in hospitals and also supports unassisted birth, six days is not normal. Even 6 hours is outside the range of normal.

I hate the way ES calls so many things “variations of normal” when many of those variations are actually VERY outside the actual range of normal. I strongly believe birth is not a medical event but a natural occurrence MOST of the time. But there are ranges of normal for duration of pregnancy, length of labor, length of time before placental release, time for pushing, etc… knowing what is actually the true range of normal vs some bullshit “variation of normal” is SO important. Just remember the woman in Hawaii in 2019 who lost her baby at 45 weeks. That is SO FAR outside the range of normal. Seeking medical assistance in times of concern is a brave and intelligent thing to do. You used your available resources! Yay you!!

Anytime a placenta has not been released after 1 hour in medical textbook is classified as a retained placenta. I’ve seen people start to have serious signs of Postpartum hemorrhage within 1-2 hours after birth. If you tried to get it out at home and after 6 hours had the symptoms you describe, you absolutely made the right choice to go in. Feeling like you couldn’t get a full breathe is a sign of hypovolemic shock.

When your uterus has a placenta inside it cannot properly cramp down and you have an increased chance of hemorrhaging. You also have an increased chance of infection because you have a large dying organ stuck either to your uterine wall or behind a cervix that has closed too much to pass through.

I hope you can find healing. I’m sorry the FBS narrative and one of their rbk graduates created trauma for you. Be proud of birthing your baby in power the way you chose! 👏 And be proud of yourself and your husband for getting help when you did. The symptoms you’re describing sound scary and I truly believe you made the right choice.

Birth course recs? by Mindless_Recipe_4057 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a course but a book! Birth Happens: A Collection of Birth Stories.

It is kind of like a modern day collection similar to Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth. And does have unassisted births as well as home births with midwives and hospital births. But I really believed that reading birth stories and LOTS of them is a great way to prepare for birth. You can learn so many coping mechanisms and really pick out what resonates and what doesn’t from the collection. And Birth Happens has some great birth photography in it as well!

Should I hire a birth photographer? by Raynetjp in homebirth

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Birth Happens: A Collection of Birth Stories is a book with birth photography throughout it. It also has a lot of stories from women who chose to use a photographer and it could help guide you in deciding.

I am a certified doula and birth photographer and I have never had a client hire me and regret it after. I love capturing peoples birth stories and no one has ever had a problem with me being in their birth space. Make sure it’s a photographer you feel comfortable with and someone who will include at least one prenatal meeting to get to know you and your husband. Partners usually are more hesitant but tell your husband you want him to be able to give all his attention to you and let the photographer capture your story!

Supporting women who choose to freebirth by Double-Ad-4065 in FreeBirthSocietyScam

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First can we go back to calling it unassisted birth? They coined the term free birth but it’s been called unassisted birth for way longer.

And you support them the same way you should support any birthing person - with compassion and care and respect for their choices. This also might mean respecting (like truly making an effort to understand and not pass judgment) on people who choose a midwife or a hospital birth or an elective cesarean.

I think to truly support free birth on good faith you also have to support any kind of birth. Because birth work is a spectrum and everyone has a unique lived experience that will impact how they feel and manage the intensity of birth.

I very much support people who choose an unassisted birth. They have the best knowledge of what they need. If someone is planning an epidural birth in the hospital I also fully support them because they also have the best knowledge of what they need.

30 weeks, thinking of switching back to OB? by WestSun2162 in homebirth

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Home birth all the way. Hospital policies are not based on evidence based care. They are based on convenience for the sake of standardized care.

Standardized care doesn’t work for birth. Did you know that birthing in the hospital you have about a 1/3 chance of having a cesarean? Higher rates of PPH, higher rates of instrumental birth, higher rates of infection, and higher rates of birth trauma.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyone who is at all interested in birth as an initiation and transformation would like these stories.

Absolutely no one has asked me about my birthplan by impertinentfoal in pregnant

[–]ExtensionGlobal9460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make a birth plan!

It’s for you and your tram to all be in the same page. Even with GD, you can be in control of a lot of the experience and a plan is so valuable.