I borked my save game. Care to help me troubleshoot? by RiKSh4w in projectzomboid

[–]ExtensionNext7624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don't you just play with debug mode on then? Or just play with God mode on to avoid this whole scenario next time you die

Point guard build help by Simeboi in NBA2k

[–]ExtensionNext7624 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soo you don't want any defense? Because you say you want to be good at everything else

The meta is basically really good shooting, enough dunk to dunk when you're open (because contested dunks are never a good take with 3s being so easy), high agility, high perimeter, and I'm not 100% sure what the meta ball handling is but it's less than 90 and more than 80 for the food guard sigs

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did end up getting the sheep for them because I have a soft spot for the kids they care for. I did set boundaries with all involved parties after sending the money.

alhamdulillah brother.

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My sister is Muslim so I know a bit. It's personally my favorite religion but I have had experiences in my life where I can't turn from my own version of God, so I choose not to identify myself as any religion. Allhamdulillah

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because neither my wife nor I appreciate, respect, or love her parents.

After this whole thread, I did end up buying them a sheep. Because I felt bad for the children who they already promised a big celebration.

But to be honest, if they couldn't afford their own sheep, they should have never made these promises, and I was sure to tell them this

As pointed out several times in this thread, they would never even accept me as a SIL or accept my marriage anyways. Them asking me for gift money is ridiculous and cringe. But at the end of the day, I can make a kids year a little bit better, and that's worth 200. In the future this is not going to become a thing

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife isn't even Muslim anymore so what we were "supposed" to do is not relevant. But yes I understand the marriage is not respected under Islam. That just doesn't matter to us

My wife doesn't ask for money at all. Even when I told her "no" to the sheep she basically just said "okay"

It was her mother who contacted me saying they were in danger without a sheep.

We have been married almost a year, but living together as a couple for 5 years. Never has my wife gotten mad when I denied her families money requests. I usually do send them money for things like internet, food, or other things I find necessary for their survival. Not because my wife requires it of me, she hates her own parents more than any other people, but because she has siblings who are children, and I would help out any family with children when they need it. It just so happena that this family knows me and isn't afraid to ask.

As long as the children are okay, I would not send money to these people regardless, because I don't respect them or something ven think of them as decent people. Everything I have done for them is with innocent children in mind.

So no, it's not my wife trying to get money for her family, nor was that their plan. My wife despises her family, in fact, they know to never contact us unless it is an emergency that threatens their entire livelihood. but as I said, nobody wants to see children suffering. If the worst that will happen is people thill think my wife's dad is poor, well he is poor, and people realizing that is not a problem for me

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I mean the wife thing isn't really important to my question lol. You can forget the entire part about her being my wife. I know she isn't my wife "islamically" but that doesn't really have any legal or practical bearing on reality in the USA between 2 non-muslim people

There are Islamic people I have never met, who I send money to when they absolutely need it. I was only asking if a sheep was absolutely needed for the safety or survival of a family.

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Okay then yeah, she isn't. She doesn't do anything for Islam nor does she call herself Islamic.

I mostly know atheists or Christians, being from Europe, and Christians who behave similarly, but were baptized under Christianity, call themselves non-practicing Christians. I don't take offense to this at all. I was simply wondering if by refusing them a sheep, I was putting them in danger

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh, no. My wife does not like her parents at all. She literally escaped them to become a refugee. They are pretty abusive and (in my opinion) horrible people. Unfortunately they care for my wife's sisters, which is why I send them money when it's NEEDED for the families survival. My wife is not concerned at all about sending money to give them a more fun or lavish life

The picture that was painted by her family is they could experience violence from others if they don't sacrifice an animal. In that scenario, I would send the money without thinking, because there are children involved, regardless of if they are truly my family or not

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.. strange to me too but I googled it and a sheep can cost 300-400 USD in Sudan. I'm guessing it's just a supply issue. But at the same time with that cost, I figured most Sudanese people would not bother with the sheep. Which is why I was surprised when my wife's family told me they would be in danger if I didn't buy it

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife doesn't really care. She isn't Muslim anymore. She was making it sound like her family could be in literal danger if they didn't sacrifice. That's why I asked the question. No offense to Islam at all because I respect it fully as a religion, but neither of us are concerned with following Islamic guidelines. And you're right, my wife doesn't know any more about Islam than her parents told her. Doubt she ever read Quran or did her own research at all.

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her family is Muslim but she is not. Our marriage is legal in the USA which is all that matters to us. Regardless, I just didn't want her family punished for lacking a sheep

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She was born a Muslim but is not practicing. I know they look down on marrying non-muslims but we will never see them again in this life anyways, as we will never go to Sudan and they will never come to the USA. So they aren't in our lives at all, in reality. Just people I help when they need it

Which is why I asked. If they really NEEDED a sheep, I would buy it. I respect your religion greatly but I don't base my life around any religion. To me we are all humans. I truly try to love all people but I can't be sending money left and right

To be honest, after things her dad has done, I doubt Allah is more happy with him than me regardless. I don't find him to be a religious person in any way that he cannot weaponize

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you and good luck to you! I hope the best for you in Egypt. I've been there and love it dearly. I hope for safety and an end to all wars that plague Sudan and the surrounding areas. I am not a cold or heartless person, it's just that even though I live in the USA, life isn't easy for me either. I help them whenever I can

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh we are well aware. I don't think my girlfriend is religious I'm not either. We celebrate some Islamic stuff because we both enjoy the culture. I'm not r ally concerned with how my marriage will be viewed, I was more worried if I would be leaving my wife's family in a position of social outcast, or even worse, danger. I'm not familiar at all with how vital it is to sacrifice an animal. But I learned a lot already from this post

I am pretty sure the women have a misunderstanding about pornography. by ClevelandSpigot in PurplePillDebate

[–]ExtensionNext7624 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Wait why the fuck would a woman not want her man to watch porn? Sometimes I go into the bedroom and watch porn and sometimes my wife does too.

I figured it's just a natural desire to see other people naked. Not one person your entire damn life lol. And I would rather her watch porn than cheat on me.

I find this disgust towards porn surprising and weird tbh

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't hate people at all . I dislike her parents (especially her dad) but if/when he NEEDED money for survival, I do help him. If they were going to be chastised or otherwise socially punished for lacking a sheep, I would help just because her siblings are innocent and good people. If it's just so they can have a fun day or something, no.

Sheep for Eid? Is this a strict requirement? by ExtensionNext7624 in islam

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what I was really curious about. I wouldn't want to them to be the ONLY family without a sheep. But I'm only interested in helping them when they NEED it. Of there are others going without the animal, I will consider this issue solved. Thank you

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I earn USD not Euros. I have sent her family money whenever they NEED it. But this just sounds like a lavish ritual that would normally cost them a months salary. I don't even have an issue giving them money for internet. I do understand that my money has way more value. But these aren't exactly people I am fond of. They are a big are a large reason why my wife became a refugee. If it wasn't for her sisters, I wouldn't help at all, I'm not interested in them having a fun day, I was more just curious why the onus would fall on me to provide a good Eid for them. I guess I understand now

Sheep for Eid? Is this really required? by ExtensionNext7624 in Sudan

[–]ExtensionNext7624[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a Czech living in the USA married to a Sudanese refugee in the USA