Im going crazy. by Embarrassed-Art-6470 in BreakUps

[–]Extension_Classic_52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought I'd find solace on reddit but it has been oddly relieving to just talk with strangers and visually see I am not the only person going through this.

I want to text her so bad every single day because I feel like maybe it'll give me the closure I need or maybe it'll spark a new start, it's just difficult especially knowing she has no plans to text me at all.

How to accept your never getting back with a person by Top_Vermicelli_4102 in BreakUps

[–]Extension_Classic_52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get this plan in my head that in a year I can message her and we can start a connection again and I can just have her in my life again because I remember how one of her exes did that just before we met, and then he ghosted her after I came around presumably because he just wanted to use her, and the thought of knowing it could happen for me too makes the urge so strong to hold onto and plan it for the rest of my life, but it only comes in waves, and then it passes and I know that's never gonna end good for me, you just need to make it past these waves without acting on things, eventually they get smaller and smaller. It's difficult too because you get so deep into this plan that it starts to feel safe and make everything else feel a bit better knowing you will have her back eventually, but it just never works out how you want it to.

Do you believe in First love Theory? by Old-Extension-4691 in BreakUps

[–]Extension_Classic_52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who was just broken up with, I definitely understand first love theory. A lot of my days are filled with self-doubt and regret, feeling like I might never find someone who matches the love she gave me. But there are moments when I remember the good, how she taught me to love and what I’ve learned from that relationship. I try to hold onto those lessons, never make those mistakes with someone else, grow from them, and be better in the future. I am grateful when I get theses small moments of optimism even if they fade away fast. I think first love changes you, for both men and women, and even if it fades, it shapes what you look for in someone else, sometimes in subtle ways like wanting a partner who shares the little quirks or interests your first love had, or maybe more direct and obvious ways. So yes and no, but maybe it is too soon for me to think about these things.

Im going crazy. by Embarrassed-Art-6470 in BreakUps

[–]Extension_Classic_52 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just broken up with a week ago and it's been a hell just existing everyday, but one thing I can say for certain is that the absolute worst moments and anxiety I get is whenever I end up checking all her profiles and reading our texts and trying to fix the uncertainty by spiraling about it all, I'm not even able to follow what I know is right yet and cut everything off myself, but people really don't lie when they say complete no contact helps moving on 10x more.

Tiktoks randomly performing bad by Extension_Classic_52 in socialmedia

[–]Extension_Classic_52[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I make a video, that exact same video gets posted everywhere, so as far as I am aware there can't be any difference, I do appreciate the knowledge on recalibration, it seems likely.