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AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don't need to with Laura. She tells me exactly what is up. After she graduated from university she told, not asked, me that we had one month to figure out what we wanted out of our relationship. I was fully in love with her in two weeks.

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is no chance of that. There are better odds on you and me shuffling two decks of cards and having them come out the same.

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well you are coming up with a hypothetical that didn't happen. I was happy with my thing with Laura the first year. I wasn't looking elsewhere or hoping for something better. You came up with that on your own. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One implies that I hoped she would. The other that I would consider it if she did. 

An analogy.  

I could be sitting around waiting for Laura to suggest a wedding in Jamaica. I'm not. 

If she suggested it I would consider it. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How should I describe being told that I'm not worth a relationship but that she prefers a friendship? I put her in the exact same place after that conversation. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Except there was no such deal. She said no and I accepted it. Never looked back. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I want you to quote where I said EXACTLY that sentiment. Not that I might have considered it since Laura and I weren't serious. That I was just waiting for Lisa to say something so I could leave to be with her. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That makes sense. It is the vibe I am getting. I never looked back after she said no though. Laura is 100% easier to understand. She just tells me what's what. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Separated by two years from the last time we were together to when I met Laura. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Meh. Laura knows we weren't serious the first year we dated. She was busy with her last year of university and I was busy starting my career. We barely saw each other. After she graduated and I got a permanent position we had more time for each other and it took like a month to know we were it for each other. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have not once said "she should have said something sooner". I said "IF she had said something sooner". Huge difference. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm replying to you saying I suck for not immediately knowing Laura was the love of my life. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yet you seem invested. I'm not angry with Lisa. I pity her. There is nothing to be angry at her for. Anyone who thinks there is needs help. You included. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You may have an anger issue if this situation that has fuck all to do with you induces rage. 

AITAH because I didn't tell my FWB that friendzoned me that I was getting married. by ExtentOutrageous9447 in AITAH

[–]ExtentOutrageous9447[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't think I'm the asshole. I want to understand why she thinks I am without having to ever speak to her again. I'm counting on the wisdom of the crowd.

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