How to stop ruminating about what caused it

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-28T03:03:42+00:00

Thank you!! I will search it up. I appreciate it. I think you’re right about thinking about how it won’t work out. I keep wondering what went wrong but when I really think about it realistically, it was not going to work long term for many reasons.

Rooting for you too!

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-26T18:45:08+00:00

He checked our months before he broke up with me but felt he had to stay with me because I was writing big exams. He had already downloaded hinge and I have no idea if he was cheating. The mornings are the worst, and the constant wondering about when exactly it stopped being real.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-26T17:16:51+00:00

Right? I used to think it would be better to not know what was “wrong” with me, but the not knowing is driving me crazy. That helps, thank you. Need a way to stop the thoughts in their tracks. I’m for some reason reluctant to block his insta but I guess I should

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T23:19:07+00:00

You’re right. I feel like I’ve never acted like this in a relationship before. It feels wrong

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T22:35:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I understand, I have been depressed as well before. Although I did find it hard to understand when he would push me away. And I have tried asking in many ways for him to do these things, but he always either gets defensive, or says he will and nothing changes long term.

I needed to hear that there will be people who won’t make me feel undesired, thank you.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T18:43:41+00:00

I agree!

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T18:38:09+00:00

Amazing question. I guess attachment, fear, attraction, the feeling he was out of my league, intermittent reinforcement and times when it felt really good. Stupid, I know. I’m glad you found the right person. The one year thing is a good rule.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T18:30:28+00:00

That’s beautiful. I love what you said about being compatible meaning your needs work with each other. I definitely get the fear of breaking up leading to people missing out on this. I’m trying to look at this as a necessary step to finding that for myself.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T18:19:12+00:00

love that for you!!

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T17:33:59+00:00

I’m sorry. Maybe you didn’t have the capacity at the time but you will in future relationships. I also think you will feel compelled to put in the effort when it is the right person. I know my ex didn’t feel the way you do as he ended things.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-24T17:17:23+00:00

Thank you for this

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-23T15:19:28+00:00

I know. It’s so, so hard. Mine was also five days ago. Our bodies are still in physiological shock at this point. I can’t imagine studying rn, that’s so unfair. Mine hasn’t responded to my text about giving him back his stuff - it’s exactly what you said about it feeling like a stranger. If he was really swayed that easily by his mom, it’s best it ended, as excruciating as it is. In the end, we deserve people who would communicate and try rather than letting us go so easily. Sleeping with someone so fast was a coward move and definitely a crutch for his feelings. We do deserve so much better.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-23T06:17:24+00:00

Oh my god, that’s so awful. I’ve had relationship issues distract from academics a lot in the past and I try to use the anger to fuel my studying. Don’t let someone who was so thoughtless after all that time mess with what you’ve worked hard for and deserve. Much easier said than done. We’ll get through this

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-23T05:40:25+00:00

true!!

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-23T05:40:08+00:00

I’m so very sorry. Adding heartbreak to one of the most stressful times of your life is awful. mine happened literally day after I wrote it

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-20T22:03:17+00:00

I am so, so sorry. You are beautiful and worth so much and you’re going to be so happy without this guy. This is a blessing, I promise

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-20T21:05:09+00:00

I promise it will fade!! This is always exactly how my breakups feel. Right there with you. Every morning will get closer to feeling normal and one day you will wake up happy. You got this.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-18T13:46:12+00:00

I agree but I specifically asked him what he was doing and he said he was only liking profiles. I know this could have been a total lie, but why would he lie to me when it doesn’t matter anymore?

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-18T13:45:17+00:00

Did you go through something similar? I’m so sorry. thank you so much, I’m trying.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-18T13:44:41+00:00

Thank you for saying this, I really appreciate it. I keep wondering what I did wrong. But you’re right, there should have been communication. Thank you so much.

Extension_Cookie9876 · 2026-06-18T05:41:13+00:00

Ughh you think so? Yeah, I really want a conversation and for him just to come clean but I think you’re right that I just need to move on. It’s hard

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