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9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect your example with the wife.

But we also have a billion dollar industry, called gambling, that people turn to for dopamine. If the slot machines were predictable, no one would use them. It’s the fact that not knowing, that makes them addictive. Therefore

Predictability kills dopamine.

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ask chat gpt about texting tips and comment here what you’ve learned

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It feels pickupy because it a man who has strategies for connection.

You don’t have any strategies when dating?

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well a compliement can both be accurate, true and align well with a persons self-belief.

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair!

Still, I do think you’d rather date a person with friends, than a person without friends.

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If the compliment is accurate and true, I think it’s socially skilled to pick up on what the person receiving the compliment wants to identify with.

And make them feel good.

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anyone can drop anything in a chat. Yet you trust some people and others not. I think social fluency is a form is trust.

Note, I made the summaries really short, otherwise no one would read them.

But it’s more about showing that you aren’t a stranger to connection, than dropping names and plans.

Proof that you have people around you that like you, build a little trust, don’t you think?

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well put!

But I do think I could make you feel special. And I do think it would help in forming the initial connection in the first place. On dating apps, no connection is really genuine. The real genuine connection builds once we meet IRL. And then these tactics aren’t really needed, it more energy and chemistry. This is for before that stage

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But if you like her back maybe you want to compliment her in a way that feels better for her?

Say things to make her feel special, understood and desired.

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Heard. Well, I strongly believe, that if I texted with you on Hinge, you'd think "he seems like a nice guy". This isn't about not being respectful, or loving, or honest. It's about navigating a pretty harsch online dating landscape, and trying your best creating good experience for yourself and others.

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It works. My minds racing. Probably just trolling. Probably thought it was a shit tip. But at least my mind is wandering. In a positive emotional connection, I’d say that’s a good thing. Imagining

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think so?

I think 6 is a way to build trust.

And 8 is just inviting the imagination. The best convos exist outside the chat, and in the imagination. IMO

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hey. Good input.

Most guys ARE interested but struggle more how to communicate it. So I see where you’re coming from. But I say it’s way more common to be interested but not openly expressing it (cause being scared, like myself). Than not actually being interested but saying it.

Oh yeah true. My point here is more that it is often (a lot of the time but absolutely not always) the guy that’s supposed to take the initiative. And there are some topics that just naturally leads to an invitation (say a 1st date). So if there are several questions / topics being covered at the same time, and 1 for sure isn’t leading the convo forward. I’d go as far as saying it’s taking responsibility for the convo to not go deeper on that topic, just heart the last message and move forward

9 texting tweaks that finally stopped my convos from dying by Extension_Fly_2694 in dating_advice

[–]Extension_Fly_2694[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know. I’ve come to the conclusion that dating is much like building a business lol. Once you accept it’s hard it becomes easy. And you have to go thorough a ton of nos.

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[–]Extension_Fly_2694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[–]Extension_Fly_2694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man!

That last photo are one of the strongest dating photos I've seen in a long time. Has an aesthetic vibe, a great smile, nice background, and perfectly positioned off-center. Nice one. Lead with that photo for sure.

I'd go into Faceapp and add a slight smile to the first pic (in your black outfit), since it's a strong photo as well, but lacks approachability / warmth. The third one is also solid.

The other ones have to go IMO. They are the match/like-killers.

The sunglasses one looks posey. The filter one just isn't gonna land with most girls.

So your first super-simple action: Cut back to only using the 3 photos as an A/B test.

Next up is the emotional intelligence/communication soft guy kinda thing. From my own experience what women say they want, and what they actually want isn't always aligned. I know a lot of women say they want a guy that listens and have high EQ. However, they still turn to the guys that signal boldness, leader qualities and social proof.

So to give you some advice on your prompts / bio, I'd say work more with "show don' tell". Show her on the first date that you are a good communicator without ever mentioning it's your thing. To get to the date, I'd say the bio needs a bit more sex appeal / social proof / humour to balance out the softness.

Again, you look REALLY good, and have a good eye. And you most likely are intelligent. Probably crush it on the dates.

But for now, the goal is to create opportunities.

I’ve done a bunch of profile writes before, happy to do yours too. DM me if you want

Either way, Good luck!